"Let's Listen to the Wind" wrote: "If you don't have any friends, then congratulations, prove that you have matured." ”
Think about it seriously, not having friends is not the same as maturity, but seeing the truth of interpersonal relationships, so that you no longer have to worry about whether you have friends, and even the relationship between relatives can be abandoned.
I will always find that middle-aged friends are becoming more and more realistic, everyone needs firewood, rice, oil and salt, and they are all worried about their careers and money, how can they take care of others?
Under the interests, there are no friends.
For a long time, I was puzzled, whySu Shiis so talented and diligent in political affairs, but he was involved in the Wutai poetry case. Because of a few inappropriate words, I almost lost my life.
Su Shi and Shen Kuo, Li Ding, He Zhengchen, Shu Yan and others are all colleagues, and they usually dance and write and can talk.
They all work in one place, and they don't look up and see each other. But we really "know the face but don't know the heart".
Su Shi wrote the article and then invited a friend to enjoy it.
A friend applauded him while looking for loopholes in the article.
Sure enough, the words "it, new entry" in "Huzhou Xie Shangbiao" have become opportunities for Shen Kuo and others to ask for merit and reward.
Then, more than forty articles became problem articles.
Minister Cai did comment on Shen Kuo: "The first rat is obedient, and it harms the Si Nong Law." "He is said to be a mouse-like man, running at both ends, and likes to be in the shadows, and he is scary when he comes out of nowhere.
When we entered the workplace, we found that the "intrigue" was all true.
The person who laughs at you is perhaps the one who hurts you the most;A colleague gives you a serious look and may help you;The person who invites you to drink and gives you gifts may be grabbing you.
The ancient Roman statesman Cicero said: "He who reduces friendship to interests, I think, writes off the most precious thing in friendship." ”We know that the relationship between interests is unreliable, but we still try to believe that after all, we also need benefits.
However, in the end, interests have become a mirror of demons, reflecting people's faces and people's hearts. Your kindness has instead become a "soft persimmon" in the eyes of others.
Man dies for money, and birds die for food. Although profit is something outside the body, it really can't be done without it. If you need it, you have to fight openly and secretly, and don't always take into account the feelings of your friends.
Under the wall, there are no friends.
"Mencius: Dedication" says: "If it is not fate, obey it, so those who know their fate do not stand under the rock wall." ”It is human instinct to seek advantage and avoid harm, and when harm comes, we will instinctively flee and ignore it.
You can't see that the wall is going to collapse, and you go closer, and you go up against the wall.
In the Outer History of Confucianism, Kuang Chaoren Jing Lanjiang, Zhao Xuezhai, Zhi Jianfeng, Hu Mi, Yan Zhi and others met for dinner, wrote poems, and became literary friends.
While eating and drinking, everyone touted and showed their talents, which was so lively.
Suddenly, an official appeared, thinking that in this dinner, there was a Jianfeng who was a salt patrol merchant, and he couldn't follow the ordinary literati to coax him. Then, Zhi Jianfeng was arrested.
Seeing this, Jing Lanjiang pulled Kuang Chaoren and ran, slipped away from the alley, and didn't look back.
Just now he was pushing the cup and changing the lamp, and the next moment he began to flee, such a comparison would make anyone feel cold. But who wants to take the on themselves?Wang Xizhi's son, Wang Huizhi and Wang Xianzhi. All very famous.
One day, the brothers were reading a book together, and suddenly the family was **.
Wang Huizhi rushed out in a hurry, not even wearing shoes;After Wang Xian, he went out into the sea of fire and was very calm.
People think that Wang Xianzhi is better and has a good mentality.
But I saw the clue - in a sudden situation, the blood of the brothers could not be taken care of. Who wants to die in the fire?Why are many friends reluctant to borrow money when you are poor?In the event of a landslide, he will flee alone. I really can't blame them, everyone has not lived an easy life, and behind them is a family.
The social rules of being rich and having distant relatives in the mountains and being poor in the downtown area are also suitable for friends.
"Poverty" means that there is a crisis in life, if you can't stop the loss, the next step will be in a predicament, and you can't turn over. If you don't repay the money you borrow, it will happen, it's not that you don't want to pay it back, it's that you can't do anything about it.
As a creditor, it is also a nest to meet friends who can't afford to pay back. It's better to be indifferent at the beginning and refuse to forget it. At least you can protect yourself.
In the years, there are no friends.
The poet Bai Juyi, when he was working in the capital, was friends with Yuan Zhen, and they rented a house together and drank together;Jointly advocate the new Yuefu movement, known as "Yuanbai".
Later, Yuan Zhen was demoted, Bai Juyi was also demoted, and his friends also went their separate ways and took care of themselves.
Later, Yuan Zhi died when he was in his fifties, and Bai Juyi could only walk alone.
Bai Juyi said: "Ah Wei Han Lang went to the same time, and the night platform was ignorant and knew no. ”
Many people, when they are in high spirits, tell their friends that we are "between life and death". But when it comes to life and death, I'm afraid I can only be greedy for life.
Yu Boya in the Spring and Autumn Period met Zhong Ziqi, became bosom friends, and agreed to meet again in the coming year.
But Zhong Ziqi died of illness. Yu Boya found that from now on, no one could understand the "sound of the piano" anymore, so he simply dropped the piano.
From now on, the road is long, and friends are nowhere to be seen.
When people reach middle age, it is impossible for them to make friends who were born in the same year. A lot of people are older than you and will leave the workforce earlier and can't help youSome people are very old, and after befriending you, they pass away very quickly.
Even people of the same age may not all live to old age, and there are always people who die young.
Falling flowers are intentionally ruthless, and friends are ruthless, and the years are ruthless.
People are a speck of dust in the years, and friendships are just a flash in the pan relative to time.
Charles Darwin said, "When it comes to fame, honor, pleasure, and wealth, they are dust, if compared to friendship."
Everyone in the world knows that friends are good, but fame and fortune can't be forgotten.
When people reach middle age, if they don't have any friends, don't be presumptuous, but see the reality clearly and live your own life.
Do not blindly follow, reduce non-essential socialization, and stay away from low-level circles;Don't please, learn to be yourself, rely on yourself;It's also okay to accept reality and pursue profit with a group of people.
The twisted melon is not sweet, and it can only be gathered and dispersed.
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