I have a soft spot for Hao Dongmei's mother in the play, and veteran artist Song Chunli's interpretation of the role of Dongmei's mother is particularly good. It is worth mentioning that the character of Dongmei's mother has not been modified too much, but has truly reproduced the image of the old revolutionary in the original work.
In the original work, Dongmei's mother experienced three unforgettable moments: the first time was for Zhou Bingyi to apply for an official position, the second time was because of a scandal related to Zhou Bingyi, and the last time was because she was about to die, so she interceded for Zhou Bingkun.
In all three descriptions, the old lady reveals her intelligence, shrewdness, and grandeur.
I once wrote an article called "The World", which was made public by Dongmei's mother's last words on her deathbed, revealing two facts and achieving three goals.
When I flipped through the book again, I realized that my previous description seemed too superficial. The old lady's last words on her deathbed, although they seem to be related to the Zhou family on the surface, actually have a more far-reaching meaning behind them.
Dongmei's mother, who loves to play chess, arranged a grand chess game for her daughter and son-in-law at the last moment of her life.
1 Because of his daughter's attitude towards Zhou Bingyi, he decided to apply for an official position for him.
When Hao Dongmei and Zhou Bingyi entered the palace of marriage, her parents knew nothing about it. At that time, her parents were imprisoned, and she was alone, only the Zhou family extended a helping hand.
Subsequently, Zhou Bingyi gave up the possibility of promotion for her. Dongmei was deeply moved, and the two became husband and wife on the battlefield.
In the original work, Dongmei's father died in prison due to being **.
After being rehabilitated, Dongmei's mother was very dissatisfied when she learned that her baby daughter was married to a young man born in the light word piece.
In this world, all parents aspire for their sons to marry a good daughter-in-law, and their daughters to marry a good son-in-law.
For every parent, ensuring their children's well-being is their deepest desire.
Although Dongmei's mother is a veteran revolutionary who has experienced the baptism of bullets, she is also a respectable mother, like many other mothers. In the years of the revolution. Eager to see their children live happily ever after.
Because of the conflict between her and her husband, her daughter suffered a lot. It is for this reason that she is even more eager to screen her daughter and ensure that she marries a competent husband.
But she never expected that her son-in-law would be a working-class son who could not write.
She expressed her displeasure with her daughter's flippant attitude towards marriage. If her daughter can stick to her mate selection principles until now, won't she have more choices?
But when she met Zhou Bingyi, her views quickly shifted. Because of his appearance, she realized that she was also a very lovely person. Zhou Bingyi surprised her very much not only in appearance, but also in speech.
Since Zhou Bingyi moved into her home, Dongmei's mother's satisfaction with this son-in-law has gradually increased.
Zhou Bingyi has a keen insight and the ability to handle affairs in moderation, especially after dinner every day, he is always willing to have a relaxed chat with her.
The reason why she decided to help recommend her son-in-law was because she had a light-hearted conversation with Zhou Bingyi.
On that day, she expressed her dissatisfaction with Zhang Zai's poems, believing them to be empty rhetoric.
Zhou Bingyi pointed out that a person should have an example worth emulating, but such an example must be sufficient.
Zhou Bingyi's words also show that he is a realistic and outspoken person.
At that time, Zhou Bingyi held the position of deputy inspector, but he did not have much work. After that conversation, Dongmei's mother decided to look for an opportunity for her son-in-law.
Zhou Bingyi was appointed party secretary of the military factory, which was recommended by Dongmei's mother to members of the organization department of the provincial party committee.
Although Dongmei's mother recommended Zhou Bingyi with her own personal motives, in fact, Zhou Bingyi does have the ability to hold important positions. These are all things that happened in the aftermath.
At that time, the arsenal was facing the most difficult challenge. In order to assist her son-in-law, Dongmei's mother decided to pay all the ten years of salary provided by the state for her.
In her life, she has never sought someone for her personal affairs to apply for an official position for Zhou Bingyi, which may be the first time she has done so. If she doesn't consider her identity as Dongmei's mother, she can't be seen as seeking personal interests for her own people by doing so.
Because of Zhou Bingyi's existence, he does have certain abilities.
Although her actions seem to be for Zhou Bingyi, she is actually out of consideration for her daughter.
