As we all know, the problem of leftover women has become more and more serious, and some data say that the number of older leftover women has exceeded 20 million, although I don't know how authoritative it is, but from the fact that there are more than one million leftover women in every first-tier city, and hundreds of thousands of leftover women in every second-tier city, it may really be about the same number.
However, according to my observations from the Internet and reality, the number of older leftover women in the future may not only be this number, but there is a high probability that there will be more and more.
This is because many girls have been fooled by some poisonous chicken soup bloggers and older leftover girls, and they chose not to marry and have children in a daze, but when they were in their thirties, they suddenly realized that they still wanted to get married, and found that they couldn't find anyone to marry them.
Although I don't know how many older leftover women really plan to get married and have children, there must be a lot of older leftover women who want to get married. Because in every big city, even those first- and second-tier cities, there are many women in the blind date market, and the ratio can reach 2:8 or even 1:9.
But even if they go on frequent blind dates, they basically can't get married, because they are too old, and the three views of some older leftover women are really bursting, and they are not suitable for marriage at all, so it is impossible to get married.
In order to prevent more and more such girls, I keep writing about the problem of older leftover women, and I write these articles for young girls to read, so as to prevent young girls from being easily fooled.
Therefore, when we write about the current situation of some older leftover women, we are really not forcing older leftover women to get married, and we are not leaving girls at PUA older ages. I even want to encourage older leftover women not to marry or have children, and not even to waste time and money on blind dates.
So some older leftover girls really don't need so much inner drama, you basically can't get married, and we won't persuade you to get married.
The reason why I keep writing about the status quo of some older leftover women in my Xi and after work is to eliminate the information gap and prevent some brothers from marrying some older leftover girls with a black history and having unhappy marriages in the futureOn the other hand, I can't get used to seeing some older leftover girls who can't get married by themselves, and they have to pull young girls into the water.
I found that there are many bloggers on these platforms who are not married and have children and live alone, always saying how good it is to not marry and have children, without mentioning how much it costs and how many risks they face if they don't get married.
It's simply a new version of Mimeng's poisonous chicken soup, refurbished and then tricked people into drinking. As a result, many young girls really believe it, but people earn money under the guise of not getting married and having children, and when you encounter difficulties in life, they won't care about you, and when you want to marry someone but can't, they won't be in charge.
It is true that, as many female boxers say, there are various risks associated with getting married, but if you don't get married and don't have children, there is no risk?
The first thing you have to face if you don't get married is the problem of housing, although my advice is to have a house of your own, but it is not impossible to rent all the time, but the premise is that you have the ability to rent a house all the time. Then there may be a mid-life crisis, after all, because there is no shortage of labor in China, companies like to start laying off employees at the age of 35. There is also the need to face sick parents alone, and other risks have to be borne by themselves.
When I said this in my last article, some netizens said, then after I get married, will these risks be gone?My parents won't get sick since I got marriedMen don't have a midlife crisis?
But what I want to say is that if you find a reliable husband to marry, it will not make your risk disappear, but it can help you share the risk. For example, when one of you is unemployed, the other person still has an income, so that the monthly payment will not be cut off, or life will be too poor. For example, when your parents are unfortunately sick and you don't have time, maybe the other person has time, and then you can take care of the other parent.
Marriage will not make the risk go away, but finding a reliable person can help you share the risk, but only if the other half is reliable, which is the same for both men and women.
Therefore, helping more and more men and women find reliable people to marry is my original intention and my core view.
When it comes to young girls, it is to write about the current situation of some older leftover girls, as well as the risks of not marrying and having children. Then they combined with the risks that the feminists said they might encounter when getting married, and then looked at whether they should choose to get married or not marry and have children.
The so-called simultaneous listening is clear, and partial belief is dark, which is the thing that is said. Because some people describe not marrying and having children too well, and describing marriage as too unbearable, as a result, many little girls are successfully fooled.
But if you really want to be infertile and have the ability to be infertile, it's fine, but I'm afraid that many people will be fooled, and as a result, they want to get married in their thirties, but they can't get married.
People are different, some people are really not suitable for marriage and children, but some people are suitable for marriage and children, my original intention is to hope that you make a choice after considering all aspects, rather than being fooled into your thirties and wanting to marry but can't get married.