Social Xi is what people are doing in a particular waySocialIt is a normative behavior cultivated and formed in the environment, which has a deep historical background and cultural significance. However, in the present daySocial, some traditional social Xi due toSocialThe rapid development of the economy and the acceleration of people's pace of life have begun to have some negative effects. For example, as a traditional way of socializing, the purpose of Sui Li is to express care and blessings to others, but in real life, it often becomes oneFormalismand the phenomenon of comparison. In order to maintain social relationships and gain the favor and support of others, many people have to give gifts for a certain amount of money, and this conventional rule often makes people feel constrained and uncomfortable.
Recently, a brave girl was in Yanbian, JilinCircle of friendsHe has publicly stated that he will no longer participate in these ineffective social interactions. She points out that classmates who have not been in touch for more than 10 years have lost their meaning to her and are just putting unnecessary pressure on herself and others. The girl's behavior has aroused widespread concern and thinking. Her courage and determination tell us that changes in social Xi require us to re-examine and adjust. Rather than blindly following tradition, beSocialIt is better to start from the heart and choose a social way that is meaningful to you and can truly connect with your heart.
In addition, with the development and popularity of social networking, people's social circles have become larger and more complex. We passCircle of friends, Weibo, WeChat and other platforms keep in touch with a large number of people, but truly meaningful relationships are becoming increasingly scarce. People tend to pursue short-term online socialization and ignore real, in-depth communication. Therefore, we need to recognize the false and the real, and create more authentic and valuable social relationships.
1. Real and false social relationships
Socialization is an instinctive human need that we can obtain through socializingA sense of belongingto meet the needs of self-interdependence with others. However, in a large number of social relationships, the real and the false are often blurred. Especially on social **, people are more likely to make some unreal performances and make up a fiction that they fitSocialThe image of anticipation. Instead of bringing people real satisfaction and happiness, such false social relationships can lead to anxiety and loneliness.
In order to build authentic social relationships, we need to learn to share our hearts and true feelings with others. Don't pursue superficial vanity and pandering, but be true to yourself and others. It is only in authentic communication that we can find people who truly resonate with us and care about each other. Therefore, re-examining the nature of social interaction and advocating a genuine, reciprocal way of communicating can help us build authentic and meaningful social relationships.
2. Free choice and social pressure
Social stress refers to a sense of anxiety and urgency that people feel when socializing. In the face of different social circles andRelationshipsWhen we are often forced to do something that is not in line with our own wishes andValuesbecause we fear losing the affection and support of others. However, this compulsive social behavior can often make people feel tired and uncomfortable, losing their true self expression.
To alleviate social stress, we need to re-examine our motivations for engaging in social activities. OursValueswithRelationshipsIt should be a good match for each other and conducive to one's own growth. You should be clear about your bottom line and stick to your principles. When we are faced with some ineffective socialization, we can bravely refuse and express our true thoughts and feelings. Only by reducing unnecessary social pressure can we be more free to choose the social relationships we want to build and maintain our true selves.
1. Distinguish between real social relationships
In order to avoid falling into the quagmire of ineffective socialization, we need to learn to recognize real social relationships. Genuine social relationships should be based on authenticityEmotionand commonValues, you can confide, support and help each other. In contrast, ineffective social relationships tend to be based on interests and superficial interactions, lacking in authenticityEmotionand value resonance.
We can judge the authenticity of social relationships by observing the social behavior of others and ourselves. Genuine social relationships are based on authentic expression and mutual understanding of each other, while ineffective social relationships are often built to satisfy some superficial need or cater to the expectations of others. Therefore, we should dare to reject those social relationships that are not valuable to us, and seek out and maintain those social relationships that are authentic and meaningful.
2. Have the courage to refuse the pressure of ineffective socialization
In the face of the pressure of ineffective socialization, we need to learn to be brave enough to say no. Whether in the workplace or in everyday life, we should not go against our will in order to meet the expectations of others. We should maintain respect for ourselves and the right to choose freely, and stick to principles and bottom lines.
When we feel that a social activity is meaningless to us, we can resolutely refuse to participate in it, and we do not have to give in to the eyes of others. We should be clear about our needs and values, and stick to our bottom line. By having the courage to reject ineffective socializing, we can reduce our own stress and burden, while also conveying to others our quest for authentic and meaningful socialization.
3. Find and build authentic and valuable social relationships
In order to pursue authentic and meaningful social relationships, we need to strive to find and build such relationships. First of all, we need to know what kind of social relationship we really need and what kind of person we want to have that relationship with. We can then seek out those with ourselves by participating in social events, joining groups with common interests, or looking for like-minded people onlineValuesMatching people.
Building authentic and valuable social relationships requires us to express our thoughts and feelings authentically, and to communicate and interact deeply with others. We should respect, care and support others, and at the same time, we should make others feel that we are sincere and attentive. It is only through genuine social relationships with real, meaningful people that we can feel truly happy and fulfilled in our social interactions.
Social is peopleSocialAn indispensable aspect of life, it is both a way for us to express ourselves and connect with others, and a way for us to acquireA sense of belongingwithSocialA path of support. However, in the present daySocial, some traditional social Xi causes and personalValuesDisconnected from demand, it becomes a burden and a constraint. Social behaviors such as courtesy and socializing often no longer have real and meaning, but have become oneFormalismand the phenomenon of comparison.
To address the problem of ineffective socialization, we need to start with the individual andSocialTwo levels of thinking and solving. Individuals should be brave enough to face their hearts and needs, and dare to reject social interactions that are meaningless to them. We should have the courage to pursue authentic and valuable social relationships, find like-minded people with us, and advocate a genuine way of communicating. At the same time,SocialIt should also provide people with an environment and opportunities for more freedom of choice and genuine interaction, and reduce itFormalismand the social Xi of comparison.
When dealing with social stress and ineffective socialization, everyone needs to have a clear understanding and choice about how they live and socialize. We should respect everyone's decisions and think rationally about our own needs andValuesand have the courage to jump outSocialPressure and the constraints of others' expectations. At the same time, we also need to pursue real happiness and fulfillment by building deep social relationships with authentic, meaningful people. Healthy and happy social relationships can only be achieved if we remain our authentic selves in social interactions, respect the choices of others, and pursue truly meaningful interactions.