There are many ways to get revenge on a person.
Someone said: "Ten years is not too late for a gentleman to take revenge." ”
Someone said, "The tiger is not powerful, when I am a sick cat." ”
Others say, "A tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye." ”
In fact, once the people who have made enemies with you fall out with each other, the evil consequences will only get worse.
If you fight with the dragon for too long, you will also become a dragon, and you will invisibly hurt yourself again.
A visionary person will manage himself well and turn hatred into invisibility.
Keep your eyes on it: Ignore.
In the steppes of Africa, there is a herd of wild horses.
Suddenly, a blood-sucking bat flew over and bit the mustang.
The wild horse jumps, flicks its tail, roars, and gallops to chase away the bats on it.
After a long time, the Mustang fell.
Many people believe that the wild horse died of blood.
Zoologists studied it carefully and found that the damage caused by bats was very small, and wild horses harmed themselves because of their irritable mood.
This is the "Mustang Law".
Most of the people who hurt you are not to the point of heinousness or endanger your life, and you are like a wild horse, thundering, causing every day to be bad.
In the Wei and Jin dynasties, there was a ** named Wang Ji.
When he had nothing to do, he went to his nephew and Qiao's house as guests, and hinted many times that he wanted to eat plums.
The plums of the Heqiao family taste good and are very famous.
It's unpleasant that I rubbed and rubbed for a long time, but I didn't take out the plums.
When Wang Ji left, He Qiao sent dozens of plums.
Wang Ji thought to himself: "Such a stingy relative, even if he has plums, he can't eat them." The more he thought about it, the more angry he became, and he cut down the plum tree.
Since then, the relationship between relatives has not been easy to get along with.
In anger, people have to do a lot of abnormal behavior. And, all the anger ends with regret.
Ask yourself, the source of anger is because you see a "bad scene", and then it triggers a lot of bad thoughts.
If you learn to ignore it, things will get better.
You don't care what people do, if you see it, you can treat it as if you don't see it.
You can't control other people's words and deeds, but your eyes can be managed. Turning a blind eye is confusion and the greatest sobriety.
The philosopher Plotin said, "The eye cannot see the sun if it has not become like the sun."The same is true of the mind, if it is not beautiful, it cannot see beauty. ”Remember, it's not the ability to see clearly, it's the ability to look lightly.
Take care of yourself: do nothing.
There is a famous saying of the Zen master: "Just endure him, let him, let him, avoid him, bear with him, respect him, ignore him, and stay for a few more years and watch him." ”In a few years, the heavens and the earth will change, do you still care about that bit of hatred?Time wears a lot of things.
Do nothing, quietly let time slip away, and a lot of results will naturally appear.
Intellectually speaking, this is the comparison, who survives for a long time, who can survive to the end.
During the Three Kingdoms, Zhuge Liang and Sima Yi were sworn enemies.
When Zhuge Liang attacked Wei, Sima Yi led his troops to meet him.
In Tianshui, the Wei army surrounded the Shu army, and Zhuge Liang took the opportunity to lead his troops to the mountains to harvest wheat, and also staged an empty city plan. Let Sima Yi withdraw the army inexplicably.
For Zhuge Liang's gossip array, Sima Yi also suffered losses.
But later, Sima Yi understood "inaction", and no matter how Zhuge Liang called the battle, he couldn't hold out.
Facing the woman's clothes sent by Zhuge Liang, Sima Yi could wear them naturally without any shame.
Any humiliation, Sima Yi is not the same thing, so he became the final winner, Zhuge Liang was anxious, getting old, and went first.
Sima Yi also praised Zhuge Liang: "The genius of the world is also." ”
Wizards can't fight a person who "does nothing", which is undoubtedly "great achievements".
Lao Tzu said: "The upper must use the world without doing anything, and the lower must do something for the world." It's not easy. ”Being an inactive person in front of hurting you is morally correct and the best strategy.
If you think about it seriously, the root cause of the fact that others can hurt you casually is that you are too weak to fight at all. At this time, only by dormant and showing weakness can the remaining strength be preserved.
The other party sees that you are showing weakness and wants to continue to crush you, either they can't bear it, or they have nothing to do. The hammer can't fight the cotton;Teeth can't compare to the tongue, that's the truth.
It is certainly not advisable to counter violence with violence;It's good to overcome rigidity with softness.
Manage good wisdom: self-reliance.
There is a kind of wisdom called "pretending to be a pig and eating a tiger".
It's incredible that a weak pig is able to eat a tiger.
It also illustrates a problem, as long as the pig has wisdom, the tiger will also fail.
What really makes a person strong is your wisdom.
Go far in silence and improve yourself. When you reach a certain height, you surpass the other person, so that the other person can only look up to you. At this time, the roles of you and the other party will change, and you will also calculate a bad breath.
In the early years of the Qing Dynasty, the credit was not small, the power was great, and the power was incomparably fierce.
When Kangxi succeeded to the throne, he was a little jealous of Aobai. But he did not directly confront Aobai, and promoted Aobai to be a second-class duke, plus a first-class duke, plus a Taishi.
In the process of promoting Aobai, Kangxi also worked hard to make the country work, fighting with the little inner supervisor every day, similar to a child's frolic.
After some hard practice, Kangxi and a few small internal supervisors were super skilled, and they pressed Aobai in one fell swoop, so that they really turned over.
People compete with others, and if you want to win in the end, you must always have hard skills, and don't let outsiders know about your skills.
Bear with it, the wind is calm;Take a step back and open the sky. It seems that this kind of wisdom makes us weak, but in fact, it allows us to have a big picture and plan for a long time.
You have the ability, the other party has nothing to do, and at any time, the winner is you.
The writer Yishu said: "Smart people never retaliate, they leave in a hurry and start from scratch." ”As a man, don't take the gains and losses of a while too seriously. Think about what will happen in 10 years, 30 years.
If you are very old, think about what will happen to the next generation and what will become of you.
Look back, look at the moment, and you know what to do.
The best way to take revenge on a person must be soft and long-lasting. The ultimate goal is long-term peace and stability.
Instead of living with anger, it is better to smile and bow your head.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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