Autumn and Winter Check-in Challenge
He Han empathized with Luo Zijun, and the ten-year relationship with Tang Jing that did not achieve positive results is difficult for the audience of "The First Half of My Life".
After ten years of love, Tang Jing and He Han have been separated and united for various reasons, and if the two of them have a slightly bad experience together, they will immediately retreat to the position of just friends or comrades-in-arms, and it is often the adjustment and alienation of long hair for a year or two.
When both parties feel that they can temporarily let go of those unpleasant pasts and continue to fall in love, the two of them get back together, and it is still you who go around and around, Tang Jing and He Han's love seems to be very romantic, but it is actually not a healthy relationship.
The human heart is the most untested thing, and so is love, if you want to hold people's hearts and fall in love well, what you need is management.
Breaking up is like a wolf's game, splitting and merging come and go, which will only make the love between each other wear out, and the two people may not be together because of love, maybe it's just habit, maybe it's just unwillingness.
Just like He Han said when he proposed to Tang Jing, he was afraid that the sky would not fulfill people's wishes, and he was afraid that they would eventually be separated after being together for so many years.
To put it bluntly, he is unwilling to fall in love for so many years, but he has never been able to get a satisfactory result, so for so many years, He Han would rather play a pair of golden boys and girls to continue to be with Tang Jing than end this loveless love.
But what He Han didn't know was that he and Tang Jing could be together for ten years, which was actually the result of Tang Jing's constant "compromise".
Tang Jing is a strong woman, but she is also a woman, and she is like other women, she longs to get a lot of love, but she loves He Han, she doesn't accept the love of others, and she can't get He Han's love.
I've never eaten pork and I've seen pigs run.
Tang Jing has witnessed the love and affection between Luo Zijun and Chen Junsheng, and has seen the happy days when Luo Zijun was pampered and loved by Chen Junsheng, she knows very well what it is like to truly love someone.
So she knew that He Han didn't love herself that much.
She knew that she also longed for vigorous love, but all He Han could give her was what he called "the most affectionate companionship".
He Han said that no matter when and where, as long as Tang Jing comes back, he must be there, this sounds like nothing wrong, and even makes people feel He Han's tolerance and generosity, but after thinking about it, you will find that He Han actually doesn't matter, Tang Jing comes or goes, he has always waited for Tang Jing to choose by himself, he never takes the initiative, he has always been self-centered and holds the initiative.
So every time Tang Jing couldn't wait for He Han to stay, it was because she couldn't hold back her thoughts about He Han, put down her dignity and dignity, and returned to He Han's side with compromise, so that their love could last for ten years.
Women want to get a lot of love, if they can't get it, the money is good, this is the most secret pain in Tang Jing's heart.
Wholeheartedly engaged in a career and supporting herself is actually Tang Jing's last resort, her "sobriety in the world" is not innate, but the cultivation of ten years of love with He Han, people can only rely on themselves, others are unreliable.
But Tang Jing really loves He Han so much, she loves so much that she loses herself in the end, she loves so much that she makes compromises in this relationship, and she loves so much that even if she knows that He Han doesn't love herself, she doesn't dare to find out or say it, so she can only try again and again, learning how to leave him, but in the end, He Han learned to leave, but she didn't learn.
Therefore, in a relationship, only if the man is more active and proactive, and pays more, the happiness of the two people will be higher, more stable and longer.