By getting married, I controlled my husband and took down my in-laws, and the whole family held me
The early morning sun shone through the curtains on my body as I rode out on an electric car, and the destination was my fifth aunt's house, an opportunity to go on a blind date.
The man came from a wealthy family with a family of three, both of whom were able to earn money for the family. According to the matchmaker, his appearance is also quite attractive.
One of the most important things in a rural girl's life is to find a good in-law. If you have a suitable blind date, you should seize the opportunity quickly. Today I decided to go and see this person first, after all, the follow-up conversation is meaningful only if you fall in love with the other person.
As soon as I stepped into the door of the fifth aunt's house, I was greeted warmly. The fifth aunt appeared at the door with a young man. The young man seemed nimble, witty, neat and neat, and at first glance I had a good impression of him. 
In Xu Pengfei's introduction, he mentioned that he has an older sister who is married and has worked in Zhejiang for several years, and is obviously well-informed.
Without beating around the bush, I said bluntly: "I have no problem with you, if you are also willing, let's add a WeChat." ”
Xu Pengfei was a little stunned, it seemed that my direct girl might be the first time he had seen it, he patted his thigh and said: "Zhong, why are you so refreshing, I like this kind of character, it's neat, okay!."”
When I came back from my fifth aunt's house, my face was full of joy, and my mother smiled and said, "It's not for nothing to go out this time, Nier, you have found your future in-laws' house now?".”
Although I couldn't hide my joy, I pretended to be a little reserved: "It's okay, after all, I don't know how other people's homes are doing, let's go and see first." ”
After several meetings, Xu Pengfei invited me to his house as a guest.
Xu Pengfei's parents, both in their fifties, were very enthusiastic when they saw me, frequently calling "Nier" and inviting me to stay for dinner.
After he led me around, I found that although the courtyard was some years old, it was well organized. Behind the house is a flock of chickens and ducks, and in front of the house are two fruit trees, peach and apricot white.
The only thing that makes me a little dissatisfied is that Xu Pengfei lives with his parents and does not have an independent yard. In our side of the custom, in families with boys, parents will build a new house for their son early, and after marriage, they can live independently.
However, his parents said that they would find another land to build a new house, considering that he is an only child, and the family business will be passed on to him in the future, plus I have a good impression of Xu Pengfei, I will no longer care about these small things.
The marriage went well, and we had our wedding after the fall. I was 23 years old at the time, and Xu Pengfei was 7 years older than me, already 30 years old.
On the night of the wedding, I jokingly asked Peng Fei: "Your conditions are not bad, why did you wait until you were 30 years old to get married?"”
Peng replied wisely, saying that he had been working outside for the past few years and had not met the right person. Then he grinned and said, "Actually, I've been waiting for you." ”
These words made me feel as sweet as honey, and the wedding day was full of happiness. A few days later, we almost got into a fight over one thing.
Soon after the marriage, Peng Fei went out one night, but did not return late at night.
I asked my mother-in-law that he went to **, and my mother-in-law was vague, and said that she went to the town's small house for a while, and said that she had something to do with her cousin. She advised me to rest first and not wait for him.
As the new daughter-in-law, it was inconvenient for me to inquire around the whole village, lest people laugh that the bride could not do without a man, so I had to go back to my room and wait, tossing and turning all night.
After dawn, Pengfei went home drunk, looking anxious to go to bed, ignoring me completely.
Seeing that he fell to the bed in disheveled clothes, I was furious, and reached out and grabbed his collar: "We have only been married for a few days, and you have not returned all night, and you have gone to ** without saying a word?."Do you know I'm worried about you?”
I have always had a hot temper, my parents are busy with farm work all year round, and I am the boss who manages the affairs of the family, and my younger siblings are also very obedient, and I say everything at home.
Faced with my insomnia due to his disappearance, Pengfei pleaded and cheated. He said: "Good daughter-in-law, let me sleep for a while, yesterday I drank and played cards at Lao Liu's house, and a group of people made trouble until dawn, and now it hasn't ended, I'm in a hurry to come back for you." ”
I didn't go home to drink and play cards, but I was thinking about meI'm not used to that.
You've got to explain it to me today, or you don't want to sleep in peace!"I raised my voice and was resolute.
The mother-in-law heard the voice in the courtyard and spoke: "Pengfei is busy with wedding matters these days, and when he gets married, he has to express his gratitude to his friends, and it is normal to drink some wine once in a while." ”
I got angry and said unceremoniously, "What did you say?".Is it reasonable to drink and not go home?Mom, you're too indulgent of him. ”
Probably didn't expect me to fight back, but my mother-in-law heard that something was wrong, and immediately turned around and went into the house, and never said anything more.
Pengfei slept until dark, and the neighbor came to urge him to work, but he didn't get up for a long time. They had a project in the county to decorate the exterior wall, and he didn't go to work today, so he earned 200 yuan less.
