My name is Wang Yan, 55 years old this year, I work as a technical director in a foreign company, and my annual salary is stable at about 800,000 yuan. My daughter Mingmei is 18 years old and was admitted to a 211 university in Beijing after the college entrance examination.
Mingmei has been the pearl of my wife and me since she was a child, and we have high hopes for her, and we have always wanted to train her to become a good citizen who loves the country, has a sense of social responsibility, and works hard.
I'm usually very busy at work, often working overtime, and the time to go home is not fixed. Fortunately, my wife is a full-time housewife and can concentrate on taking care of Mingmei's life and Xi. Whenever I come home and see Mingmei's sweet smiling face, all the tiredness of work is swept away.
After Mingmei went to high school, I adjusted my job and tried to make sure that I was home by 7 p.m. every night to have dinner with my family. I also often take the bus to take Mingmei to school. On the way, we talked about Xi and life, and the relationship was very good.
After Mingmei's college entrance examination, my wife and I discussed with me that we would give her a living allowance, and that I would have more experience in college life in the future, and I couldn't always rely on my family. Considering that the cost of living in Beijing is not low, plus various expenses such as tuition fees and textbooks, we decided to give her 8,000 yuan per month for living expenses.
A few days ago, Mingmei suddenly called me and asked for 50,000 yuan, and her voice was very anxious. I was surprised and hurriedly asked her, "Mingmei, what's going on?"Why are you asking for so much money all of a sudden?”
Mingmei said: "Dad, you quickly transfer 50,000 yuan to me, and I will explain to you." This thing is really important and related to the rest of my life!”
I was even more worried: "Mingmei, you tell Dad, what is it that needs to spend so much money in such a hurry?."Did something happen to you at school?”
I was taken aback and immediately asked seriously, "What boyfriend?".How long have you known each other?How long have you been dating?How did I not know you had a boyfriend?What does it mean to buy a house?You're only a freshman now, are you talking about getting married and buying a house?”
Mingmei said with some dissatisfaction on the other end of the **: "Dad, you don't understand anything, it's very common for college students to fall in love and get married now." I've been with Xiao Ming for a year, he's very good, he's very good to me, and now his family wants to buy a house, I just want to donate some money, what's not okay?”
I was furious when I heard this, and reprimanded me harshly: "Mingmei, you listen to me, even if you fall in love at your current age, it's stupid to marry someone else and buy a house!."You're only a freshman, and you're thinking about getting married and having childrenWhat about your studies?What about your future?I don't agree to this ridiculous request, you give me Xi go back to school and study hard!”
Mingmei cried in **, choked up and said: "Dad, why don't you understand me so much, Xiao Ming is so good to me, I just want to do him a little favor, express my heart, and make our relationship go further, what's wrong with this?."I'm really sad, you don't seem to care about my feelings at all. ”
I was still very angry, raised my voice and said, "Mingmei, I only think about your happiness." Now that falling in love affects Xi, even if you still want to buy a house and get married, it's too inappropriate!You're young, you're ignorant, you've been blinded. If I don't agree, I don't agree, don't discuss it with me!”
Mingmei cried even more sadly on the other end of the **, and her tone also carried a hint of resentment: "Dad, you are an emotionless person, you only want to control me, and you never care about my feelings." I hate you!After saying that, he hung up**.
The next day, I came to Mingmei's school and called her ** downstairs in the dormitory. Mingmei was silent for a long time, but finally agreed to come down to see me.
Mingmei said with red eyes, "I'm fine." Yesterday I was too excited to say something like that, sorry Dad. ”
I hurriedly said, "No, it's Dad who is not good, and he shouldn't have rejected you so resolutely." Tell me, what the hell is going on?”
Mingmei sobbed and told me that her boyfriend, Xiao Ming, had a bad family, and his parents were farmers and lived in a mud tower house on the outskirts of the city. Xiao Ming's family wants to move to the city, but they can't afford to buy a house, so they can buy a house cheaper by connecting with the developer. For this reason, Xiao Ming's family has put together half of the deposit, but recently the developer urged to pay it all at once, otherwise it will be transferred to other buyers. Xiao Ming was in a hurry, so he begged Mingmei to find a way to get together the deposit and help his family buy this house.
It turned out that Mingmei had no intention of getting married, purely to help Xiao Ming, a boyfriend who was very good to her. It dawned on me that I had completely misunderstood Mingmei's good intentions and brutally rejected her.
I said to Mingmei distressedly: "Baby, I'm sorry, it's my dad who is not good, I shouldn't veto you without listening to your explanation." You have such a good heart to help others, Dad is actually very pleased. It's just that you're still young and not cautious enough to handle relationships and money, and Dad is too anxious. Can you forgive Dad?”
Mingmei nodded, buried her head in my arms and sobbed lowly. I gently stroked her hair and let her express her emotions quietly.
After a while, Mingmei calmed down, and I asked her softly, "What are you going to do about that house now?"Need help from Dad?”
Mingmei raised her head and said, "No need Dad, you made me understand a lot." I am still young, and dealing with these complex interpersonal relationships needs to be Xi slowly. I will communicate this with Xiao Ming well. ”
I nodded and said, "Daddy respects your choice." It's up to you, and if you really need help, you can tell your dad. Sorry, I didn't give you the space to express yourself before. ”
Mingmei reluctantly smiled and said, "Dad, in fact, I also have reflections. I shouldn't have made my own decisions behind your back, and I wasn't mature enough to handle things. In the future, I will consult with you more and learn to be careful about your relationship and money problems. ”
I hugged Mingmei, and I felt that our father-daughter relationship was growing by leaps and bounds. I need to learn to let go and let Mingmei experience it on her own on the road of growthMingmei also needs to learn to think independently and not be led by others easily.