She didn't want her son-in-law to enjoy any good luck, but felt that although Zhou Bingyi was forty years old, he was still idle in the position of deputy inspector. She knew that men of this age still wanted to continue to struggle, and she understood even more that if she continued to persist like this, she would eventually consume Zhou Bingyi's "fighting spirit" in her heart.
If Zhou Bingyi loses his enthusiasm and determination for his career, what will happen to his daughter in the future?
Furthermore, assisting a son-in-law is actually helping a daughter, which is a very simple fact.
Therefore, Dongmei's mother recommended Zhou Bingyi in order to allow her daughter to live a happier life in the future.
Dongmei's mother was very thoughtful for the sake of her daughter, but she didn't expect it, and the truth was soon revealed.
2. Use the most advanced gambling skills to protect your daughter's marital relationship.
Zhou Bingyi has put a lot of effort and thought into the arsenal. During my three-month trip to the Soviet Union, I wanted to find a completely new path for the arsenal.
Three months later, Zhou Bingyi returned with honor as expected. Dongmei's mother was very happy, and even changed the title of her son-in-law from Bingyi to "Comrade Bingyi".
She felt that this organization was very wise, and that the adjustment of Zhou Bingyi from the position of deputy inspector to the arsenal was the smartest decision.
Unexpectedly, a newspaper involving Zhou Bingyi's scandal spread quickly in other provinces. The newspaper devoted only half a page to an article headlined: "Transnational Deals Spawn Transnational Romances, While Companies Achieve Win-Win and Bloom Romance."
According to newspaper reports, the night before Zhou Bingyi was about to return to China, a doctor named Olia hosted a family banquet for him. In front of many guests, Zhou Bingyi and Oliya kissed affectionately for a long time, and Oliya even shed tears.
Zhou Bing** explained that Oliya is not only his doctor, but also provided great support for his cooperation this time.
In the TV series, the dialogue between Dongmei's mother and Zhou Bingyi is known as a classic.
She first handed Zhou Bingyi a newspaper and told him that after she received the newspaper, she would entrust her old comrades-in-arms to investigate the ins and outs of the whole incident. "Did you say that?Then, his tone suddenly became cold, and he asked Zhou Bingyi: "Is it your words or my words?"”
Dongmei's mother speaks very fluently, and these words are full of deep meaning.
She hinted to Zhou Bingyi that she had grasped the general truth of the matter, and if you wanted to say it, I would like to give you a chance. I don't know what he really thinks because I don't know if he really wants to tell you the story. But for me, lying is impossible to succeed.
After Zhou Bing** finished explaining, she asked several questions in a row, pressing step by step, making Zhou Bingyi unable to fight back.
Eventually, she asks the question: If it weren't for this news story, you would never have mentioned her again
At that moment, Zhou Bingyi obviously hesitated for a moment. How could she have that much strength to pull a person out of the freezer?What kind of person is Dongmei's mother?She knew everything in that instant.
She stared at Zhou Bingyi firmly for three seconds, and then slowly spoke:
Indeed, what should be said should be said, what should not be said should not be said, and the advantage of selectively saying is that you not only achieve your goal, but every word you say is true. If it's a lie, it's a lie. Therefore, sometimes telling the truth is not always true.
She was skeptical of the biased words Zhou Bingyi had made.
She asks her son-in-law if he really has feelings for OllyaShe was so young and beautiful, both capable and willing to lend a helping hand, and at the same time capable of helping him.
When the mother-in-law continued to ask, Zhou Bingyi, who has always been articulate, couldn't speak.
Dongmei's mother didn't keep chasing and fighting, she just told him:
You are not only a person, but also a man, and you may encounter similar situations in the future, but please give you a clear boundary, that is, you must not go off fire when doing anything.
See, this is a demonstration of the great skill of the game. First, a fierce flame suddenly hits, catching the enemy off guard, and then, although understanding, it also sets the bottom line.
In our folk tradition, there is such a saying: give a slap to a sweet date, and Dongmei's mother will first give a slap to the sweet date, and then give her a warning. So, how can we achieve "one hand to pay the money, the other hand to pay the grain"?Three aspects at the same time.
Zhou Bingyi thought that his mother-in-law's trial was about to end, but before he had a chance to calm his anger, the second wave of shelling of Dongmei's mother began.
She once again used Minister Sheng's matter to criticize Zhou Bingyi. He should learn from it.
