I always hear some parents say that they are very busy, not only to be busy with housework, but also to find time to spend with their children, parents think that they want to accompany their children, in fact, they do not know that their children are also with them.
Raising children is by no means a one-way process of giving time, energy and money, it is also a process in which parents are needed, guided and encouraged by their children.
The need for guidance and encouragement is an indispensable element of parents' own psychological development.
Therefore, raising children is a process of mutual nourishment and mutual growth between parents and children.
Wu Gang, a psychological parenting expert, psychological counselor, and co-founder of Aiguo Parent Growth Academy, has more than 20 years of experience in child and family psychological counseling.
His book "Mutual Nourishing Companionship" is based on the concept of children and parents growing together in the process of parenting.
Here he first proposed that before raising children, we must first raise ourselves, and we must give ourselves full energy in order to give better guidance to children.
And learning Xi and reading this book is actually an important part of replenishing this energy and supplementing the corresponding knowledge.
This book also has professional love for children, cultivating children's sense of security, allowing children to grow up in games, helping children learn to learn Xi, and other related specific guidance on parenting, so that parents can understand various problems that may arise in the process of growing up, and give corresponding suggestions.
Unhappy parents can't raise happy children
We became parents of children without any on-the-job training and served for life. What kind of parents do you expect to be and what kind of children do you expect?I want the family to be full of laughter, parents not to yell or scream, and children to be respected and grow up happy.
Teacher Wu Gang wrote a "Letter to My Eighteen-Year-Old Daughter" in "The Companionship of Mutual Nourishment", which made me see parents who don't yell and children who grow up happily. The letter reveals the love, worry and careful care of all parents in the world for their children, and is also filled with the author's husband and wife and their children coexist equally, harmonious and warm atmosphere. In Teacher Wu's family, parents and children are their own identities, just like husbands and wives, they are both family members, and no one is an accessory to anyone, living and growing up together. For his daughter's eighteen-year-old testimonial, he did not follow the teachings, look forward to it, and be strict, but because he had witnessed the growth of eighteen years, out of love in his heart, he gave friends blessings. This harmonious mode of getting along is in stark contrast to the fact that many parents need to use "biological" to soothe themselves and calm their minds when talking about their children, the chickens and dogs jump when parents tutor homework, and the children are caught and criticized for making a slight mistake. I believe that Ms. Wu's daughter is growing up happily.
Teacher Wu said: Unhappy parents can't raise happy children.
Before becoming parents, we must first cultivate our souls, relieve our anxieties and fears, and heal our inner wounds, so that we can welcome this new life that intrudes into our lives in the best state. 
To raise happy children, you must first be happy
Those who educate themselves must first educate themselves. Perhaps our childhood was not happy enough, compared to the rich material life of children today, our childhood was full of food and clothing, and our parents were busy with their livelihood and neglected our emotional needs. However, now we are too interested in the result of chicken babies, perhaps parents are more nervous, whether it is to help children adapt to the rhythm of society or to meet their childhood dreams. While trying to meet the material needs as much as possible, the child is always expected to develop in all aspects of language, mathematics, English, chess, calligraphy and painting, which puts a lot of pressure on the child to learn Xi. Of course, it is also the rapid development of modern society, and the continuous transmission of social pressure.
Nurturing oneself should sort out our original family relationship, reconcile with ourselves and our parents, invest unconditional love for our children, and enjoy the process of accompanying our children to grow up. In the process of raising children, it is inevitable to encounter various problems, for the contradictions between children, Wu Gang said: "Parents should take the initiative to adjust themselves, and strive to adapt to their children, but not let children adapt to themselves." After all, parents are adults, they have experienced more things, are more emotionally stable, and have a stronger ability to withstand stress. Therefore, parents should be more rational and firm to balance the relationship with their children.
In the process of raising children, parents have to pay money and energy, as well as spiritual care and life guidance, which also prompts parents to constantly surpass themselves and get a second growth. Parents and children are accompanied by each other, and they also nourish each other and achieve each other. 
There is only one time in life, and there is only one time in youthWith the development and progress of the times, concepts are also being updated, and parents should also keep pace with the times when raising their children.
Life is a long process, how to help children choose a stable life, what parents should do is to continue to learn Xi in the process of children's growth, grow together with children, and guide children to form correct values with correct values.
It is important to know that it is very important to learn Xi in life, but life is not only about learning Xi, but also about having a healthy mind and personality is more important than anything else.
This book not only teaches us how to educate our children, but also teaches parents how to better guide their children as they grow up.
Let children be interested in the world and science, cultivate children's independent personality, cultivate children's sense of security, and the meaning of games and reading, and how to help children grow and Xi learn better in games, the author also gives good guidance.
It is also a very important responsibility of parents to enlighten their children's interest in learning and Xi.
Edutainment should not just be a slogan, but should be a reality in the family.
I hope that more parents can better practice the concepts in this book after reading this book.
It is the duty of a parent to help your child as much as possible within your ability.
There is only one time in life, and there is only one time in youth
Write at the endParents accompany their children to grow up, help them grow up according to the laws of science, and give full play to the potential contained in their talentsChildren accompany their parents to relive their childhood, psychologically make up for the lack of their parents' childhood, and repair the trauma of their parents' childhood.
From the moment you become a parent, the companionship of mutual nourishment has quietly arrived. In a sense, children give far more to their parents than their parents give. I hope we can cherish our children's youth and give them more relationships. Develop the Xi habit of lifelong learning Xi, keep trying, have the courage to explore, enjoy the process of growing up with children in the process of parenting, enjoy the process of mutual nourishment, learn Xi with children, grow together, and create a better future together. I hope that all parents in the world can enjoy this journey, cherish this journey, and reap the joy in it.