Traditional Chinese culture has both the elegance of poetry and songs, and the wisdom from the folk, and the crystallization of this wisdom is the common saying. A person's life is inseparable from two things, one is his parents, and the other is his own family. Although there is a lot of warmth in life, there is also a lot of cruelty, and one sentence exposes this.
Filial piety comes first, China is a country that attaches great importance to filial piety, and after thousands of years of civilization, filial piety is still the most important quality in the Chinese family. People may do a good job of supporting their parents at first, but over time, things will be very different. How many people can stick to it for the rest of their lives?
Nowadays, life is fast-paced, and parents have to raise grandchildren in addition to their children, but when their parents are sick, how many people can be by their side?Not to mention those elderly people who can't take care of themselves and are riddled with diseases?How many people are able to take care of their parents day in and day out at the bedside?In the final analysis, it really responded to that sentence, which is called "there is no filial son in front of the bed of a long illness".
In fact, in reality, many people also want to take care of the elderly in person at the beginning, but in addition to feeding and feeding medicine, dealing with excretion problems, sometimes they will be affected by negative emotions, and may also be under pressure from work and their own families. This may be the true face of human nature, but also the most cruel side.
Fortunately, the care of the elderly in today's society is much better than before, in addition to some benefits and guarantees, such as the popularization of pensions, the elderly can also have a considerable income as a material basis for a year. In addition to their own children, it is also more common for people in society to care for the elderly.
There are parents above, and wives and children below. It is not easy for a person to run his own family well. When a girl wants to get married, her parents always ask the man to be financially comfortable, although it is for the sake of her daughter, but the young man can give up bread for love. Many people are willing to live a poor life for love, and at the beginning, the husband and wife are in love with each other, holding hands to face the difficult life together, which may have strengthened their relationship even more.
But this relationship can deteriorate as economic conditions deteriorate and time goes on. Especially when the child is born, in order to let the child live a good life, the woman always saves money, and even becomes frugal in order to raise the child. Her personality has also become more sensitive and irritable in the trivial things of daily life, and she has no time to even take care of her appearance for the sake of her family.
Over time, she is like a crushed camel, not knowing when it will collapse. When she is sensible, she will persuade herself to persevere, but if she loses her reason, she will resent that she has chosen a poor man as her husband. When her bitterness has nowhere to tell, it will explode when it slowly accumulates, and she may cry and quarrel with her husband, or even choose to leave this home and leave it all.
"There is no good wife in a poor family" is a cruel saying, but today, women are more independent and open-minded, and they are able to support themselves and even the whole family. They are also more rational and know how to deal with the relationship between family and work, and deal with their emotions.
Folklore is summarized by predecessors, and it contains rich truths or cruel realities. But now that the times have changed, perhaps the words "there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time, and there is no good wife in the poor family for a long time" will be overcome slowly.
In addition to the truth, there are also very interesting phenomena in the common saying. For example, "the morning glow does not go out, the sunset travels thousands of miles", there was no science and technology before, people relied on observation or changes in nature, such as meteorology, seasons, etc., and people's knowledge was also obtained from practice and experience.
In addition, there is "going out to dump and get off the horse noodles", which is a folk custom in the north, treating people who travel far away and welcoming people who return, but the food served is different, which contains people's emotional and psychological sustenance, and is also a very valuable cultural crystallization.
Although people love the elegance of the poetry of the willows, the elegance of Tang poetry, and the delicacy of Song poetry, as a part of traditional Chinese culture, colloquialisms are precious and not only rich in knowledge and truth, but also evoke people's thinking about the past, present, and future.