Perhaps because the current problem of older leftover men is too severe, many towns and towns have investigated the problem of older leftover men and established statistical tables.
Each township not only counted the total number of older leftover men, but also learned about their age, work status, and reasons for being single.
Through the statistical table, we found that the main reasons why older leftover men can't marry wives are nothing more than the following 5.
When it comes to bride price, many older leftover men are indignant, because a large number of them regard it as the main reason why they cannot enter the marriage hall.
The bride price is an important part of traditional Chinese weddings. However, with the development of society, the amount of bride price is rising.
In many places in China, there is indeed a high bride price, especially in rural areas and Jiangxi, and the bride price has been speculated to hundreds of thousands.
For ordinary families, hundreds of thousands of yuan are almost equivalent to their life savings, and some families may not be able to make up this amount even if it takes decades.
Many older leftover men say that the high bride price discourages them.
They believe that the high burden of the bride price makes it difficult for them to bear it, which affects their married life.
To a certain extent, this phenomenon reflects the pressure on men in society, making them feel helpless in the face of marriage.
Survival of the fittest is the law of nature, and the human world is no exception.
To some extent, the marriage market is also a process of survival of the fittest.
In addition to material and physical conditions, physical condition has always been the basic condition for young people to enter the marriage hall.
As men age, their physical functions gradually decline, and their fertility is also affected.
According to the statistics of the National Department of Reproductive Medicine, male problems account for more than 50% of infertile couples in China.
Guangming Network has also published a report on the "best reproductive age for men", which mentions that men over the age of 35 not only have a reduced chance of conception, but also a decline in sperm quality, which will not only increase the risk of miscarriage for pregnant women, but also greatly increase the probability of negative impact on pregnant women and fetuses anyway.
Biologically, there are more than a dozen genetic diseases that are caused by the father's age.
In such a situation, many women prefer to choose a younger man as a partner.
Many older leftover men say they are often limited in their search for a partner because of their physical and fertility problems.
In addition, some men may also face health problems such as chronic diseases, which can also affect their married life.
Therefore, physical health is an important factor affecting the older leftover men to marry wives.
People are different after all, some men can quickly find their favorite other half no matter what kind of place they live in, because they know how to deal with people, and they know how to please girls.
And some men still can't get out of the single even if they live in a working environment where there are more women than men, which is inseparable from their communication skills.
There happened to be such an older leftover man next to me, although he wanted to step into the palace of marriage, but he has been in a state of blind date failure.
He didn't know how to communicate with people, so he watched as opportunity after opportunity slipped through him.
In modern society, interpersonal skills are increasingly valued. However, some older leftover men are deficient in their communication skills.
They may appear reserved and shy when interacting with others, and are not good at expressing their feelings and thoughts.
This communication barrier makes it difficult for them to find a partner. In addition, some older leftover men may also have problems such as poor emotional management skills and lack of empathy, which will also affect their marriage and love life.
To a certain extent, the marriage market is also a competitive market, and there is an inevitable competitive relationship between men and men.
Whether a person can step into the palace of marriage is inseparable from his economic situation, because people must face firewood, rice, oil, salt, clothing, food, housing and transportation in life.
Even if many women can tolerate their own hardships, they can't bear the hardships of their children from birth, so they will be more inclined to men with good material conditions when choosing their other half.
Whether it is free love or the blind date market, material conditions are often a man's confidence, because money determines a person's quality of life to a large extent.
For older leftover men, poor financial status means they may be limited in their search for a partner.
Some women take into account the financial strength of the other person when choosing a partner.
Therefore, the poor economic situation has become an important factor affecting the older leftover men to marry wives.
In order to improve their success rate in marriage and love, some older leftover men need to work hard to improve their economic level and improve their living conditions.
For most people, marriage is not just a matter of husband and wife, but a matter of three generations of a family.
When a woman gets married, she is not only choosing a husband for herself, but also choosing a father for her future children, so they will be very concerned about each other's living environment.
On the one hand, they can't stand the harsh environment themselves;On the other hand, they don't want their children to be born in a bad environment.
The living environment has a significant impact on a person's quality of life. For older leftover men, poor living conditions may become an obstacle for them to not be able to marry a wife.
Some older leftover men may live on the fringes of cities, or in areas at the rural-urban interface, where living conditions are relatively poor.
In addition, some older leftover men may also have problems in their family environment, such as tense family relationships and heavy family burdens. These factors will affect the marriage and love life of older leftover men.
Summary: The solution lies in self-improvement
In the face of the above five reasons, how should older leftover men deal with it?
First of all, they need to face up to the issue of bride price, look at marriage rationally, and not pursue material conditions too much.
If you can't pay a high bride price, then choose to ask for the opposite sex who does not have a high bride price, and you don't have to be too entangled in the bride price.
Secondly, we should pay attention to our physical health, actively adjust our lifestyle, and enhance our physical fitness.
Thirdly, we should strive to improve our communication skills and emotional management skills, and learn to communicate and get along with others.
In addition, we should strive to raise our economic level and improve our living conditions.
Finally, we should strive to improve our living environment and create a harmonious family atmosphere.
Only in this way can older leftover men get rid of the dilemma of "not being able to marry a wife" and find their own happiness.