With a stomach full of anger in my heart, I pondered in my heart: "A newly married man is like this, if he is not clear-headed, I will not be able to worry about it in the future." ”
I'm here to pursue a better life, and if drinking and playing cards becomes commonplace, how good can my life be in the Xu family?
When I returned to the room at night and looked at the sober Peng Fei, I said with a straight face: "Do you listen to me?".If you say yes, we'll set a few rules and live a good life. If you don't listen, you have to give me a clear reason, or I'll go back to my mother's house today. ”
He just spent money to marry, and if this new daughter-in-law runs away, it will be empty of both people and money.
Looking at my serious appearance, Peng Fei knew that he was wrong, he went to wash his face, didn't care about his mother-in-law calling him to eat, and sat down to listen to me.
I set up three rules: first, I can't go home at night for any reason, second, I can't get drunk when playing cards and drinking, and I can't play cards more than 10 o'clock at night, and third, I have to manage the money I earn, and I have to collect pocket money from me, and I have to negotiate with two people to buy large items.
I can't stress enough that these rules are for the good of both of us. Usually the bride will live separately from her in-laws after entering the door, although he is an only child, he cannot always rely on his parents to live, sooner or later he needs to be independent. I'm doing this for the future.
Seeing that I was reasonable, Peng Fei didn't speak for a long time. I threatened, "If you don't agree, I'll leave now." In the face of my resolute attitude, Peng Fei agreed.
The rules were established, and within a few days, he went to Taisho's house for dinner after work, but he didn't come back for a few hours, and I followed the sound and touched it.
The house was brightly lit, and a few young people were drinking and bragging, jokingly saying that Peng Fei didn't dare to drink with everyone anymore since he married his daughter-in-law.
I was upset when I heard this, and I opened the door curtain and shouted loudly: "Pengfei, I'm waiting for you to eat at home, why did you come out and start drinking again?"”
The people in the room fell silent, and Peng Fei's face was embarrassed. Maybe he had just been ridiculed by the hair boys, but he waved his hand impatiently at me: "You go back first, don't nag here." ”
Then he said to the crowd, "Ignore her, let's keep drinking." ”
The men laughed, and I was left to hang, ashamed and annoyed.
Seeing Peng Fei holding the wine into his mouth, I was ruthless, stepped forward and snatched the wine bottle, raised my head and poured a sip, and my throat instantly burned hotly: "Don't you want to drink?"I'll drink enough with you today!”
There was silence in the room, Peng Fei froze, I ignored him, and lifted the wine bottle with my hand, and "goo-doo" was full.
The situation was not right, Peng Fei stepped forward to grab the wine bottle, I pushed hard, and the second pot head smashed on the ground with a "bang", the wine bottle shattered, and the glass slag and spirits splashed everywhere.
The situation was bad, and Peng Fei jumped up and reached out to hit me.
There was chaos in the house, and the boys rushed forward to separate us.
My face was flushed, my hair was messy, and I reprimanded loudly without admitting defeat, and Dazheng saw that the situation was not right, and hurriedly dissuaded: "Pengfei, take your daughter-in-law away quickly, don't make trouble at my house." Drinking is for pleasure, and if the two quarrel because of it, it will be more than worth the loss. ”
Peng Fei stopped and walked out with a roar, and I followed behind, menacing.
Back in the yard, Peng Fei "squeaked" into the hut, ignored his mother-in-law's shouts, and refused to come out again.
I ignored him and went back to my room to rest after eating in the main house. In the middle of the night, Peng Fei woke me up and whispered, "Yan'er, it's me who is wrong and didn't follow the rules." ”
Hearing this, I was half angry, turned around and curled up in his arms: "It's good to know, remember next time, drinking and playing cards, say it's not big, it's not small." Excessive is a disaster, and we must be self-disciplined in order to live a good life. ”
Peng Fei didn't speak again, and the turmoil subsided for the time being. When I woke up the next morning, he had already gone to work.
My name is Huo Huoyan, and since then I have changed my name to "Huo Huo", and no one dares to drag Peng Fei to drink anymore.
Just after I got my hands on my husband, my father-in-law came back from out of town.
That night, I heard my in-laws arguing in a low voice in the house. In the northern countryside, dry toilets are built in the corner of the yard, which can be solved at home when I wake up at night in winter, and when it is hot in summer, I come out to go to the toilet and just hear something. 
My father-in-law took money with him every time he went home, and this time was no exception, but a day later, he borrowed money from his mother-in-law again, claiming that it was to pay off his gambling debts.
I was blown away by the news. Gambling debts are not a trivial matter, and it is okay to play cards in a small way, but the repayment of debts involves family property, which may lead to serious consequences such as divorce.
After listening carefully, I learned that my father-in-law wanted to borrow 8,000 yuan, but my mother-in-law refused to borrow it. The father-in-law was so anxious that he began to reproach his mother-in-law: "If the money enters your hands, you won't come out, what are you afraid of?"When I get back, I'll give you back ...... earned”
This turned out to be the upper beam was not right and the lower beam was crooked, no wonder Xu Pengfei went out to drink and play cards when he got married, it turned out that the father took the lead and the son followed suit.
