I really don't like a certain scene of An Jie in the play. Big brother Antai brought his family to visit her on the island. Jiang Defu suggested that An Jie pick her up, but An Jie not only refused, but also angrily commented that An Jie did not act like a big brother.
The eldest brother and sister-in-law and niece, who have not seen each other for many years, came to the island, and as a younger sister, she did not go to the pier to pick them up, but slandered them behind her back. I don't know what she thinks, but I think she's a very assertive girl, serious in her work, and never cares about personal gains and losses. It was infuriating that she didn't even go out of the yard.
Before that, whether it was Lao Ding or An Xin, she chose to go to the beach to greet her, but when her biological eldest brother came to the island, not only did she not go to greet her, but even when she saw them coming, she still stood in the room waiting for her brother and sister-in-law to arrive, and then politely called "brother".
Her parents died at an early age, and the three siblings supported each other, so why would she be so upset with her brother?
An Jie is very dissatisfied with her brother, on the one hand, because her brother forced her to marry Jiang Defu, which made her feel wronged;On the other hand, it is because her brother has not visited her sister An Xin's family for many years.
When I ** "Parents' Love" again, I found that An Jie's dissatisfaction with his brother actually had a third reason. There is a complex humanity hidden in her perception of her brother, and her misunderstanding of him has persisted for decades.
Antai's opinion on Anjie's wedding.
An Jie mistakenly thought that her marriage to Jiang Defu was a forced choice, and when she objected to her daughter Yafei's marriage contract with Wang Haiyang, she confessed directly to her daughter, saying that her original decision was out of helplessness.
Over the years, she and Jiang Defu have lived well spiritually and materially, but deep down she is still a little dissatisfied with her brother. She felt that her brother and sister's lifestyle was too wrong. She felt that the helplessness back then was because of the relationship between her brother and sister-in-law, and if it weren't for the relationship between her brother and sister-in-law, she might choose to marry the person she liked.
In fact, Anjie's view is extremely incorrect. If not, then it should be said that she herself chose the wrong person, she herself chose a wrong path!Was it really her brother and sister-in-law who pushed her marriage to Jiang Defu?If she wants to, then what does she deserve?There is no doubt that there are some reasons for this, but her initial choice to marry Jiang Defu was entirely due to her personal feelings. If she doesn't agree, then according to her stubborn character, who can force her to do something she doesn't want to?Who can force her into the palace of marriage?
Let's review the various reasons and results of An Jie's initial marriage to Jiang Defu. In this story, I saw a lot of details about the relationship between marriage and love, and it also made us realize more clearly that marriage needs love. Among all the shots, An Jie and Jiang Defu's first official encounter is undoubtedly the most critical scene.
After learning the news that Jiang Defu was at home, An Jie's sister-in-law felt very relieved. She believes that if An Jie chooses to marry the People's Liberation Army, then her family will be more proud, at least there will be no more humility when she goes out.
Secretary Yang arranged for Jiang Defu and An Jie to meet at her home, while An Jie left in work clothes. She said that today she was going to see her sister, who was playing in the yardShe didn't realize that her sister-in-law and brother Antai were standing by the window, watching her figure fade away, and Antai was looking at her sister with a worried face. Her sister-in-law also said: This matter will definitely not succeed, you see she doesn't even dress up. Obviously, he's just working on a few minor tasks.
Antai turned around and sighed deeply.
An Jie's sister-in-law complained: Is it really meaningful to sigh!You turn a deaf ear to her, and because of her personality, do you think there really is a chance for pie to fall from the sky?
Antai scolded her harshly, saying: You'd better keep your mouth shut. If you are silent, no one will think you are dumb!
In this scene, although Antai did not make his position clear, from his behavior, we can clearly feel that he wants his sister to marry Jiang Defu, because considering the special environment of his family at the time, someone like Jiang Defu is indeed needed to help them get out of the predicament. However, from another point of view, he also understands that it is a bit unfair for his sister to marry such a person. Therefore, as an older brother, he would secretly watch his sister go on a blind date from behind the window. In this situation, he felt very conflicted, on the one hand, he felt sorry for his sister, and on the other hand, he also hoped that his sister's marriage would be successful. He hoped that his brother could help him, but he did not want to see his brother do this, because it would create a gap between them, which would not be conducive to the development of their relationship in the future. This practice will have a positive impact on their entire family life.
