Finally, at a family dinner, the conflict between me and my in-laws ushered in a breakthrough. This dinner was organized by my sister, and it was very lively. Our family is very happy, especially to see my sister and her children happily reunited with us.
I was a little dumbfounded for a while, thinking that I was a guest, why did I still have to pay in the end?So I politely refused: "Sister, today is your treat, why am I embarrassed to make me pay?"”
My sister was unmoved, she insisted that I pay the bill. I looked at her determined eyes, and there was some displeasure in my heart. At this moment, my husband joined the discussion, and he said to me, "Let's forget about it today, don't argue with my sister." ”
Nope!My sister's attitude became more resolute, "I said it, you have to pay today." ”
At this time, my anger was also completely ignited, and I directly refused: "Why should I spend money to buy unhappiness, I am here to reunite with you, not to bear the cost of eating." ”
Looking at the stalemate between us, the whole atmosphere of the dinner suddenly became a little awkward. No one spoke again, but an atmosphere of embarrassment enveloped the whole scene. My heart was full of grievances, even a little unhappy, and I felt that I had been offended.
I felt that I had been offended by my sister, and the displeasure and grievances in my heart made me sad. Although my relationship with my sister was a little strained after the dinner, I tried my best to keep a smile and didn't want to ruin the family reunion because of such a small thing.
When everyone was tasting the dishes carefully prepared by my sister one after another, my son suddenly said to me: "My sister asked you to pay for the thing, I think you are too much, don't you just pay the bill, why bother so much?".”
This sudden accusation made my emotions uncontrollable, and I replied with some anger: "Do I have to pay for it to prove my respect for my family?"It's a matter of principle!”
Don't argue, why bother with such a trivial matter. Seeing this, my husband hurriedly explained.
The little things?This is no small matter!The son protected his sister and said, "She is an elder, and you, as a junior, should have respected her wishes." ”
An indescribable dissatisfaction rose in my heart, and I felt that my sister not only embarrassed me this time, but even my son supported her, and I felt very wronged. These conflicts seem to be gradually expanding, and family relations are becoming more and more strained.
I could feel that the atmosphere at my in-laws' dinner suddenly became tense. The conflict between my sister and me made the whole dinner a little awkward. I looked at my loved ones around me and felt really uncomfortable.
At this moment, my husband suddenly spoke: "Sister, I'll pay for this meal." ”
Oops, don't talk about it. I hurriedly grabbed my husband, "We are all a family, why bother about this." ”
My sister looked at us, the firmness in her eyes disappeared, and it was replaced by a hint of apology: "I'm really embarrassed for you to say this, in fact, I am a little urgent today, so I want to ask you for a favor." ”
I heard the hidden feelings in my sister's words, and the grievances in my heart dissipated a lot. It turned out that it was because my sister was in a hurry, so she said this. I glanced at my husband and nodded slightly. Next, we and the rest of the family continued to enjoy the happy time of the dinner.
However, it was at this moment that an even greater contradiction arose. At the end of the dinner, when it was time to settle the bill, my mother-in-law suddenly said loudly to me: "You young people, you are not sensible, you don't know how to respect the old and love the young, and you actually let your mother pay!."”
These words suddenly made me feel a little aggrieved and angry. I looked at my husband, and he said with some embarrassment: "Mom, it's not that we don't want to pay, it's just a favor for my sister." ”
Help?You know these excuses, I don't think I want to pay for it!The mother-in-law's voice became more and more shrill.
In the face of my mother-in-law's rebuke, the anger in my heart swelled more and more, and I said, "Why should I spend money to buy it and be said to be so happy to do a favor with good intentions." ”
The entire restaurant fell silent. I didn't know how to alleviate this embarrassing scene, and Jiang's comfortable atmosphere just now instantly became deadlocked.
The next day, my husband and I sat down and discussed yesterday's events. I said to him, "I'm very unhappy with what happened yesterday, and it's hard for me to see my sister insist so much." ”
After hearing this, my husband was silent for a while, and then said, "Actually, I also think that my sister's behavior is not fair to you. But she did it with good intentions, after all, family relations. ”
After I heard this, my heart was hot, knowing that my husband was also trying to maintain family harmony, but I couldn't let go of it. "But that's too much, isn't it?I said.
Just as we were discussing this issue, there was a sudden ** sound. I picked up the **, but it was my sister who called. She sincerely apologized, saying that it was her who was not good and was a little impulsive. I was moved and helpless in my heart, and I knew that my sister was actually not feeling good in her heart.
