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As a person who has come over, I naturally have some insights on love, marriage, and family, and I have also crossed the red line with others, and verified my own opinions with others. In addition, there will always be small characters to consult this topic. So, he sorted out his views and refined them into three words. For those who need this.
First sentence: I want to say to those who are ready to enter into marriage: love and bread, if you have not already figured it out, do not enter the palace of marriage
In life, what is the most important thing to say, but everyone who has experience, life, and story will attribute it to marriage in unison.
Marriage makes two people husband and wife, establishes a family, reproduces, and belongs, both physically and mentally, and establishes the meaning of life. In this life, the positioning and quality of life are determined by this coordinate system.
The people who can accompany themselves the farthest are husband and wife. Parents and children are dwarfed.
People who can be God's to each other are also husband and wife. Your body and mind can be "shown" to each other without reservation, what is this not God?
People can walk alone in the red dust, let the pothos brush over the placket, and the green clouds wet the promise. People can also be dismissive of mountains and water, and have nothing to do with the sun and the moon. But one cannot live without marriage.
Men have no wives and no owners, and women have no husbands and no supporters. What the ancestor said is very true. Without marriage, whether it is a man or a woman, there is no root.
Not having roots is terrible. As soon as the wind blew, it swept away. Whether it is life or death, it can only be determined by fate and not by others. Don't you see, a lot of single men and women are found only after they stink?There is nothing worse than this.
Unhappy marriages are not good. No matter how rich a person is, no matter how glamorous and illustrious, if the marriage is unhappy, it is nothing more than a fragile glass flower. Maybe one day it will be shattered.
Isn't Zhou Haimei like this?Men and women like Zhou Haimei are all glass flowers who died early. It's just that when they are broken, people can read about their misfortunes. But this does not affect their own taste of pain in the slightest.
A happy marriage is different. It not only nourishes people, but also gives them longevity.
The most beautiful sight in the world is the elderly couple walking hand in hand, snuggling together to watch the sunset.
Because, in this scene, the freehand is the happiness of marriage and the great peace of life. This scenery also tells people that people can not only expand the width of life, but also expand the length of life. The former requires extraordinary effort. And the latter, as long as there is the floating world of marriage, and the water flows for a long time, it can be done.
People often say: an inch of time is an inch of gold. In fact, not only is this not in place, but it is also outrageous. Because, in a happy time, no amount of gold can buy it. Gold and happy times are not in the same category at all. If it is hard to measure it in gold, then it can only be said that the gold piled up all over the world cannot buy happy times. In the face of a happy marriage, it is not worth mentioning.
Yes, in life, happiness and misfortune, the most powerful voice is marriage. Whether it is a man or a woman, the happiness of marriage is the greatest happiness of life, and the unhappiness of marriage is the greatest happiness of life.
Writer Ai Qing said: "Although the road of life is very long, there are only a few key steps." These words are not only inspiring, but also heart-pounding.
So, what about the key step in life?All those who have come past will invariably agree that it is a step towards marriage.
It is also the key to this step that reminds people who are about to enter into marriage that before making a decision, it is important to know what makes you want to enter into marriage with him or her.
If you haven't thought about it at all, you'd better think it through before you decide. Because, the best result of a marriage established in this state can only be half and half of happiness and half of unhappiness, what if the unfortunate half happens to belong to you?That's a big problem.
If you just want to have fun, then you have to see if you can withstand the consequences. As far as I know, throughout the ages, no one has been able to bear the consequences of playing with marriage. Even the contemporary Hong Kong billionaire Luo Zhaohui has not been able to bear it. A play with words not only ruined his 10 billion fortune but also ended his 47-year-old life.
If all your motivation is "BMW attraction", then you'd better stop. Because, when you really get a taste of crying in a BMW, you're going to be quite uncomfortable. At that time, even if you put all the BMW cars in the world in front of you, you will not be happy, on the contrary, you will still have a serious disgust. Disgusted with both myself and BMW.
