The story of the bottom family of the doctor, the parents worked hard to cultivate
gnaw to the bone marrow", the family has a doctorate, and it seems that the scenery is actually the parents are struggling to support it.
Climbing the academic ladder for a PhD is like touching the ceiling, and it's also a rewarding experience for parents. Parents can take pride in seeing their children grow into physically fit, well-groomed, and academically successful adults because they have created a fulfilling life for their children.
The power of support varies from family to family. Wealthier families can allow students to make their own choices and provide them with enough resources so that they can do so without worrying about their choices.
For low-income families, students are like levers in the hands of their parents, they are raised to be more determined from an early age, and once they succeed, the status of the whole family will be raised. A college student from a humble background will become a noble son in the eyes of the people in his hometown, and completing a doctorate is a step that requires a lot of hard work from his parents.
For families living at the bottom of the ladder, obtaining a doctorate may seem glamorous, but it is actually the result of the persistent support of parents in the midst of hardship. Today's college students are good at using online resources, actively participating in part-time jobs, and some even perform well, and no longer need to rely on their parents to pay for living expenses. At the master's level, where there are relatively few courses, students can also make the most of their spare time to earn a living. Although the PhD stage is tough, it is possible to earn a certain amount of income through part-time work and project participation**.
A netizen shared his relative's son's school experience, which seems to be different from the general perception. This young man has been in the eyes of people since he was a child"An excellent son of someone else's family", has always been known for his excellent academic Xi results, and his successful admission to 985 colleges and universities also depends on his personal efforts.
At the college entrance examination teacher appreciation banquet, his excellent performance made others envious. Everyone thought that this ordinary rural family would change because of their son's excellent grades, but when it came to college, his grades didn't seem to be so good. Universities are full of talent, and graduate exams are highly competitive. After failing the first postgraduate exam, the young man decided to try again.
Even after graduation, he had to go home to study, and in order to worry about efficiency, his parents paid for him to rent a house in other places so that he could concentrate on studying Xi. After three postgraduate exams, she finally got her wish. Generally speaking, it is not easy for a rural family to study for a master's degree, but he chose to study for a doctorate.
Although he has grown up after hard work and Xi, he has not been able to bring his parents a life worth boasting about. On the contrary, he has been in"Gnaw the old"status. When he wanted to continue his education after completing his studies, he found that he did not have enough connections, and even complained that his parents were not capable enough.
To outsiders, such a family seems to be very good, and it is real to be able to raise a child with a doctorate"The pride of the sky"。Such a person should have a good earning capacity so that parents can enjoy a good life. However, in fact, the boy's mother was secretly wiping tears in a corner that outsiders could not see, and she felt that she was not helping her son.
After graduating, the Ph.D. began to plan his life, buying a car, buying a house, and finding a partner to start a family. In the countryside, the parents of the house are just in time for the demolition, and although they have not asked for a property, the money from the demolition will be used to buy a house for their son.
When they grew up, their parents paid no attention to education at all costs, hoping that their son would become a doctor, but it backfired. The son has a family, but the parents are in the countryside, in a strange city with a language barrier, and they can't get along with the locals. In desperation, they had to pack their bags and return to their hometown to rent a house.
The doctorates cultivated by the bottom families did not bring substantial material benefits to their parents, but made them upset. At first glance, the scenery is infinite, but in fact, it is difficult for parents to insist on support, and the old couple has never enjoyed a leisurely life as they grow older, and the distance between them and their son is getting farther and farther away.
In the face of endless suffering and hardships, successful people should also hope that their sons will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes. While it cannot be said that people with PhDs lack conscience, they may lack a sense of responsibility. Some people believe that highly educated people who have lived in big cities for a long time have become refined egoists who only focus on their own interests. They chase vanity, love face, dress well, and like Western food and dramas.
In fact, the parents of these highly qualified talents may still be living a simple life in their hometown. The reason why these students are able to leave the family environment and move towards a broader life is first of all due to their continuous overcoming of difficulties in their studies, their Xi of studying day and night, and their inner bookishness, but they are also absolutely inseparable from the silent support and persistence of their parents behind the scenes.
For example, I learned about a relative who was also from a rural mountainous area who had paid for his son's PhD. As a result, the son received a degree, gained a broader perspective, and moved abroad with a small family, leaving his elderly parents to live a simple life in the ravine.
Even if they are envied by others and praised by their families, for parents none of this changes the truth: they have witnessed their children step by step into their own lives.
Some people say that the elderly who have lived in the countryside for a long time are reluctant to leave their homeland easily, even if their children have a good income. This statement is true, but it does not correspond to the situation of the doctor described by the author. Parents may voluntarily stay where they are, while children may be reluctant to let them follow in their footsteps, which are two completely different concepts.
As students start a new life, it's important to look back from time to time and realize that there is a complete difference between parents voluntarily staying where they are and children not wanting their parents around. While parents don't expect students to reciprocate, at least don't let them lose their place of roots.
Today's topic: What do you think of the education model for students from poor families?