Relationships are about "breaking even", and if you only blindly take and are unwilling to give, then the relationship will be unbalanced.
If a woman wants to have a happy and long-lasting marriage, she must not only know how to enjoy the man's contributions, but also know how to meet the needs of men.
In marriage, what a man really desires is not love, but these two things.
Liao Yimei said in "Softness": "In our lives, it is not uncommon to encounter love and sex, but it is rare to encounter understanding. ”In the TV series "Do You Know", several of Gu Tingye's cousins committed crimes, and his uncles and aunts wanted him to intercede with the official family, but he did not agree.
When Gu Tingye said that he would "sell it at a high price" and let them beg him fiercely, his wife Minglan said: "You don't want them to beg, you just want them to admit their mistakes." ”
One sentence reached Gu Tingye's heart, Gu Tingye said: "The eldest lady really understands me."
It turned out that Gu Tingye had been framed and driven out of the Hou Mansion by them, and he hadn't even seen the last side of his father, and he had suffered a lot of grievances from them, and he felt that he couldn't swallow this breath.
Minglan understands his grievances very well, he is not a person who is cruel to his relatives, he just hopes that his pain and grievances can be seen and understood by the world, Minglan just compares his heart to his heart.
Having such an understanding wife is Gu Tingye's blessing, and it is also an important reason why he holds Minglan in the palm of his hand and pampers him.
When a man marries a wife, he not only wants a woman to be gentle and considerate, but also wants a woman to understand himself and be his own "interpretation flower", so as to be able to soothe his inner grievances and exhaustion.
If a woman can't meet a man's need to "be understood", then no matter how gentle and virtuous she is, she won't be able to enter a man's heart.
There is a saying: "The best love is the favor of men and the worship of women." ”In the original work of "Snail House", Song Siming and Jiang Miaomiao have been married for many years, and their relationship is getting weaker and weaker.
In Song Siming's eyes, his wife has shared weal and woe with him, and now no matter how successful she is, she will not worship her, even if she is admired by others, her wife will still see herself as the "poor man who is almost suffocated to death by a penny".
Jiang Miaomiao doesn't have any admiration for her man, even if Song Siming has a successful career and takes her to a good life, she will only enjoy it with peace of mind, and she doesn't have any appreciation and praise for her husband.
Therefore, Song Siming's need to "be worshipped" in his heart cannot be realized in his wife. Seaweed, on the other hand, takes her to a five-star restaurant for dinner, and she will not only say "thank you" shyly, but also ask "How do you know?" with surprised eyes”
In Seaweed, Song Siming can feel the feeling of being admired as a successful person, and can feel that he is worshiped by a woman as a hero, thus stimulating his deep desires.
Men have a "hero complex" and hope to become a hero in the minds of women and be appreciated and admired by women. If a woman has no sense of worship for a man all the time, it will make the man feel disappointed and bored, and the distance between the hearts will become more and more distant.
Marriage is not about two people living together, but two people working hand in hand towards the future. A wise woman will not only know how to take care of a man's body, but also enter his heart.
In marriage, what a man really desires is not love, but to be understood and worshipped. When you truly meet his inner needs, he will treat you as a true lover and love you more and more.