There used to be an ancient saying: "The grace of nurturing is greater than the sky", since ancient times, parents have always thought of their children. If God can bear the suffering for their children, I believe that many parents are willing to share it for them.
However, there is a term called "Chinese parenting", why do you say that?Even though they are all parents, different people have different ideas. We all understand the love parents have for their children, but some parents think that their children lack gratitude.
Parents pay in the form of debt collection, but let their children get sick but dare not seek medical treatment. Students know that their parents' nurturing grace is not easy, and they can express their gratitude. However, if something is over-rushed, people tend to rebel. Some parents are like debt collectors, once they pay, they will insist on emphasizing it and let the students remember it.
For example, high school students come home on vacation and only come back once a month. Parents called ** in advance to ask what dish they wanted to eat, and the student said that he wanted to eat braised pork. However, at the dinner table, his parents demanded that he must improve by 10 places in the next exam.
This is a family relationship that requires the student to "pay back" in another way with one support. If all the efforts are like this, is it worth singing about the parents?
In a similar situation, some netizens commented that "I feel like I am under the fence at home". She had a broken tooth for more than half a year, but she didn't dare to see a doctor because she was afraid of owing money to her parents. Parents will blame their children for "why don't they go to the doctor", but once their children do go to the doctor, they will say, "We spent so much money on seeing a doctor for you, and you have to know how good we are for you in the future."
There are usually two reasons why parents become "creditors". First of all, parents think that in their eyes, their children are raised little by little, and a lot of money and energy are consumed.
Parents seek something in return, hoping that their offspring will understand their hard work. However, they may overlook that students may be afraid of parental giving, as this makes the offspring feel as if all help has a "price".
Second, "creditor-type" parents may hold a deep-rooted feudal mentality, believing that raising offspring is to "prevent old age", and stay away from the original intention of having children because of "loving children". This selfish thinking makes them lack trust in their children and have a wary mentality.
This kind of "creditor-style" contribution will eventually lead to the alienation of children from their original families. Some people believe that this relationship is like the relationship between a creditor and a debtor, but the more parents try to bind their offspring through "filial piety", it is often counterproductive.
In the family, if there is no sincere communication, can this kind of debt collection pay keep the family harmonious?Although the grace of nurturing is great, if the offspring is treated in the way of "gratitude", it is no longer a parent-child relationship.
Finally, some families may be more willing to ask their classmates for help when they are facing difficulties, rather than telling their parents.
In such a family environment, children experience that the help of parents is also to "return the favor".