42-year-old live-in nanny, the man knocked on the door at 11 o'clock in the evening, and I saved his marriage with a word!
My name is Zhang Guixiang, I am 42 years old, and I work as a live-in nanny in Guangzhou. The employer I work for is a pair of businessmen, the hostess is 45 years old and the man is 48 years old, and they are running a factory.
Every month, the hostess paid me a salary of 5,000 yuan, which was not much but not less. I have to pay for my son's tuition and other living expenses alone, and the expenses are relatively large.
One night, after a long day's work, I fell asleep in bed after taking a shower. Suddenly I heard a knock on the door, I was startled, and quickly sat up and asked who it was.
Ah Xiang, open the door, it's me. The male host's voice sounded outside the door, looking a little domineering.
I glanced at my phone and it was already 11 o'clock in the evening. At this time, what did the man ask me to do?And the hostess took her daughter to her mother's house, and I was the only one in the house.
Although I was a little confused, I considered that if I didn't respond, his loud shouting might wake up the neighbors and cause unnecessary trouble.
I quickly turned on the lights, put on my long sleeves and pants, and checked to make sure it was neat before I went to open the door.
However, the moment I opened the door, the male host suddenly fell on top of me, and the smell of alcohol came to my face.
My instinctive reaction was to push him to the ground in one fell swoop, then turn around and prepare to spend the night at my rented fellow villagers.
Ah Xiang, I heard that you have been divorced for more than 10 years, are you happy after the divorce?The man got up from the ground and sat on a stool and asked me.
I don't understand why the male host Gao Feng came to me late at night to talk about this issue, but his words made my deep pain instantly welling up in my heart.
More than 20 years later, I still feel the pain of not being able to breathe and regret it.
I was born in a remote and impoverished mountain village in Guangxi, where there are not even a few cars. My family was poor, I was the second in the family, and I was forced to go home to help my parents in the farm before graduating from primary school.
When I was 15 years old, my cousin returned to her hometown from Shenzhen and said that she worked in a garment factory and was responsible for installing zippers, and her piecework salary was 5 cents a piece. After becoming proficient in work, you can earn thousands of dollars a month.
When my family heard about it, they wanted me to follow my cousin to Shenzhen and work in that garment factory to contribute to the family income.
After arriving in Shenzhen, I realized that the large garment factory mentioned by my cousin was actually just a small workshop of less than 20 square meters.
Although the piecework wage is 2 cents a piece, because we are minors and do not have ID cards, we can't even get a job in the guannai, so we can only do black work in these small workshops.
The owner of the factory, a native of Hubei, was extremely shrewd, and when he saw that we could not obtain ID cards to enter the regular factory, he kept his wages very low, only 2 cents a piece.
When I first arrived at the factory, I could only complete 50 zippers a day due to my lack of proficiency. Once returned by the factory for rework, 5 yuan will be deducted for each zipper.
At first, I made a lot of mistakes, worked hard all day, and barely earned enough money to live. After deducting the food expenses for the factory owner, there is only a few hundred yuan left in the month.
At the beginning, I sent home 90 yuan, and only kept 10 yuan for my own use. But even so, my parents were still dissatisfied, always saying that I forgot my home when I went out, which was too selfish. Earns thousands of dollars a month, but only leaves less than 100 yuan for the family.
No matter how I explained it, my parents didn't believe it and always felt like I was cheating on them. Fortunately, I was able to use the boss's ** to call the village, and my parents went to pick it up**.
Every time I hit ** back, my parents always scolded a few words. I scolded a lot, and I gradually beat my family less.
Initially, I lived with my cousin in the attic provided by the owner of the small workshop. My cousin fell in love soon after, and she moved away with her boyfriend.
Without ID, I had nowhere to go and was trapped in a dark room of less than 20 square meters almost 24 hours a day. Without someone to talk to, life becomes very difficult.
Just when I felt like I couldn't take it anymore, Ah Wei broke into my life.
Ah Wei and the boss are fellow villagers, and one day the boss took him back. The owner asked him to greet us, he greeted us in a friendly manner and gave me a fruit candy.
Maybe it's that candy that makes me have a good impression of Ah Wei.
Ah Wei was 18 years old at the time, had just gotten his ID card, and was able to go out every Sunday afternoon. Every time he goes out, he cares if he needs to bring something. We're getting acquainted.
We even fell in love like city people, Ah Wei is eloquent and sweet, and often says things that make my heart flutter. The relationship is getting deeper and deeper, and we stick together almost every day.
On my 18th birthday, Ah Wei proposed to me with a few months' salary to buy a ring, promising me a lifetime of happiness. With his solemn promise, I promised him that we would move out and live alone.
However, after getting deeply into the relationship, many things happen naturally. Three months after moving out, I found out that my period was not coming, and to my panic, I found out that I was pregnant.
Ah Wei and I were helpless, I was not yet 20 years old and could not get a marriage certificate. And most of my salary is sent back to my hometown, and Ah Wei's salary is only 400-500, except for rent and living expenses, we can't afford to raise children.
I had to make the painful decision to give up. Afraid of acquaintances knowing, we chose a small clinic.
This decision became the fuse for my failed marriage and my lifelong regret.
When I was 20 years old, I went back to my hometown with Ah Wei to get a marriage certificate. After we got married, our in-laws let us stay at home and feed the fish together. So, we didn't go to Guangdong to work.
At first, my in-laws treated me in general and were polite to each other. Although he left his hometown in Guangxi and married in Hubei, his life is quite passable.
It's a pity that I haven't been pregnant for a year after getting married, and my in-laws' faces are getting ugly. At first, Ah Wei patiently explained, but after a long time, he was also annoyed. Every time there was a controversy, he avoided it.