When everyone learned the news that An Jie and Jiang Defu were about to get married, her sister-in-law said that when she went out, everyone had already greeted them, and her brother An Tai also expressed his willingness to go out and play with them. She said that she was a child who grew up outside the home, and now she is studying at home, so it is different. It can be seen that the impact and transformation of Jiang Defu's identity on An Jie's family is huge.
Subsequently, because An Jie was disgusted with Jiang Defu, An Tai also tried to persuade An Jie. Although it was unsuccessful, Antai's remarks undoubtedly left a shadow in An Jie's heart.
When An Jie expressed dissatisfaction with Jiang Defu's illiteracy and "big boss" behavior, An Jie responded:
Why illiterate?What happened to the big guy?Do you really think that the big boss loses the ability to rule?In the history of China, there are quite a lot of Caokou emperors with cultural backgrounds, and the absence of culture does not mean that he lacks talent. An illiterate boss can become the head of a group, which means that he is very talented and capable. Even if you think he is illiterate, if such a person can take off his hat, then his future will be limitless. Little sister, I suggest you think twice!
Actually, Sister An Xin also said something similar, so what did An Xin and An Jie say?
An Xin said frankly: "Frankly speaking, I occasionally hope to marry such a person like my eldest brother and sister-in-law, so that our family can have a support." But I don't want to do that, it's just too much of a grievance. ”
An Xin knows that her sister An Jie has always been an arrogant person, and she firmly believes that her future husband will never be an uneducated and rude man Jiang Defu. But according to the actual situation at that time, An Jie's marriage to Jiang Defu will undoubtedly have a positive impact on the An family.
In fact, on the issue of An Jie's marriage to Jiang Defu, his brother and sister hold the same opinion: they both care about their sister and hope that their sister can marry Jiang Defu. But An Jie was not angry with his sister, but blamed all the hatred on his brother. My sister is a very kind girl, but she is not a kind girl. Among them, the deep affection between her and her sister since she was a child, as well as her dissatisfaction with her brother, are one of the reasons.
So, did An Jie choose to marry Jiang Defu because he did it voluntarily, or was he forced by his eldest brother to decide?
An Jie married Jiang Defu, whether it was voluntary or forced.
Initially, An Jie was not interested in Jiang Defu, but since they met once, the contact between them has decreased. In order to promote their relationship, Secretary Yang specially assigned An Jie to invite Jiang Defu to the hospital to give a speech. When he said "I love you", he actually shed tears with emotion. That incident profoundly changed An Jie's view of Jiang Defu.
At the meeting, Jiang Defu shared the stories of his comrades-in-arms who fought bravely, which deeply touched everyone present. An Jie was shocked when he saw Jiang Defu's signature, and even An Xin felt incredulous. Because when I met An Jie for the first time, Jiang Defu's handwriting was not good-looking, but this time's handwriting was more attractive than the last time.
Later, Jiang Defu visited An Jie's home for dinner, and An Jie was attracted by Jiang Defu's humor and wit, and began to establish a relationship with him. However, it was learned that Jiang Defu was very angry before and after marriage, which caused the two to break off their relationship again.
Subsequently, An Jie's nephew suffered from meningitis and urgently needed penicillin, so Jiang Defu went to the hospital to seek help from the director and successfully obtained medicine to treat An Jie's little nephew.
This opportunity laid a solid foundation for the development of the relationship between Jiang Defu and An Jie.
It can be seen from the whole play that although An Jie's marriage with Jiang Defu was influenced by her brother and sister, the real decision-making power is still in An Jie's hands.
An Xin told her sister Jiang Defu that he was a talented person. Although Jiang Defu has experienced divorce and his education level is not high, you can completely ignore his education level because his divorce proves his honesty. He is a very honest person, and a very responsible person, he will not tell anyone about himself. An Xin persuaded An Jie like this:
In my opinion, whether he is married or not is not the main issue. His educational background seems to be more crucial than divorce. But you seem to have come on board. I think he's really a talented guy, and that's very important, especially his humor and wit. He was a man of integrity and kindness, and if he hadn't told you about his marriage, how would you possibly know that?After getting married, do you know how you will treat him?Furthermore, if you have an argument with someone, he doesn't come to bother you. If something goes wrong in our house, you just lick your face and ask them, but they don't take a handful of medicine from us, and it's really hard to deal with, and they will even go to grandpa or grandma for help. Of course, there is a factor in this, but it also means that they care about you more and like you more.
