Called by name@匿名A few years ago, I interviewed Zhou Xun, and before she took over the **, she reconfirmed my name with the staff, and promised that when she greeted me, she could call my name as soon as possible. This is the only time I've been treated like this since I started doing this job in 2014. @yoyoWhen the child's classmate mother asked me on WeChat:If I don't want to call you xx mom, what should I call you?I broke down and cried in an instant, and I felt that after 7 years of being a mother, someone finally saw me. 
@taniaWhen I was exchanging abroad, my roommate in Austria and my name were pronounced Tania Tanja, so the landlord marked my roommate and me as Tania and (I was the number), and the roommate called my surname directly (they asked me, and I agreed, because Chinese names are too difficult for them), but there was always a feeling that my name was robbed, and I was still a number. But one day, Tanja (the roommate with the same name) was having a party at home, and one of her French friends asked me what my name was, and I replied, I have the same name as Tanja, you can just call my last name, and she said:It doesn't matter, your Spanish name is tania, I'll call you tania, whoever has the same name as you。At that moment, I felt like I had been hit, and I finally got my name back, and I was respected.
"You're not wrong".@驼驼 totoDuring a certain psychological consultation, when I talked about my high school love experience, I said with a hippie smile like covering up my mistakes, "I was in love at that time, hahaha, but I didn't expect the counselor to say it very seriously and kindly."Love is love, there is no such thing as early love。At that time, I received a lot of criticism from teachers and parents because of this, and my mother felt that she was a failure to be a mother because of this, so this is the first time I have been respected and recognized in this matter. 
@美美哒When I was in college, I was cooking on the balcony. I like to chop ginger with the back of a knife, and a roommate (handsome) saw it and took my knife away while saying it, and chopped it with the sharp side, she said, "It's good for you to chop like this, you don't have to work so hard, and the sound is loud, wait for the dormitory aunt to hear it." Then I ignored her, still using the back of the knife, and the cute Da (another roommate) may have felt the smell of gunpowder, so she came out and said that Handsome Da probably wanted to cut it faster like this, and the sound would not be so loud, and it would not be discovered by the dormitory aunt, but Meimeida was not wrong, but she was used to cutting it in this way. There is nothing wrong with that sentence xxx I was really touched and felt respected, and she respected me in a different way. Even now, when I think about it, I feel very warm, and later I often use this sentence to communicate with others, and I find it really great. Especially children, when you blindly criticize or teach, in fact, he will not listen, will not approve of you, if you say at the beginning that you are not wrong, then he will feel that you are understanding him, respect him, and then he will listen carefully to your next words. 
Sometimes it simply means "accompaniment without judgment".@天上的星星会说话After a few months of being separated by my ex-girlfriend PUA and the so-called backward compatibility, after more than a year of various self-enrichment and self-healing, the state finally slowly recovered, and I also met a group of friends who could really listen to me carefully about this traumatic experience, and their patience made me feel respected for a long time;When I feel too much belonging to the people and things I hold dear to me and I am consumed internally, they will also take time out to accompany me, accept me, and enlighten me, instead of questioning me or disrespecting me in any way. Maybe it's because of the traumatic experience that my ex-girlfriend brought me that gave me a different understanding of respect, and I felt that acceptance and connection between friends was a kind of respect for each other, which meant usYou can share a lot of things and complain about some people, and in the process, you don't have to worry that the other party will rudely deny your feelings and thoughts and interrupt the communication；At the same time, in the process of being accepted and respected, we have been slowly growing. @asukaWhen my counselor heard that I was self-harming, she looked at me with a soft look and said to me, "I feel sorry for you." At this moment I felt that I was being respected. How sad your parents will be if you do this!How can you do that?Aren't you in pain?I've heard a lot of things like that from other people. Every time I thought to myself: Don't I know?What I need is never a value judgment or a suggestion, all I want is a little bit of empathyand to be seen. 
Allow to grow at a personal pace without being chased@嘻嘻I've always sulked a bit and often had something I wanted to say but didn't want to say. After a tantrum with the person I'm having an affair with (the kind of person who is moving towards a formal relationship), she asked me to have a good talk (and I want to talk too). But I didn't know what to say in the early stage, so she patted me and said,Wait until you're ready. Even if we can't say anything, let's sit here and look at the stars. This is the first time that after I had an awkward relationship with someone, I was not chased to solve it, but respected my rhythm and gave me space to digest it first. 
@匿名When I was in middle school, I liked to play, my classmates all went to play volleyball, and I went, but I always couldn't catch the ballButThere are still people who are not afraid to feed me balls. Finally, I received it once, and the audience applauded me, and I still remember the mood and experience at that time, which can be regarded as their respect for me as a novice!So I've always been a middle-aged sports fanatic girl now@匿名I have procrastination in the rhythm of life, and I have to procrastinate whenever I choose. For example, after graduation, you will work for half a year, go back to graduate school for half a year, and work for half a year after grad school, and work ......for half a year after graduationAlthough he is subjected to criticism from all sides of the outside world, he feels like a slow person, so he is ready to be celibate. Until people are past middle age and meet the person they want to marry. A year after I got married, I had the idea of studying for a doctorate in other disciplines, but I needed to resign, and I was not sure that I would get the full award, and I would delay giving birth. When I mentioned it to my husband, he said, "You don't have to worry about anything else, just think about whether you really want to, and other issues can be discussed at the executive level." I felt that I had been living at a slower pace for the first time, and that I was fully recognized and accepted by another person. p.S: We are both salarymen, and he didn't support me because he wasn't bad for money.