Then, he revealed the ** of the news to Zhou Bingyi again, and solemnly warned him: "Unless I don't do it myself, others may not know." "I'm a very assertive person, I don't trust anyone easily, I don't tell anyone any secrets, but I leave some marks in my life." Everything you do will not be forgotten after you are done, and will always be noticed by others.
In the course of the entire conversation, this is the second time that Dongmei's mother has dealt a blow to her son-in-law, logically speaking, the son-in-law has already apologized and the matter has been resolved.
Despite this, Dongmei's mother still chooses to express her opinion from the perspective of her son-in-law:
This group of journalists really understands that hugging and kissing are seen as a form of etiquette abroad, and we are acting according to local customs.
Although the four words "follow the customs" are short, Dongmei's mother gives a complicated explanation.
First of all, if Dongmei learns about this, Zhou Bingyi can use these four words to elaborate, so that there will be no estrangement between husband and wife.
Second, when outsiders ask, they usually use these four words to explain. This practice helps to eliminate unnecessary guesswork and speculation from the outside world.
Dongmei's mother started her investigation work before the liberation, and she not only knew everything about Zhou Bingyi well, but she was also a very good negotiator.
In a short period of time, she not only criticized her son-in-law three times, but also considered him from his perspective and planned a strategy for him to deal with follow-up problems.
In the face of her son-in-law, who made mistakes, she did not choose to stand on the moral high ground to blame, but made sure that his face was maintained. He didn't care, he just told her about his mistake. He also tactfully stated that what he said was not the truth.
I read what she said over and over again, and the more I read it, the more I felt that she was amazing.
Considering the current situation, this conversation of hers can almost be seen as an excellent example of how to handle a crisis PR campaign.
But it's far from over. Dongmei's mother continued to develop her high-level negotiation strategy.
In the original, this is how it was described:
If Ollia sends you a letter, you can choose to keep it secret from Dongmei, but never from me. I had to read every letter carefully. If you don't write, I don't know, your letter is in**. If you want to reply to my letter, I have no objection and I will even support you. Because of the help and efforts of others, you have successfully won a huge project for the factory at a critical moment. If they take the initiative to write to you and you choose not to reply, doesn't this show the indifference and ruthlessness of Chinese men? Your reply must be trustworthy and valuable, and don't write it stiffly, which will affect the trust and goodwill of others. This matter is not only about yourself, but also about the public image of us Chinese, so I agree with your reply. I hope you don't get confused about things, and write a letter after you figure things out, otherwise you will be laughed at. The premise is that I need to carefully review your reply, all out of concern for you. As for your attitude, I don't care. If Dongmei learns about this and holds you accountable, I will respond that I have already seen you, can't I also defend you?
The expression of this sentence is more profound. Dongmei's mother even paved the way for Zhou Bingyi's future. Let's take a look at a few core meanings conveyed by this sentence:
You can keep your letter secret from Dongmei, but you must not hide it from her. directly cut off the opportunity for Olia and Zhou Bingyi to rekindle.
Document 2 can be replied to. She also needs to review her correspondence carefully. The goal is the same as before. We must cut off Zhou Bingyi and Alya from all future opportunities.
3 This is not only about your personal affairs, but also about the public image of us Chinese. From simple personal emotions to the image of the state and the nation. "I think we want to be good citizens!This sentence was made by Dongmei's mother, as a senior party member, with foresight.
4 The topic refocused on the small family, the purpose of which was for the future relationship between Zhou Bingyi and Dongmei. She has the ability to defend Zhou Bingyi.
Dongmei's mother has walked in such a long circle, and each sentence expresses a different meaning, but the key thing is that every word of hers is very reasonable, and every sentence is for your consideration. Do you think I'm convinced?Ask Zhou Bingyi if you agree?
Whenever Dongmei's mother spoke, I was deeply moved by her. This old woman is really very smart.
So far, regarding Olia's problem, Dongmei's mother has taught her son-in-law three times, and each time she has patiently persuaded him. What do you think she would think?You think it's all over?No, no, no, no!Absolutely not!The old woman had other means. You say you don't say it, and she knows. If others really can't make a move, that's enough, and once you do, you'll be completely wiped out, and there won't be an inch of grass left.
