Narrator: Li Zhenzhen.
My name is Li Zhenzhen, born in 1962, 61 years old this year, my husband is 9 years older than me, he is as tall as me, ** is rough, and he is a complete ugly man in today's eyes.
I was very beautiful when I was young, with a height of 165 meters, weighing 110 pounds, well-proportioned, goose face, big eyes, white skin and beauty, as bright as me, how can I find an ugly man to be my husband?Daylily has no mother, it's a long story.
I am a rural girl, born and raised in the countryside, my family is a half-farmer and half-worker, my father is employed, and my mother is a farmer at home.
I have an older brother, an older sister, and a younger sister below.
In 1979, I barely finished high school and didn't get into college. My grades in school were not very good, I was at an average level in school, and at that time, I had to get a top grade when I was admitted to university, and I couldn't even get close to the edge of my average grades, so there was no hope of repeating it.
I didn't choose to repeat my studies and go home to participate in production and labor, not because my family conditions were not good and I was not allowed to repeat them, but because I knew that I didn't have much material in my stomach, and repeating was also reading in vain, spending money in vain.
At that time, my elder brother had already become a private teacher, and my sister was also recruited into a large collective work in the county, and the family conditions were okay.
But I didn't know that a bad luck befell my family, my father fell ill, and although the whole family tried their best to treat him, they still didn't keep him.
My father was gone, and his job could be replaced by a child, and I was the most suitable person. My brother and sister both have jobs, and my sister is still in junior high school, so this replacement place naturally fell on my head.
After completing all the formalities, I became a salesperson at a department store under the commercial department.
Not long after I went to work, there were many uncles and aunts who introduced me to people, but often others fell in love with me at a glance, and I didn't fall in love with each other.
In the past, I didn't think I was so beautiful in the countryside, but after I joined the work, I learned from my colleagues how to dress up, perm my long hair, and buy dresses to wear, but I never put on grease and powder.
Maybe it's the 18th change of the female university. Gradually, others said in front of me, intentionally or unintentionally, that I was beautiful, and I didn't think so.
At that time, our county seat was not very big, it was just a straight street, and there were so many shops on the street.
At that time, it was still the early 80s, in the era of the planned economy, and the size of the city was very small.
I don't know when it began, it was rumored on the street that there was a female saleswoman in a department store who was particularly beautiful.
Then our counter business is very hot, often there are aunts and young boys who come to buy things, and some come in and don't buy anything, just ask twice and leave.
In this way, wave after wave, wave after wave.
The good sister laughed at me, saying that these people are here to buy things, to see you, I am noncommittal, I feel funny.
Slowly, someone gave me the nickname and called me Counter Shih Tzu.
Although there are many people who pursue me, there is nothing that is very much to my liking.
Soon, I established a relationship with a boy surnamed Wu in the unit, he began to be very nice to me, our meal tickets were put together, we went to the cafeteria together after work to eat, after eating he went to wash the dishes, he would also help me wash my clothes and shoes.
But one of his biggest drawbacks is that he doesn't allow me to associate with other men, he can't even say a word, he wants to control me.
Once, we had a heated argument over this matter, and I proposed to him to break up, and he thought I was angry with him.
At this juncture, a boy surnamed Wang, who was in charge of general affairs in the unit, wrote me a letter and expressed his love to me.
I was thinking about how to reply to his letter, so it dragged on for a few days, and as a result, I found a reason for him.
One day after work, he stopped me on the road, and before I could open my mouth, he smiled and said, "The letter I wrote to you, and you have not replied to me for so many days, it means that you may have a good impression of me, otherwise you would have returned it to me a long time ago." At the very least, it means that you don't dislike me, why don't we try to get along?”
Originally, I was going to turn him down, because he wasn't tall, he wasn't good-looking, and he was still old.
But because I had just broken up with my ex-boyfriend at that time, I wanted to be angry with him, you don't let me have contact with men, I want to have contact.
I thought to myself, I'm just getting revenge on my ex-boyfriend, I can't possibly fall in love with this ugly, old man.
Who knows, this old man's rank is high, and within a few rounds, I will bow to the upper hand.
He has a mouth that coaxes people to die, he wastes no time in providing me with emotional value, and he is also very generous, often taking me to clear soup and snacks. When I was younger, I was a bit greedy.
Slowly, I was conquered by him, and I felt that although he was not good-looking, he had an interesting soul. Moreover, he is very mature, has a comprehensive and systematic view of problems, has a strong sense of family responsibility, and is a responsible man.
After the people in the unit knew that I was in love with him, they shook their heads one by one, feeling sorry for me, and even many people talked about it behind my back:Flowers are planted in cow dung
Although I feel very uncomfortable when I hear this, I am a relatively simple person who does not like to worry, and I feel that I should find someone who can carry the burden of the family like this, and I just need to eat and do idle work.
At first, my family didn't agree with me falling in love with him, but then I slowly told some of his things to my family, and the family felt that it was more appropriate for me to find a responsible person, so I no longer objected.
In this way, we got married after two years of dating, and a year later, our son was born.
It turned out that I was also worried that the child would be like him, but as a result, God still took care of me, the child was not like him at all, and his appearance, ** everywhere looked like me, he was a handsome young man.
Our family lived peacefully until 2006. This year, my husband and I were both laid off.
When I was first laid off, I was also very anxious and didn't know what to do in the futureHusband comforted me, don't worry, he is on top of the sky when it falls, although he is not tall, but it is still okay to help me and my son hold up, let me put my heart back in my stomach.
Listening to his words, I burst out laughing, and although he didn't do anything for the time being, his words did relieve a lot of my anxiety.
Later, a good friend of his asked him to go to Guangdong to rent out a house, and he thought it was a good project to do.
I believed in his vision, and we took out all our savings, borrowed a sum of money from our brothers and sisters, and went to Guangdong to do a rental house business together.
In those years, the rental house business in Guangdong was really good, the factories were so dense, there were many part-time workers, and there were many people who came out to rent houses.
It didn't take long for us to earn back all the costs we had invested, and then we made net profits every year.
Later, we bought a house in Guangdong, and our family only came back occasionally for the Chinese New Year to reunite with our brothers and sisters.
Now our family has settled in Guangdong, and through the accumulation of these years, we also have assets of more than 10 million.
After my son got married, he and his daughter-in-law also settled in Guangdong, and my son became a father, and my daughter-in-law gave birth to a daughter and a son, and we were promoted to grandparents.
Although the rental house business has not been easy in recent years, we have the money we have made in the early stage, so it doesn't matter.
The people who laughed at me for putting flowers on cow dung now envy me.
Through my marriage, I have come to the conclusion that in fact, men's appearance is not the main problem, but many people don't understand it when they are young, so they pay more attention to their appearance. In fact, with the passage of time, even beautiful people will grow old and ugly. And if you spend a long time with someone, no matter how beautiful a person is, you can't feel beautiful anymore, and no matter how ugly a person is, you can't feel ugly.
I think that the key to choosing a man is to see whether he has the ability, whether he is responsible, whether he is a responsible person, and whether he can provide emotional value. As for appearance, these are secondary.
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