To be treated as equals, not to be looked down upon from above@匿名I shared my story in a group. A friend interacted with me for a few words and asked me in a private chat, I forgot to ask you, do you need help?At that moment I felt,Even if he wanted to help me, whether I needed it or not was the most important thing, and I felt deeply respected. 
@张果果During my undergraduate years, I studied with a teacher who was recognized as a very good teacher at my university, and I learned a lot of research and human skills during this time, and I am still grateful. I still remember when I graduated, I sent a WeChat message to my teacher, saying thank you for your willingness to take me to do research and lead me to grow. The teacher's original words replied were:Thank you for participating。At that time, I felt that my whole being was wrapped in warmth and respect...I can't express this emotion in words: because I am only an undergraduate student, I know very little about research, and I can't talk about the contribution to the project, and the teacher not only does not dislike it, but will patiently explain the problem and direction for me. In the more than two years I have been working with my teachers, I have received many encouragements from my teachers, including but not limited to:You're a very good learner, you're already doing a good job, and I have a project for you to participate in, so if you're interested, you can participate…….Woo woo, whenever I think about it, I feel the meaning of my existence as an independent individual. The respect of doctoral supervisors for undergraduates is probably that!Thanksgiving!Thanks!
to be seen as a whole person, not as a tool, an object, a part, or as an accessory or connection of a person@audreyWhen my dad and I don't agree on the direction of my life, my dad always reminds me after he finishes his opinion:This is my idea, and I will say it for your reference, but I will not tie you with a rope and force you to do it. This sentence is always a good way to eliminate my anger because of the dispute, and I feel that my father understands that I am an independent individual, that I have the primary control over my life, and that although he has his own hopes, he also respects my personal will. 
@匿名When I was six or seven years old, I went out with my parents, and an aunt who met for the first time gave my sister and me a bottle of mineral water when we distributed water to everyone. My sister and I are twins, and when I was a child, many things were just one and a half by default, soIt was the first time I had ever been given a whole bottle of mineral water on my own, and I felt like an adult being an individual. I drank all the bottles of water, wanting adults to see that I could drink a whole bottle, and the water that my aunt gave me was not wasted, maybe I was subconsciously afraid that others would think that one bottle per child was unnecessary. At the time, I was pleasantly surprised, but when I thought about it, I felt that as a child, it was more like being respected and recognized. Even though the aunt may have always treated people like this, even though it was just a bottle of water. @匿名Ever since I was in graduate school, I've often felt like I'm not human. As it says in "A Group of Wives and Concubines", like a dog, like a cat, like a goldfish, like a mouse, everything. It's just not like people. From time to time, I had a nervous breakdown, confided in friends and family, confided in a counselor, and sought help from different medications. It was very helpful, and I was sure they loved me, but the high-pressure work and the relationship with my mentor who was forever despised by my superiors still made me miserable. Respect, or rather, being seen as a person, is felt in strangers, especially in the service industry. Once my work was dumped, I wanted to find evidence but found that the relevant ** had been deleted by myself for 40 days, and finally found that I could try to retrieve it through a mobile phone company. **The sister on the other end had a firm and professional voice and quickly helped me recover**. At that moment, I really felt supported. Also, when I was eating at a restaurant recently, the waitress lady very politely brought me to my seat and helped me put the umbrella on the opposite side - I am a serious social phobia, and I am very afraid that I will be shared when I come to a restaurant with a lot of people, but this action makes me feel very safe. I don't know if I have a so-called class mentality and a desire to be served, but when I hear the gentle words of the service staff, who provide professional service and help, and do not look at or gaze, I do feel real respectEscaping from the environment where they were treated as crops and evaluation functions, I also want to express my sincere gratitude and respect to them.
To be respected means to be heard and to be cared for@小尚When I hit psychological counseling**, I was with a counselorAt the same time, when it came time to speak, she always asked me to speak first. @鱼小姐A friend would apologize to me for starting a new topic because he felt that I might not like it or might have been hurt, and it was offensive for him to ignore these things and talk about it on his own. I feel like my personal boundaries are deeply respected. @匿名With my boyfriend, he would often ask me, how do you feel?I would say i feel good, but I actually feel yesThe first time someone cared about my feelings, but they were so unfamiliar with the feeling that they couldn't do anything about it, like soaking in a little hot bath water. I felt deeply respected at this moment, because even I didn't care about my own feelings. 
@alice SouffléAfter the epidemic + suspension, I went back to school, and my classmates didn't know each other, and I basically forgot all my English. The same group is all foreigners, they all know each other and have always been classmates, and I am worried that I will hold everyone back. Once, after class, I went to ask the teacher a question, and they left first, and when I finished asking, I found outThey had been waiting for me downstairs and had been telling me sorry for not waiting for me in the classroom. Oh my God, as someone who has been outside of the girls' group since I was a child, I really feel respected.
However, it can also be "bad" to feel respected@匿名Respect also doesn't always mean warmth, touching, and being supported. For me, someone who has never been respected since childhood, sudden respect can be an experience of panic, confusion, danger, or attack. I believe that for people who have had similar experiences to me, these experiences are very normal. I would feel stiff, helpless, confused, nervous, and even run away, or attack someone who respects me. Because being respected is a strange experience, and it is also a weight that my personality cannot bear. If the other person is someone I love, these reactions are even more intense, because unconsciously, I want them to disrespect me like the original nurturers. So you see, these bad moments are how I feel deeply respected. I need more and more bad moments like this now, because I have to be aware of it and grow.
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