If you really love him or her, and love him or her so unconditionally, then you had better weigh your own abilities before making a decision. In case your marriage is without bread, do you have the ability to get it? If you don't have this ability, you have to think twice.
If you both love each other deeply and can afford bread, then please do not hesitate to set out for happiness ......
Seeing this, you may think that you can't have both fish and bear's paws, and you can only take the same ancient precept. By analogy, it is concluded that there is no ideal marriage. At least it's particularly rare.
If you are doing so, then please accept my respect. You're so savvy, it's amazing. It also sparked the urge to put the second and third sentences in my mind and to the table.
The second sentence: A woman's greatest wisdom lies in marrying a good man. Although women have been emancipated, the deep-rooted concept of thousands of years still firmly links women's marriage with fate. And in today's real world, it is destined that if a woman wants to marry a good man, she must learn to discern people: only money is not good, only status is not good, and only handsome is not good......
There is a kind of man who deserves to be recommended to wise women - they are well-informed, never ostentatious, but also not passive;They work hard, but the opportunity has not yet been favored, and they have not yet reached the "peak" of life, but they do not like things or feel sorry for themselves, and still hold a normal heart;They have their own goals in life, ordinary but not mediocre, low-key but not decadent. Marrying this kind of man will be very comfortable, worry-free, and reassuring.
It can be said that this kind of man is "not the best, but also a boutique". List a few of them and you'll know I'm right:
1. Good temper but not sloppy. Although the colleagues in the same unit are better than him, and he is still being sent at will, and there is no sign of "progress", he is not annoyed or anxious. And when you really come into his life, you will realize that his good temper is really useful. When you are with him, no matter how you treat him with a small temperament, he is always soft-spoken and takes care of you in every way. Over time, you will understand what is the reality of a broad heart and usefulness, and isn't it this kind of tolerance and reality that women want?
2. Enterprising but not a workaholic. In this era where career and money are getting closer, finding an unambitious man or a workaholic man is a terrible thing for a woman. A man without a career can't protect his woman, after all, two people can't live by drinking the northwest wind. Men who are too obsessed with their careers are not very good. This kind of man only has money in his eyes and no her. It can only be a luxury for a woman to expect this kind of man to be gentle and considerate and pampered to her. Ask him to go shopping with you, and he says it's boring;Ask him to watch a movie with you, and he says he doesn't have time. His career may be successful, and you will follow the scenery, but that is the scenery in the eyes of others, and what others can't see is the long lonely time you spend alone.
Only a man who is enterprising but not a workaholic, will not only give a woman a reliable guarantee of three meals a day, but also cook with his own woman, accompany you to go shopping, and make you as fresh as "in love" every day, that feeling is really happy.
Three, a little handsome but won't make ** saliva. No matter what the occasion is or who finds this kind of man, he will not let his woman lose face - at least he will not make others feel like flowers are stuck in cow dung, and he is indeed very eye-catching to look at every day. This is the real handsomeness of men, and men can do this not by dressing up, but by self-cultivation. Only their own women know best. "There are poets and books in the belly", such a man is not only durable, but also durable.
Of course, men also have a kind of handsomeness written on their faces, but whether this handsomeness is supported by connotation or not, it is unreliable and even dangerous for a woman. He may make you uncomfortable by making ** saliva. In this world, there are many fox spirits, and cats that don't eat fish are even more difficult to find. When a woman lives with such a man, of course, she is afraid and panicked, and she can't wait to be by his side all the time. It's a lot of work.
Fourth, a little rich but not a rich man. A man is a complete poor bastard, of course he can't, no car, no house, not to mention, even when he goes to the street to buy groceries, he has to touch the money bag and calculate for a long time, a woman lives with such a man, and she will be angry to death if she is not tired to death!In these years, men should have silver, they are chic, and women follow the scenery. But here's where the biggest worries lie. If this master is chic all the way and forgets his woman, wouldn't he call his woman a round of lonely moon and look at the cold window?
