Aquinas saidIf the will is to have the power of law, it must exercise restraint before giving orders.
Never let someone influence you
Hans Christian Andersen's story "The Old Man Is Always Wrong" shows us a couple who are always happy.
The storyline is simple.
After discussing with the old couple, they decided to exchange the family's horse for something useful, so they let the old man lead the horse to the market.
The old man came to the market and began to exchange the horse for a cow, then for a cow, then for a fat goose, then for a hen, and finally for a basket of rotten apples.
When the old man was eating in the restaurant, after telling his experience to the people at the next table, several merchants at the next table laughed and leaned back and said to the old man:
When you go back, your wife will have to scold you to death. ”
But the old man said with certainty: "No way, the old woman will never say that I am wrong." ”
The merchants made a bet to the old man that if his wife did not scold him when he returned, he would lose a bag of gold.
When the merchants came back with the old man, the old man said to the old man, "I've got a new cow." ”
The old woman happily replied, "We have milk to drink." ”
Then the old man said, "I have changed the ox for the sheep." ”
That's not bad, and the goat's milk is delicious. ”
I switched to goose again. ”
Great, we can eat goose eggs. ”
I switched to chicken again. ”
Eggs are also very good. ”
I ended up switching to Apple. The old man opened the rotten apple and showed it to the old woman.
The old woman kissed the old man on the face: "We have apple pie to eat today." ”
Several merchants gave them a bag of gold.
Happiness is found by oneself, and inner happiness is like sunshine, which can illuminate every corner of life.
Hercules, the great hero of ancient Greek mythology, was walking on the mountain road when he was kicked by a small bag, and he kicked it with his foot, and the bag became larger, as if he was provoking him.
Angry, he picked up a wooden stick and smashed it into the bag, which grew bigger and blocked his way.
At this time, a saint came up to him and told him:
Hurry up and put away your emotions, this is the emotional bag, the more fierce you are, the bigger it gets, and after you have no temper, he disappears. ”
After Hercules put down the stick, and after he was not emotional, the bag returned to its original state, only the size of a small stone, mixed with the small stones on the road, and if you didn't look closely, you wouldn't notice its presence at all.
Aureliussaid:
"If you don't feel comfortable with anything around you, it's because of your feelings, not because of it.
By adjusting your feelings, you can be uplifted at any time. ”
Paul worked as a lawyer in Vienna and after the Second World War, he came to Sweden.
He knew several languages and thought of working as a clerk for an import-export company.
After interviewing several companies, most of the company's personnel said that they did not need to hire for the time being because of the war, but they could leave their information first.
Paul sent resumes to several more companies, and almost all of them were lost.
What he didn't expect was that one of the companies sent him a reply, and the content of the reply was probably like this:
Your vision of the company is completely wrong, you are so stupid, I don't need any paperwork at all.
I won't use you even if I need to, because you can't even write Swedish well, and you're full of grammatical errors. ”
In a fit of rage, Paul wrote a letter that was enough to make the other party angry.
But when he had finished writing, he rubbed the letter again, he thought:
I'm not a Swede in the first place, and I should be grateful for pointing out my mistakes. ”
He rewrote another letter:
You don't need paperwork, and you take the trouble to write me back, thank you so much.
I'm sorry that your judgment was wrong.
I wrote that letter because someone said you were an expert in this area.
I have grammatical mistakes, and I will try to correct them.
Thank you again for taking time out of your busy schedule to write back to me. ”
A few days later, Paul was interviewed, and he was able to secure his dream job.
The world is its own, not about others. Don't let other people's words and actions influence your behavior.
When Lu Zhen, the prime minister of the Tang Dynasty, was in power, he listened to slander and demoted Dr. Taichang Li Jifu to Mingzhou to make a long history.
Later, Lu Zhen was deposed as prime minister, and the new prime minister knew that he had old grudges with Li Jifu, so he asked Li Jifu to go to Zhongzhou, where Lu Zhen was located, to make a history of assassination.
Lu Zhen became Li Jifu's subordinate.
Li Jifu knew that the new prime minister wanted to completely defeat Lu Zhen with his own hands.
After Li Jifu took office, he called Lu Zhen to drink and talk.
Lu Zhen was moved and actively assisted Li Jifu in governing Zhongzhou.
The willingness to forget grudges is a characteristic of people who have achieved great things, and this characteristic is called pattern.
Life is like a game of chess, every step you take is building your pattern, and only those who have a big pattern can control the overall situation and win the final victory.
Happiness is found by oneself, emotions are given by oneself, behavior is done by oneself, and patterns are created by oneself.
Don't let others influence you, you can always have happiness, have good emotions, match good actions, and reap the big picture.
I'm Red Seven-Six, follow me, and we learn, change, and grow together.