My mother-in-law searched for all kinds of secret recipes for me to eat every day, but my stomach didn't move. Rumors in the village are also spreading.
Once, my mother-in-law brought me a cockroach-like insect in the medicine, and I was so frightened that I hurriedly threw away the bowl.
The mother-in-law angrily reproached: It is really unreasonable that the kind medicine was pushed down by me. After three years of marriage, but unable to conceive a child, people wonder if there was bad behavior when working in Shenzhen, which damaged the body.
Hearing my mother-in-law's rebuke, I was furious, pushed her away and ran straight out. The voice of my mother-in-law screaming from the back claimed that I had beaten her, while my husband anxiously ran to inquire about the situation.
I stood at the entrance of the village and waited for a long time, and Ah Wei finally arrived. However, unexpectedly, he questioned me if I had pushed my mother-in-law down.
Hearing Ah Wei say this, I replied coldly, yes, I pushed down my mother-in-law.
Ah Wei pulled me and persuaded me to go back and apologize to my mother-in-law. After three years of marriage and failure to get pregnant, rumors spread in the village, and the mother-in-law's family was already under a lot of pressure, and doing this again would only hurt their hearts even more.
Ah Wei's words were like a basin of cold water poured on me, and this home could no longer accommodate me. In a fit of rage, I chose to divorce Ah Wei and went to Shenzhen to work.
On the third day in Shenzhen, I found out I was pregnant. Mixed blessings, doctors recommend not having children this time because it can lead to lifelong infertility. I decided to keep this child.
I excitedly called ** to tell Ah Wei, he was just as excited and asked where I was. He came to look for me and persuaded me to go back and apologize to my mother-in-law, face the difficulties together, and live well.
Hearing Ah Wei's words, I hung up with a heavy heart. I continued to work and earn money until my belly grew bigger, and my boss worried about the problem and persuaded me to go home. So I went home and gave birth.
However, when my parents and younger brother saw me coming back with a big belly, they scolded me and drove me away. In the end, it was my grandmother who took pity on me and took me in.
Not long after the child was born, I entrusted him to my grandmother and went to Shenzhen to work to earn milk powder money.
Later, Ah Wei found me, but I really couldn't forgive him for standing in front of my mother-in-law and not speaking for me. I hid my son's existence.
Subsequently, Ah Wei never appeared again. When my son was older and asked his father every day, I thought about getting back together with Ah Wei, but at that time he was married and had children.
Over the years, I have worked hard to raise my son alone, and it is difficult for outsiders to understand the bitterness. No matter how much the outside world misunderstands me, I am willing to endure all the suffering.
However, whenever I think of the days when my son didn't have his father by my side, I feel sorry for him. I shouldn't have decided to let him suffer the humiliation of fatherlessness among his classmates.
While I was thinking about this, the male host Gao Feng whispered that he and the hostess had decided to divorce, and the hostess had made an appointment to register the divorce.
The man's words surprised me. I usually see that he and the hostess get along quite well, but I haven't seen them quarrel at home recently, why are they going to divorce?
Perhaps seeing my surprised expression, the man explained that in fact, the hostess had been divorcing him for a while, but they were all dealing with it in the store, because he was afraid that the children would not hear it well at home.
Hearing the man's remarks, I said excitedly that it is true that children will feel unhappy because of the quarrel of their parents, and divorce is a huge blow to children, so we must consider it carefully.
The man said gloomily that now that he has children and daughters, he actually doesn't want to divorce, but the hostess insists on divorce.
Knowing that women insist on divorce, I know that there may be sadness hidden in it, or it is just a test of the man's heart. I asked the man if it was convenient to reveal the specific reason.
The man smiled bitterly and said for a long time, and I finally understood that it was a cliché story.
Once, the man and the hostess entered the marriage hall, but only welcomed two lovely daughters. The mother-in-law has always been complaining about the hostess.
When the hostess gave birth to two daughters, the mother-in-law never came to take care of them for a day, and the hostess's mother took care of the confinement affairs. At that time, the careers of the two were just starting, the male owner was busy with foreign affairs, and the female owner was working hard to raise the two children**.
As her career flourished, her mother-in-law became more and more eager for a son. However, because the three-child policy has not been opened, the mother-in-law can only hope silently in her heart. Until recently, when the country opened up three children, the mother-in-law frequently called the hostess, urging her to have another son. Even yesterday, the mother-in-law actually appeared directly in their shop and asked the hostess to give birth quickly.
The hostess, who is over 45 years old and has a high risk of childbirth, resolutely refuses, saying that she will not have another child. This made the mother-in-law furious, and she proposed to divorce the male owner between words. The hostess angrily agreed to the divorce, and took her little daughter back to her parents' house that day, not planning to come back.
I asked the man what he thought about it, and he excitedly said that he would never want a divorce. The two have been together for 20 years and have two sensible and well-behaved daughters.
I suggest that he take a clear stand between his wife and mother and that he will never divorce. He can shop more in his wife's name and send his two daughters back to his hometown to spend time with their mother.
The man thought about it for a long time and finally decided to do so. Three days later, the hostess returned home with her youngest daughter, and the eldest daughter also returned from college, and the family got together and decided to go out to eat, restoring family harmony.
As the end of the year approached, and before I was about to leave, the man gave me a generous red envelope for the joy of the festival. I humbly accepted only $2,000 of it because it was they who really made their family happy, and I was just offering advice.
The happiness of a family is very simple, the man must have a firm stance and cannot avoid problems. Women should also not mention divorce lightly, especially if they have children, and need to think twice.