Once a man has money, he will face more of all kinds of **, and with this kind of man, there is a laid-off crisis every second!Therefore, the best is him: he has no worries about food and clothing, and he is not so rich that he needs other women to help him spend money.
Fifth, amorous but not abusive. Such a man knows best the truth of "drowning three thousand, the only scoop to drink", and he wants to occupy his heart and nest is his own woman. For their own women, if they don't see each other for one day, they will lose their souls if they don't see them for two days, and if they don't see them for three days, they will get sick. He doesn't say much to his own woman, but every word comes from the heart, so it's also special. These words may sound numb to others, but his own woman knows that he cares when she hears them.
Perhaps, this kind of man forgets to buy a large bouquet of flowers for his woman on Valentine's Day, but his heart itself is a rose that blooms for his own woman. Moistened by the rain and dew of a woman, the little dew on this rose will turn into beating notes, and it will become a romance. This kind of man, for every woman who has a dream in her heart, what reason is there to stop and not rush towards him?
The third sentence is specifically for men: a man's greatest success is to marry a good wife. It's not hard to see why. Because, no matter who you are, life is real. And the person who accompanies you day and night is your wife.
What kind of wife is the best to choose?
1. Women who are too beautiful are prone to red apricots out of the wall. This is already an iron law in ancient and modern China and abroad. But the reason is not for women, but for men.
Children are their own good, and their wives are other people's good." This is an inferior nature that a man can't change for a lifetime. This inferior nature of men is also an important reason for the open and secret fights between men and men, and even big fights, and even fights with their lives.
If you marry a "Xi Shi" and go home, you love her, and other men will beat her idea. Such a wife will make you worry all day long, for fear that she will get a "green hat" for you to wear one day. As long as you wear a green hat, you will want to raise your head in society for the rest of your life. Even if you are particularly resistant to pressure, you will be crushed as the days go by.
In addition, it is also an indisputable fact that "the face is thin", and it is particularly unbearable.
Second, marrying a woman who is too ugly will not be happy for the rest of your life. The ugly woman marries home safely, but it is stable, and basically no man has the idea of beating her. But if you face an ugly face all day long, even if she takes care of you, you will only be grateful, and it will be difficult to produce love. You are held together by instinct. Instinct is something that all animals have, it's too primitive. Husband and wife, I haven't even tasted the taste of love, wouldn't I live in vain?
Especially when you and your husband appear in the eyes of others together, even if others don't say a word, just when others look at your wife's eyes, as if they are "polluted", they will knock you down.
3. Marrying an unassertive woman will bear double the spiritual burden of love. Such a woman, although she has everything that other women have, she can also do what other women can do. But she just doesn't have her own ideas, she asks you everything, and she wants you to be her brain all the time. Although she won't make a revolution at home, you can't communicate with her, and you will never get the tacit understanding of your heart and the charm of husband and wife. Moreover, your mental burden will be particularly heavy. And this hidden pain cannot be confided or resolved. It's super sad.
Fourth, it is easy to lose yourself when you find a strong woman. Strong women are courageous, capable, playful, and open-minded. Marrying such a wife, you don't have to worry about anything at home and outside the home, and she will handle things before you react.
But you must know that the reason why women can be so hand-eyed must have a relationship network. That's a lot of investment. It's not certain, and if you're not careful, you'll put all your belongings in it. And, over time, you will also develop a dependency mentality. To sum up, if you marry such a wife, you may eventually become a "brainless" who has nothing to lose.
Fifth, what suits you is the best. The above four points are all to help you clear the fog of obstacles, let you return to sobriety, and stay sober. Men must be self-aware. It's the same with finding a wife.
This is what really loves her and is capable of loving her. When you answer in the affirmative, then no matter her face, temperament, ability, knowledge, or her ability to sing and dance, romantic and amorous, even her temper is good or bad, and so on, everything will be your soft spot.
She must be the other half of God's special for you. Congratulations!