Immediately after that, she made such remarks again:
Is it because I don't have a son?I know you have a bad temper, but I don't want to divorce you. Am I not my son?I love her for work, and I love her because of work. I understand that you are a well-behaved man and have a special affection for Dongmei and will not do anything to be sorry for her. I also know that you have sacrificed your family and love for work, so I don't want to see you do anything hurtful to others. Is it understandable that you are out of the need for work?I love her in my work. For me, I don't just protect you, I care and care for you on a deeper level. You and her mother are a loving couple. Back then, because there was a maid from the Soviet Union in the family, I took the initiative to find it, which caused Dongmei's father to suffer a lot of trouble.
You must know that your position and role in the party determine that it is closely related to your personal interests. At present, the relationship between the two sides has begun to evolve in a better direction, but it is still necessary to maintain a certain degree of vigilance. Your family is there for you, and you shouldn't interfere with you. Although you may just be an ordinary citizen, you are not an ordinary citizen, you are the top leader of the party, so you must always be vigilant and have a deeper understanding of politics. I think it's normal, because I'm a leader and I have to understand politics. In your eyes, this matter may not be important, but if someone within the company tries to use it against you, then you will also become a failure and lose the opportunity for further development. You know, if you work in this position for a long time, you're going to be treated like a villain. I'm different at first glance, I know more about politics than you do, and I can sift through the content for you. If a villain sees him as an attacker, my old woman has the power to shield you from the wind and rain, whether it is an open or hidden arrow.
Again, this is a very high-level passage with several different meanings.
1I consider you my son. Therefore, my care and love for you is so deep.
2 I realize that you are a wonderful man and have a special affection for Dongmei. This is understandable due to your job.
4. Dongmei's father suffered losses precisely because of this situation back then. You also have to pay attention to your own image. As a cadre, if someone mishandles you, you will become a failure, and you will lose the opportunity to further improve in the future. If a villain tries to attack you, my old woman will stand in the way of you.
Because of the matter between Zhou Bingyi and Oliya, Dongmei's mother really put in a lot of effort. She tried many ways, but in the end she couldn't convince him. In this conversation, she criticized Zhou Bingyi four times and analyzed his strengths and weaknesses from multiple angles. He shows his emotions again, realizing that he is a kind man and has a special affection for Dongmei, and he does it purely out of the needs of his work, so it is understandable.
In the end, she would only take such actions if she regarded Zhou Bingyi as her son, and all her actions were out of concern for him. She will not sacrifice the happiness and dignity of others for her own sake. Moreover, she is willing to block all the open and dark arrows for him.
Everyone was deeply touched by such high-quality and touching conversationsIsn't this being a "good mother"?Facing this mother-in-law, how could Zhou Bingyi not feel deep respect?
The reason why I made an in-depth analysis of what Dongmei's mother said in the play is because I feel that this sentence is actually the most advanced strategic game between the mother-in-law and the son-in-law in our daily life.
How should a capable mother-in-law treat her son-in-law who has made a mistake?
What Dongmei's mother said to Zhou Bingyi is undoubtedly the best example.
What is the bond between Zhou Bingyi and Olia?
Dongmei's mother knows all about this.
She took such an action, first of all, because her daughter loved Zhou Bingyi deeply, and she hoped that her daughter could live a happy life.
Secondly, Zhou Bingyi is a very good person, and she hopes to give him a chance. Therefore, she did not just explain the pros and cons in detail, but also stressed several times that this would be the last time, otherwise she would not have agreed.
3 In the last moments of his life, he carefully planned for the rest of his daughter's life.
In the original work, due to a dispute between Zhou Nan and Luo Shibin, Zhou Bingkun was sentenced to 15 years in prison.
Dong Mei's mother died a month before Zhou Bingkun was released.
It was Dongmei's mother who expressed deep affection to him.
At that time, Dongmei's mother was in the hospital, and the leaders of the provincial party committee came to visit her.
She reflected on her life with her husband and said that without the influence of "**, she would not have been able to marry ordinary workers."
But considering that his only daughter and other people's sons have been married, and their relationship is quite harmonious. Then, it's time to leave the fate of this only son to yourself!As mothers, even if they feel deep regret, they cannot be separated.
After so many years, out of concern that her in-laws might come to her, she has never walked through the door of her in-laws, let alone seen them.