I couldn't take it anymore and shouted "Dad, Mommy" and walked in unceremoniously.
The two old men were defenseless, startled by my sudden incoming, and their mouths were stammered, unable to speak. I unceremoniously began to reproach my father-in-law.
People say that a man is a rake, and a woman is a basket, and the family can prosper. Dad, of course the money you earn is important, but the money you earn also has to be managed by someone, come in three and spend two, so when can you save money?I was expecting you to build a new house.
The father-in-law was so embarrassed that his face was red and his neck was thick, and he stammered and couldn't say a word. Although it is inevitable that my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will quarrel, I will quarrel with my father-in-law, which may be rare in the whole village. After all, I didn't get it right in this matter.
Just as I was talking, Peng Fei suddenly broke in and grabbed me angrily: "What are you doing, running to my parents' house without sleeping in the middle of the night."
I shook off his hand and shouted loudly, accusing the old men. Taizheng, your liquor shop also plays cards from your father, the old is not the same, the small is not the same.
Peng Fei slapped me in the face with a backhand: "You are too much, just take care of me, and take care of my parents, you are too much!."Today I will let you know who is in charge of this house!”
I was stunned, I didn't expect him to dare to do it. When I reacted, I let out a scream and rushed up to scuffle with Pengfei.
Late at night, the neighbors were woken up, and shouts came from the courtyard wall: "Pengfei, don't sleep in the middle of the night, what kind of drama are you doing at home?"”
I went back to my parents' house in a huff and stayed for half a month, during which Pengfei did not come to pick me up. Because the slap was too heavy, I didn't want to bow my head and admit my mistake and take the initiative to go back.
As time went on, Mom and Dad started to worry. They advised me not to interfere too much with men, and to let go when it was time to let go. After all, a man wants to save face, and if you make too much trouble in front of his parents, he won't be able to accept it. Yan'er, you have to restrain your temper a bit.
I muttered, "How can I save money if I can't control it tightly?".It's all because my mother-in-law is too weak to control the two of them. ”
The father and son earned a lot of money, but they couldn't build a new house for so many years, and Peng Fei didn't get married until he was thirty years old, why?Isn't it because he has to spend it when he earns it, and his mother can't control it, so he squanders all the money?
I rebuked, "If you don't save more money now, when will you be able to build a new house in the future?"What did I marry Pengfei for?”
Listening to what I said, my parents were silent.
My dad hid it from me and went to Pengfei's house, I don't know what he said, but the next day Pengfei came to the door and took me home.
He gave me a step down, and I took advantage of the situation to restrain a bit. Stalemate is not the solution to the problem, I like Pengfei in my heart, noisy and noisy, just to live a better life, I have never thought about divorce.
When I got home, I was a little embarrassed. My father-in-law was quarreled with me, and when he saw me, he was a little afraid and became more polite.
A few days later, my dad suddenly called me to go home. It turned out that my brother accidentally reversed the car and hit a woman who was rushing to the market, although the injury was not serious, but his arm needed a cast. The other party proposed compensation, otherwise it would be reported to the traffic police for processing.
Since my younger brother has just learned to drive and has not yet taken the driver's license, if he reports to the traffic police force, it may be difficult to get a driver's license in the future, and he may even be detained.
My dad discussed with me to see if I could help pay the compensation, but the family couldn't come up with that much money for a while.
After returning home, I explained the situation to Pengfei, we have not been married for a long time, and the funds are limited, and he said that he can discuss it with his parents.
I was a little apprehensive in my heart, I had a quarrel with my father-in-law some time ago, and this time I begged to borrow money, and I felt a little embarrassed to go to my in-laws in such a situation.
I didn't dare to go to my in-laws in person, and waited anxiously in the house for the results.
Soon after, the in-laws came. I nervously stood up to greet me, and my mother-in-law took my hand: "There are 80,000 yuan in this card, take it to solve the urgent need first, not enough to say it, don't be too anxious." ”
I took the bank card from Gao Bangbang, and my heart instantly softened. I called "Mom" excitedly, turned around and called "Dad", tears couldn't help but welled up, and my in-laws comforted me repeatedly.
The father-in-law said: "Don't stand stupidly, tell your dad quickly, the money has been scraped together, let him rest assured, don't worry anymore." ”
I rubbed my eyes, and heard my father-in-law continue: "Who's family has nothing to do, let's discuss something, don't cry, live a good life with Pengfei, take care of him, and this family will depend on you to worry about it in the future." ”
I couldn't speak just in tears, and the usual pungent energy seemed to have run to the **.
My brother lost the money and went to the door to apologize, and finally an understanding was reached, and the matter was resolved peacefully. 
After this incident, I gradually realized that my in-laws' family is actually kind. Although men will inevitably develop some bad habits, as long as someone restricts them at the right time, everyone values the family as important. If everyone is heart-to-heart and work together to put the family first and maintain harmony, then the family will prosper.