A man who genuinely likes someone, does not rely on words, but through deeds, merely verbal promises and does not put them into practice is unreliable and unfit for marriage
In fact, An Xin and An Tai's advice to An Jie is similar in many ways. But An Xin is more inclined to persuade An Jie fairly and objectively, so she can accept it. She knew that her sister said this out of consideration for herself, but Antai's advice was more out of concern for Jiang Defu's future, and actually for An Jie's future. However, due to Antai's different expressions, when An Jie listened to him, he actually wanted to use him to take better care of Jiang Defu. As a result, Anjie is unhappy with his brother.
Does An Jie have some kind of emotion for Jiang Defu in his heart?
She expressed dissatisfaction with Jiang Defu's education level and divorce experience, but Jiang Defu's humor and wit always made her laugh out loud, and at the same time brought her a sense of vanity. She likes to wait for him at the door of the pharmacy and every time she sees a beautiful and young girl. Since she met Jiang Defu, her colleagues at the pharmacy have become more friendly to her, and even when their superiors talk to her, they will use your honorific title as a sign of respect.
Even at home, her sister-in-law treats her kinder than her sister. She mentioned that eating meat would cause her to get angry, so her brother immediately asked her sister-in-law to cook mung bean soup for her. The younger brother is also a person who loves to compare, and in front of the younger brother, the younger sister is always much stronger than the younger brother. Jiang Defu brought An Jie a sense of vanity, which made her feel very face-saving, coupled with Jiang Defu's own humor and wit, which was also the reason why An Jie finally chose him.
Therefore, An Jie's decision to choose Jiang Defu is ultimately her personal choice, and her brother and sister are just expressing their own opinions. She didn't want her thoughts to be known. If An Jie does not agree, then no one has the ability to force her.
Later, when Jiang Defu went to Songshan Island, An Jie didn't want to go. In order to avoid embarrassing Jiang Defu, Antai claimed that this matter was his responsibility, and they would persuade An Jie. But An Jie bluntly said to An Tai in front of everyone: "You say it very simply, don't say it casually, no one can be my master, don't have any plans in your heart!."”
Her eldest brother is An Jie, who mercilessly refuses to save any face for him in front of his family. He is a very honest person, and he knows that the status and influence of the eldest brother in the village are not good. From start to finish, she never really valued the big brother. She knew that her eldest brother had a lot to say to him, but she just wouldn't listen. From this incident, we can clearly feel that An Jie married Jiang Defu not out of respect for her eldest brother, if she has no good impression of Jiang Defu, then no one can force her to do so. What she hates is that she has feelings for her eldest brother. Therefore, her hatred for her eldest brother seems a little incomprehensible.
However, An Jie didn't realize that there was a deep reason behind the eldest brother asking her to marry Jiang Defu.
Aetna's hard work.
Antai is not only the only male member of the family, but also the eldest son in the family. In that eventful time, he had a great responsibility to protect the whole family, and he understood that An Jie's character was straightforward and could easily cause trouble. Because of this, when Jiang Defu went to Songshan Island, he warned An Jie not to talk nonsense and to pretend to be a doorman verbally. Anjie doesn't take this seriously, Antai tells her that there are military families in his unit who are labeled as rightists, and stresses that the families of military personnel are not their talismans, he warns Anjie to be extra careful, and advises him to contact Jiang Defu as soon as possible. He knows very well that only Jiang Defu has the ability to protect An Jie.
It is true that he considered letting An Jie marry Jiang Defu out of personal selfish desires, but as his elder brother, he understands his sister's character better, she is both narcissistic and proud, and has a rough personality, if An Jie marries someone else, how might he live?In that particular environment, only someone like Jiang Defu could understand and protect An Jie.
In the plot, An Jie's straightforward and undisguised remarks can be seen everywhere. After Jiang Defu left, she was almost marked as a rightist because of her straightforwardness, but fortunately, Secretary Yang came to the rescue in time. And on the island, Jiang Defu defended her, so that she was almost labeled as a rightist. She has a stubborn personality, and on the island, she is the bravest woman on the island. Whenever the children were unruly, she would complain about when such a life would end. Jiang Defu hurriedly reprimanded her, which made her cover her mouth in fear.
