OMG, who would have thought that Zhou Xun could be so "crazy" when he played his mother?!
In the new film "Wading Through the Sea of Anger", in the face of Lao Jin (played by Huang Bo), who avenges her daughter, she incarnates as Jing Lan, the "she-wolf" who shields her son Li Miaomiao.
In the face of Lao Jin's tracking, he took the initiative to get into his truck, and the hint of salute first and then soldier was not easy to provoke.
You should run into a she-wolf, and I'm in a hurry, and I'm going to see blood. ”
The fluttering tone showed that she could do anything extreme in order to protect the calf.
In order to buy time for her son, she induces Lao Jin to break into the house, giving him the illusion that his son is in the basement, thus trapping Lao Jin.
In the high-energy "Fish Rain from the Sky" car chase scene in the whole film, in the face of the pursuit of the police car, she took off her disguise and hit the police car at the fork in the road.
And Jing Lan's craziest moment was when she learned that her son was lynched by Lao Jin.
She drove the vehicle, her eyes shining fiercely, like a man-eating beast.
Recklessly, he crashed into Lao Jin, even if the car drove to the edge of the cliff, he didn't let go of the accelerator and drove directly into the sea.
While killing the enemy, she did not let go of herself, and she deserved to be a woman who was named "Dian Po" by netizens.
With the Bump Po, there will naturally be the Bump Gong.
Lao Jin played by Huang Bo is not far behind.
In order to catch Li Miaomiao and avenge his daughter Nana, he went to the sea all the way, broke into private houses with knives, set fire to the basement of the mansion, jumped off the subway and climbed the rooftop ......
Jing Lan and Lao Jin's various actions seem to be writing about the love of their parents.
But in fact, the love of the two can't stand scrutiny.
Lao Jin's motivation to avenge his daughter comes partly from his father's love, but more from the anger of losing face. "She's my old Kim's daughter, and it's my joke that she was killed. This sentence to ** after drinking revealed Lao Jin's true heart.
And the more subtle place is that when Lao Jin saw his daughter's body stabbed 17 times, he couldn't suppress his vomiting, and he kept reminding himself in his heart, "That's your daughter, you have to hurt."
The word "de" confirms Lao Jin's nihilistic father's love.
And Jing Lan is always compromising on what her son has done, wiping her ass for the bad things he has done.
Behind the bottomless doting, he disdains to spend effort on discipline. He talks about love, but he takes the most worry-free measures in action.
It is more reflective that Jing Lan's maternal love is not much, after she learned of her son's death and drove crazy and jumped into the sea.
The crazy mother suddenly regained her composure and immediately packed up her things and went back to Russia.
Walking neatly, as if looking forward to this day for a long time.
Seeing this, I understand more and more why netizens say "parental love is a cosplay".
*: Little Red BookAlthough the film is full of absurd dramatic performances, in a way, it is also a kind of projection of reality.
It is said: "Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans." ”
But not all parents can understand that love is a two-way understanding and respect. The love they show is often one-sided possession, expectation, and comparison. reminds me of the "10 catties of pork" incident I saw on the Internet some time ago.
It's not a big thing, but it's full of suffocating smells.
The reason was that the blogger's mother was coming to her city to see her and asking if she wanted to bring some pork from home.
But the blogger didn't like to eat frozen zombie meat, so he said to his mother: "No, there are many shops selling pork here." ”
In the face of her daughter's refusal, her mother said she agreed, but the next day she still bought 10 catties of pork and froze it in the refrigerator.
Upon learning of this news, the blogger once again refused, and her mother also promised her not to bring it.
But the day before leaving, her mother came to ask her again if she would be overweight when she put pork in her suitcase.
Don't bring it, the meat will spoil after you fly over for such a long time. ”
Once again, the blogger dissuaded Mom, and Mom agreed, as she had done the previous times.
But on the day of departure, my mother changed her mind again, and not only brought pork, but also 15 catties.
The blogger received his mother's ** and collapsed instantly.
What made her collapse was not 15 catties of pork, but the life that she had been ignored by her mother for more than 20 years.
I'm transferring the job from the provincial capital to the county for you, and you must be the first in the class, otherwise you'll be sorry for me."
You are really expensive, I am reluctant to buy clothes just to enroll you in the Xi shift";
I'm doing this for your good, you should eat more meat when you grow up" ......
Mom talks to herself for her good, but she never cares about her feelings.
I'm for you", which made her feel stressed and miserable;Those make-up Xi classes that cost a lot of money might as well let her sleep well;The meat buns with a "long body" are a mouthful of fishy flesh for her, far less delicious than vegetarian buns.
This time, after the blogger scolded the "15 catties of pork", what he got was also the accusation of "I am also kind" from my mother.
But the mother's dedication is not what her daughter really needs, but a one-man show that she thinks "her daughter needs".
This kind of self-righteous "parental love" is also a common problem in many families.
Every year after the college entrance examination, a batch of help-seeking posts of "what should I do if my parents tamper with my volunteer" will pour out on the Internet.
This year, there was even a bizarre news of "a mother stealing her daughter's admission letter".
The reason why my mother did this was that she thought that the art major had no future and was not as stable as the normal majorSecond, I feel that colleges and universities in other places are not as good as Chongqing, and I don't want my daughter to leave me.
In addition to the major events that interfere with life such as filling in volunteers, many small things in life, eating, dressing, and makeup ......Parents will use the slogan "for your good" to get their feet in the cross.
can be "for your good" premiseIt is necessary to understand the wishes of the other party and respect the choices and preferences of the other party.
Otherwise, all this is just control in the name of love, and in the end it will only suffocate the children.
In "Love's Study Trip", Wu Qianyu told about his childhood experience.
When she was a child, she has been living under her mother's high-pressure control.
Basically, there is no right to say no to anything.
Piano lessons must be taken, exams must be scored perfectly, toys must be shared with friends, and coke snacks must not be eaten ......
If she doesn't do what her mother wants and wants to do these tasks, she will be beaten.
I can't remember the exact number of times, but it's certain that it happens every week.
To this day, Wu Qianyu still has red eyes when she recalls her original experience.
It doesn't hurt, but it hurts. ”
This pain is not only physical, but also mentally tormenting.
What's even more terrifying is that this past has also made her form a Xi of picking her fingers when she is scolded, and she will not stop until the skin is broken and bleeding.
Those emotions that are difficult to express are all vented through self-abuse.
When she grew up, although she no longer picks her hands and masochists, she still hasn't learned to express her emotions.
As my mother grew older, she began to regret her actions, but the damage had already been done, and the wounds left behind would leave scars even if they healed.
But not all parents are aware of their problems.
In one episode of "Juvenile Talk", a girl came to the stage to tell her grievances, hoping that her mother would not compare herself with her friend who was the first in her grade, and look at her shining points.
The girl complained in tears, but her mother turned a deaf ear.
Not only did she not understand, but she was told that "you need percussive education".
But it is clear that the girl has begged so much, and it is obvious that the "repressive education" has brought her pain, not the motivation to move forward.
Someone else has shared such a mother online.
She forcibly changed her son's wishes, let him study a major he didn't want to study, and find a job he didn't want to find. Not only does he not feel guilty, but he is also complacent and often shows off.
This is the contradiction of the current parent-child relationship.
Parents are immersed in the emotion of self-giving, and children are imprisoned in the "cage of love".
Hopefully all parents will understand:
Your children are not your children, they are the children born of life's desire for themselves, they came into the world through you, but they did not come because of you, they are with you, but they do not belong to you. ”
Learn to respect and understand your child's desires and give them the opportunity to take control of their own lives.
Don't let love become "nothing".
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