Differences in the management of emotions are particularly evident in children. Xiao Ming is a boy who often cries, so he is often jokingly called "little girl" by adults. When he is wronged or bullied, tears come out of his eyes. However, while crying, Xiao Ming is able to express his situation normally, and takes the initiative to ask teachers or parents for help, in the hope of attracting the attention of adults and treating him fairly. It is gratifying that Xiao Ming is very sensible, good at communicating and expressing his emotions, and his emotions are relatively stable, so he was appointed by the teacher as a small teaching assistant in the class to serve the class.
On the contrary, Xiaoyue is a girl who doesn't like to cry. The reason why she doesn't cry is because she was often reprimanded by her mother for crying when she was a child, which made her scared and didn't dare to cry easily. All the grievances and sadness she encountered could only be borne silently, and she was not good at expressing her heart, and she was not good at communicating with others. In fact, crying is a normal way for children to vent their emotions when facing difficulties and setbacks. Sometimes a child is able to release negative emotions with just a catharsis. In contrast, if the child does not cry, these emotions will be buried deep in the heart, affecting the child's character development.
This suggests that when it comes to emotional management, children who are used to crying will be better at processing and expressing their emotions than children who don't, so that they can communicate and communicate with others better.
We can find that when making friends, people tend to look for people who are lively and cheerful, sincere and courteous. These people have a high level of affinity, are able to open the hearts of others, and are willing to make friends with others. In contrast, relatively reticent people are always alone, and even if they work together for long periods of time, it is difficult to really understand their personalities and preferences, and they always feel that there is an insurmountable obstacle between them. This phenomenon is also reflected in children who are accustomed to crying and not crying from an early age.
Children who allow themselves to cry from an early age are better at releasing stress and negative emotions, they like or hate things directly, love and hate in their hearts, and they have no psychological defense. Children who are accustomed to not crying, or even not allowed to cry, usually have a strong sense of psychological defense, and rarely show emotions of joy and sorrow on their faces. They are always insecure and resistant to contact with others.
This shows that there are differences in the psychological defense mechanism between children who are accustomed to crying and those who do not like to cry from an early age. Children who are accustomed to crying are good at releasing their emotions and opening up to others, while children who do not like to cry are often defensive and reluctant to contact others.
Children who are accustomed to crying and are allowed to do so show significant differences in physical and mental health. When a child's emotions are accepted by the parents, it is like the child expressing his needs by crying, and the parents are timely to comfort and meet the child's needs. In this way, the child learns to vent his emotions, avoid the backlog in his heart, and will not be troubled by negative emotions, which is beneficial to physical and mental health.
On the contrary, children who are accustomed to holding back crying or who are forbidden to cry are not necessarily "obedient and sensible" as everyone says. These children don't know how to vent their emotions, and when sadness, grievances, and sadness pile up, it can have a negative impact on a person's physical and mental health. These children often feel depressed, and even if they encounter a major dilemma, they may even have an emotional breakdown.
Therefore, parents should treat their children's "crying" emotional expressions reasonably, understand the emotional needs of their children in the process of growth, and provide individual guidance and help according to the actual situation of their children to help them grow up healthily.
Children who cry at every turn" and "endure without crying" will grow up with obvious gaps in emotional management, psychological preparedness, and physical and mental health. Children who are accustomed to crying are good at expressing their emotions, communicating and communicating more smoothly with others, and are more sensitive to their own emotions. In contrast, children who do not like to cry tend to have psychological defense mechanisms and are not good at socializing with others and expressing inner emotions, which may affect their interpersonal relationships and healthy development.
Therefore, parents should take a correct view of their children's crying emotions, understand their children's emotional expressions, give their children a tolerant and safe environment, and support them to vent their emotions correctly. At the same time, parents should also provide appropriate guidance and help according to their children's personality and needs, help them establish good emotional management skills, cultivate a positive and healthy attitude and good interpersonal relationships.