Author |Mr. Nai (ID: lashoukeji).
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Yishu once said: "Smart people never retaliate, they leave in a hurry and start from scratch." ”
Many people are indignant, we are all first-time people, why should I humble you everywhere?
When you choose to entangle with people and things you don't like, the end result can only be a lose-lose situation.
And you yourself will become like the person you hate, Kazuo Inamori thinks that the reason why you meet such a person is probably because it is such a person.
In fact, the best way to deal with this kind of thing is only two words: ignore.
When you are able to ignore it, it will not touch your emotions in the slightest and will not affect you in any way.
Ignoring represents your attitude, not wanting to be part of it, not wanting to be in the company of it.
Psychologists have done such an experiment when you are confronted with a person who is in a violent mood and does not choose to speak.
You just have to listen quietly and do your own thing, and its emotions will automatically decrease a lot.
But when you get involved, you will find that things get out of hand, and even you yourself will be infected with outbursts.
George Bernard Shaw once said, "Self-control is the instinct of the strongest." ”
I deeply agree that the real strong man does not lie in his great achievements, but in whether he can easily control and restrain his words and deeds and face life calmly.
I've seen online stories like this: There was a time when Shakyamuni was often insulted. In this regard, he chose to be calm, go his own way, and concentrate on doing his own thing.
Shakyamuni smiled and asked him, "If a person gives something to another person and the other person does not accept it, then who does it belong to in the end?"
The man replied casually, "Of course it's the one who gave it away."
Shakyamuni said, "Yes, you have scolded me until now, and I don't accept who you scolded? ”
From then on, this person no longer scolded Shakyamuni angrily.
There is a line in "The First Half of My Life":
"The best revenge is not hatred, but coldness from the bottom of the heart, why spend the effort to hate an irrelevant person. ”
Couldn't agree more. In the face of the person who hurts you, the more you care, the more your emotions will be influenced and manipulated by the other party.
There are thousands of solutions to a problem, so why should we choose the worst solution?
Learn to ignore in order to live your life well.
When Colonel Sanders retired, he opened a small restaurant with a unique style.
Over the years, his fried chicken has received rave reviews.
For some reason, Sanders later decided to ** fried chicken recipes for a small commission.
However, the sales process did not go well, he was constantly rejected and ridiculed, and his friends were waiting to see his jokes.
He was often angry about this, but he restrained his behavior.
As Charlotte Brontë wrote in Jane Eyre: "Violence is not the best way to eliminate hatred, and just as revenge will never cure harm." ”
Many times, instead of arguing with others about right and wrong, it is better to spend time on things that improve yourself.
Eventually, after 1009 rejections, someone finally accepted his idea and offered to buy his formula.
Since then, his chain of stores has spread all over the world, which is where KFC comes in.
Asagioli once said, "Without forgiveness, life will be controlled by never-ending hatred and revenge." ”
When Sanders was confronted with verbal attacks from others, he chose to ignore them.
There is a saying that is well said. Living your life well is the biggest blow to the person who hurts you.
The more decadent you are, the happier the people who look down on you. The better you do, the more uncomfortable the person who hurts you becomes.
The best thing to do is to ignore them and find ways to improve yourself and get out of their circle instead of wasting your time and energy trapped by them.
The best revenge for those who have hurt you is not to ruin them or to ruin yourself, but to ignore the boring people and try to make yourself better.
Mr. Lu Xun said: "Silence is the greatest contempt".
The most merciless revenge on a person is not to be overly entangled, but to remain silent and ignore him.
Ignoring the provocations of others, they will know that they are bored and leave the scene gloomily.
Ignore the harm of others and strive to improve yourself and live a better life.
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