At this moment, a sharp cracking sound came. My husband and I rushed to the kitchen and found that my sister had accidentally broken a valuable piece of cutlery. Her face was full of guilt, and the resentment in my heart vanished.
Don't worry, it's just a cutlery, I'll buy you a new one. I said to my sister.
My sister shook her head: "No need, it's just me who is careless, I will be responsible for myself." I'm sorry to let you see this mess. ”
Looking at my sister's hesitant look, I couldn't bear to say anything more. I know that this time it was not intentional, it was just impulsive. On the contrary, I regret my attitude a little because of yesterday's incident. I never imagined that conflicts in the family would be resolved by a small matter.
Sister, don't take it to heart, this can show more harmony and tolerance between our families. I smiled at my sister and said.
My sister looked at me with a flash of gratitude in her eyes. At this time, I understood that conflicts between families cannot last long. Family affection and harmony are the most important things.
Once upon a time, conflicts and disagreements between different generations and different family members in the family were common in family gatherings. Sometimes, these disagreements can last for years, or even a lifetime. At my in-laws' dinner, I suddenly felt confused and helpless about my situation.
I was a little dumbfounded for a while, thinking that I was a guest, why did I still have to pay in the end?So I politely refused: "Sister, today is your treat, why am I embarrassed to make me pay?"My sister was unmoved, she insisted that I pay the bill. I looked at her determined eyes, and there was some displeasure in my heart. At this moment, my husband joined the discussion, and he said to me, "Let's forget about it today, don't argue with my sister." ”
Nope!My sister's attitude became more resolute, "I said it, you have to pay today." ”
At this time, my anger was also completely ignited, and I directly refused: "Why should I spend money to buy unhappiness, I am here to reunite with you, not to bear the cost of eating." Looking at the stalemate between us, the whole atmosphere of the dinner suddenly became a little awkward. No one spoke again, but an atmosphere of embarrassment enveloped the whole scene. My heart was full of grievances, even a little unhappy, and I felt that I had been offended.
At this moment, my mother-in-law saw this state of affairs, and she came up to us and said, "Forget about this quarrel, is it interesting for you two to compete like this?"Don't let this little thing affect everyone's mood. "I was moved for a while, but I still felt a little puzzled, why on such an occasion, my sister would let us pay.
Then, my cousin took over and said: "Actually, the reason why I asked you to pay this time is because when my mother-in-law's family had dinner before, my mother-in-law asked us to pay, and she said that the family should have the mentality that men should pay, and she has always adhered to this concept." Sister, she may also be affected by this kind of family rule. "I couldn't help but sigh in my heart, my mother-in-law's family has a lot of traditional concepts, and it turns out that this dinner party made me pay because of my sister's family rules.
Then, my husband also continued: "Let's discuss this issue later, after all, everyone's family concept is different, and we can't force others to accept it." "Listening to my husband's words, the unhappiness in my heart gradually alleviated a lot, my sister's family concept is indeed different from ours, and this difference cannot be resolved in a short time. Through this dinner, we all understood some of the differences in the values of each other's families. In the end, we decided that we would take the initiative to discuss in this situation in the future to avoid the conflict from erupting again.
Soon, the atmosphere of the dinner party was eased, and my sister gave up the idea of asking me to pay. However, the deep-seated contradictions were not resolved with this dinner. In the weeks that followed, the conflict between me and my sister did not go away, but intensified.
A few days later, my husband and I went to my sister's house as guests, thinking that the atmosphere would improve, but I didn't expect a new conflict to occur. This time it was because I occasionally put a mobile phone on the coffee table in the living room, and when I removed it, I found that the phone screen was scratched. I hesitated to tell my sister, but seeing that she had started to clean the room in earnest, I couldn't suppress it. I clenched my phone tightly and resolutely confessed to my sister. I don't want to be questioned, so I have the courage to be honest.
Sister, I'm sorry, but I have some scratches on the silver screen of my phone on the coffee table. I explained to my sister with a serious expression.
My sister was stunned for a moment after hearing this, and did not respond to me for a while, ignoring what I said. At this time, my mother-in-law came over to join in the fun, looked up at me and said, "Oh, I don't blame you, I guess our children did it." ”
I glanced at my sister, and her face was visibly ugly. Then, expressionlessly, she took the phone, sighed deeply, and shook her head gently.
That's when I realized that I shouldn't have messed around in other people's living rooms. An apologetic smile crossed the corner of my mouth, and with a slight apology, I felt helpless at this sudden contradiction. This time, I didn't say anything more to my sister, I took a breath, and waited for her response with some resentment.