According to the various circumstances observed, if An Jie did not choose to marry Jiang Defu, but chose to marry a personable person with a similar personality to her according to her personal preferences, then it is not clear what her life will be, but her relationship with Jiang Defu is definitely not so good.
Therefore, Antai decided to let An Jie marry Jiang Defu, on the one hand, out of overall consideration for the An family, and on the other hand, it was indeed out of concern for An Jie. Sadly, An Jie never realized his big brother's deep kindness to her.
Subsequently, Ouyang Yi was labeled as a rightist, and An Tai decided to store all their belongings in his own home, and asked An Jie about her situation with concern, and if the situation was not good, he was advised to go to Jiang Defu as soon as possible to ensure safety.
Antey cares deeply about his two younger sisters, but since they were born in that particular era, they must learn how to protect themselves. Antai knows that surviving is the best way to protect the whole family, and everything else seems insignificant in his life.
At one meal, he invited his grandmother to dinner, and although he expressed sympathy for her, he did not see her as a nanny in the family.
Although he was Jiang Defu's brother-in-law, he behaved very humbly and cautiously in front of Jiang Defu, and smiled very carefully. An's old house was an ordinary three-story building, but now it has been demolished!Is he really willing to do it?His family hopes that An Jia can become a powerful man who can keep to himself like himself. If the An family hadn't been destroyed, Antai would probably have been that personable young man. His parents were good fathers and had great hopes for themselves. However, the wheels of fate keep pushing everyone forward, he learns in everyday life how to be silent, how to be cautious, how to control his sharpness, and for the safety of his family, he learns to let go of everything, what's wrong with that?
In the depths of Antai's heart, as long as everyone in the family is healthy, that is his deepest expectation as a big brother. "I'm the boss and it's my responsibility to make everyone happy!He never expected that although his sister An Jie was very headstrong since she was a child, she was actually a double standard.
AnJie has a double logo.
An Jieqi's brother once suggested that she marry Jiang Defu, but she didn't expect that it was because of marrying Jiang Defu that she was able to enjoy so many years of happiness. She was angry that her brother was a good person, and she thought she should do the same. She was angry at the estrangement between her brother and An Xin, but she didn't take into account that her brother had also faced his own predicament over the years. She is angry that her brother is unwilling to marry her, and she wants to know where her brother's happiness isWhen I traveled from my brother's house to visit her on the island, my little niece saw her family's house and commented that my sister-in-law's house was really spacious enough for me to understand how the Antai family had spent all these years.
She was angry that her brother didn't like her, but she was unwilling to let her son live with another woman, so she had to go and see what her son was doingYou have to understand that Antai's house used to be a luxury villa, but the little girl didn't see it with her own eyes. This means that in the past ten years, her brother's family has also had a very difficult time. He didn't go to visit An Xin, on the one hand, because he was worried that Ouyang Yi would cause him inconvenience, and on the other hand, he was also worried that An Xin might cause trouble. She was angry that her brother had a grudge against her. As an elder brother, An Jie did not blame his two younger sisters for neglecting him, but began to blame his elder brother.
Having said that, wasn't An Jie also worried that his sister would have a bad impact on them?She was afraid that her sister would put pressure on her. When she learned that her sister's brother-in-law planned to go to Little Black Mountain Island, she went back to ask Lao Ding, but she did not tell him the specific situation of her sister and brother-in-law in that place, only that there were relatives there. Lao Ding mentioned that Black Mountain Island belonged to Jiang Defu's management and suggested that Jiang Defu take care of your family, but An Jie eagerly said that he didn't need and didn't need his care.
After An Jie arrived on Xiaoshan Island, he never revealed this situation to Jiang Defu. If it weren't for Jiang Defu meeting Ouyang Yi when he was patrolling Little Black Mountain Island later, An Jie might have been silent about her sister's family's affairs on Black Mountain Island, wasn't she worried that she would be involved?Is she really afraid of being known?She was more than capable of doing so, and her brother's behavior became an excuse for her to criticize and take a cold attitude towards his family, which Anjie did too much.
In the social context of the time, Aetna was unable to achieve significant achievements in his career due to his background. However, as a man and as a big brother, it is his responsibility to ensure that his family can live safely, and only then can he find hope.
If a person has a double standard, it is that he is relatively lenient in his own requirements, but he is extremely strict in his requirements for others. Although he didn't do it himself, he insisted that others must do it. I feel like I'm supposed to be a good person. Instead of indulging in happiness, we should blame the person who has difficulties, doing badly here, not doing right there, did Anjie himself do the right thing?
If the first two things are blamed on An Jie's dissatisfaction with his brother, then the third thing is more of a reflection of the complexity of human nature. He was a child with low self-esteem. Anjie has always shown a superior attitude in front of his family.
An Jie showed an attitude of superiority in front of his family.
Because An Jie is married to Jiang Defu, she has always maintained a strong sense of superiority, which can be seen everywhere in the play, she not only has this feeling for others, but also for her brothers and sisters.
Once, An Jie returned to his mother's house, and overheard his sister-in-law scolding his little nephew at the door, saying that the way he ate was very similar to that of his little uncle, and An Jie left without even entering the house.
After that, An Xin called** to tell them that her brother's birthday required them to come home, but she refused. Antai then called Jiang Defu again, so they returned. Anjie has shown a very arrogant attitude at many family gatherings.
She pulled everyone to praise Jiang Defu's white suit for being beautiful, but when her sister An Xin pouted lightly, she began to entangle.
Later, when she gave birth, An Xin went to the island to take care of her, and it happened that Ge Meixia also came to visit her, An Xin served Ge Meixia a cup of tea and said, "Please drink tea."
Ge Meixia spoke highly of An Xin's beauty and eloquence, while An Jie smiled coldly, thinking that she was a helper from a wealthy family. "Look, what more can I do at my age!An Xin heard this sentence when she just walked to the door. Despite the grief and indignation in her heart, An Xin smiled and handed her the soup. After that, Dehua asked An Xin to tell An Jie, hoping that he would keep his distance from Ge Meixia so as not to have a bad impact on Jiang Defu.
An Jie criticized An Xin for only saying other people's words, but not his own words. She mockingly said that An Xin's husband Ouyang Yi was also a rightist, which made An Xin's tears fall instantly, she and her family suffered greatly, and her own sister continued to evaluate her like this. An Xin said: Maybe I shouldn't mention you, but I tell you that my purpose is not for me, but for your well-being.
There is a disagreement between the two sisters, and An Jie tells her that An Xin has changed, and An Xin responds that you have also changed, become too conceited, and seem to be lost in happiness.
On this particular occasion, Anjie showed her arrogance, open-mindedness and superiority towards herself, and performed very well. She thinks her sister is the one she envies. When her sister served her soup and was in front of everyone, she was supposed to give her sister a break, but she didn't. In the face of the praise of her sister from the outside world, she felt jealous and even commented that it was just a servant's words. She felt that her sister was a person who did not know how to be polite. Eventually, she forced her sister to explain what the differences were between the two, an act that completely angered An Xin, questioning why she deliberately asked questions and thought it made sense
My sister is making noodles, she is a teacher, my sister is going through pain, she is enjoying happiness, but she still forces her sister to uncover the scars and ask why, as An Xin said, it is all obvious.
Every word An Xin said was heart-wrenching, those sisters who were close when they were young, grew up and went to different paths in life because of the difference in their living environment.
As Zhou Guoping describes in his work "Love and Solitude": those who were once very close have become more and more distant with the passage of time. When they actually met, they were eager to measure the distance with words, as if everyone had become accustomed to it, and the indifference of life was like that.
This is exactly the way An Jie talks to An Xin, and from her expression and tone, you can feel a superior and self-responsible attitude, which makes the distance between her and her sister An Xin widen in an instant.
An Jie has an attitude of conceit and superiority towards both her brother and sister. She has liked her brother since she was a child, and she likes him to be honest, conscientious and down-to-earth, and very sympathetic. Deep down, she was convinced that it was her marriage to Jiang Defu that improved the living conditions of the whole family, and as a result, she became proud, narcissistic, and dismissive of anything. She thinks that her brother is a good man, her immediate boss, and her lifelong dependence. She had hatred in her heart, and her brother, whom she hadn't seen for years, came to visit her, and to her shock, she didn't even leave the house. She felt like she was bullying others and bullying her brother. She felt that her brother was not showing what her brother should be. She thought her brother was here for her. Is she acting like a sister?
Unfortunately, Antai has devoted her life and care to the An family, but she has never been able to truly understand her brother Antai's deep love for her.