She knew that her life was coming to an end, and suddenly, she wanted to harness the power of her relatives. She knows that she can't live without her family and friends. This proves that he is still full of human care. She was going to visit her old grandmother and her mother to deliver them something. She hopes to contribute some strength to Zhou Bingyi's family.
Dongmei's mother was in very poor health, and when she said those words, her breathing had become rapid, and tears were flowing from the corners of her eyes:
If the cadre's family and the cadre's family become kinship, then both parties have the right to use each otherHowever, she didn't understand why the word "pro" was placed between two people. Either it's your family's affairs or mine's affairs, and both parties can use each other without distractions?My wife and I are both party members, but we have never had a formal organizational relationship at work. She is well aware of the current officialdom environment, and because of this, she does not feel that any of her personal demands seem too demanding.
Thanks to her pleas, Zhou Bingkun was released a year early.
Dongmei's mother pleaded with her son-in-law Zhou Bingyi for Zhou Bingkun, showing her deepest kindness.
Dongmei's mother's heart is like a mirror, she has kept her distance from the Zhou family over the years, although her son-in-law has not expressed it verbally, but he is really confused in his heart. She is good to her son-in-law, but she is not a good person in his mind, because he feels that he is not a person, but a man. Even my daughter was unhappy with her, believing that she had a social class.
According to the folk traditions of their time. Because at that time, there were many women in the man's family who were married into their own families. The woman's birth family usually visits the man's family first. Despite this, Dongmei's mother never took that step.
The reason why she took such an action was obviously based on the difference in social status between the two families, and she feared that the Zhou family might ask for her assistance for some reason. She is a very assertive woman, she doesn't like others to say that she has to worry about everything, she feels that this is not good for her family and society, so she has always insisted on it. She is a principled person, and over the years, she has never sought help from others for her personal matters.
Initially, she recommended Zhou Bingyi to work in the arsenal, although this was out of consideration for her daughter, she knew that Zhou Bingyi also had the ability to work, which is why she recommended him.
She lived her life with good qualities and integrity, but in the last moments of her life, she pleaded for forgiveness for her son-in-law's younger brother.
Her behavior has a unique meaning for Zhou Bingyi and the Zhou family as a whole.
For Zhou Bingyi, he loved his family deeply, but because his mother-in-law had not been in contact with the Zhou family for many years, this made him feel very troubled in the Zhou family.
I don't know about Zhou Bingyi's life in Dongmei's house, and he is still talking about his unsatisfactory life behind his back.
Despite this, Zhou Bingyi always believes that his family has not been affirmed by Dongmei's mother.
Therefore, Dongmei's mother intercedes for Bingkun, which actually contains several deep meanings.
First of all, in order to make up for the guilt she felt about her in-laws over the years, she showed the Zhou family through practical actions that she had accepted and accepted this family business deep down.
Secondly, to correct Zhou Bingyi's name, he is actually not an extremely unpopular inverted son-in-law as most people think. His wife was a very cultivated person. She has a great deal of value for this son-in-law. Because when he is outside, he can always get a lot of sympathy and help. Because of this, he began to care about his brother's affairs.
Third, she wants Bingyi to understand that her respect for him is so high. Although she never turned to her for personal gain in her life, in the last moments of her life, she took off her old face for her brother and asked for help. She said that if you asked her to give the letter to someone else, it would definitely be rewarded, because she thought so. She was determined to remember this kindness with a righteous heart.
The fourth point is for the sake of her daughter's happy life in the future.
Her real intention to save Bingkun was to hope that Zhou Bingyi would treat Dongmei well in this life.
Although Zhou Bingyi gave a good explanation for Olya's events back then, she knew in her heart that if Zhou Bingyi didn't act according to his logic, he wouldn't kiss Olya affectionately in front of everyone. But she just didn't believe it, her heart was still crazy about that man, because it wasn't she who he fell in love with. This happens simply because the emotions are so deep that they can't be controlled.
She knows her daughter's deep love for Bingyi, and once it is revealed, the pain caused to her daughter is immeasurable.
Furthermore, we cannot completely deny the value of Bingyi just because of a momentary mistake. He was a man of conscience. We still need to give him a chance.
Therefore, she prepared in advance and directly cut off all follow-up contact between Zhou Bingyi and Oliya. And use emotion and logic to explain the various stakes involved.
After that incident, Zhou Bingyi went to the Soviet Union twice, then to Linxing, and eventually he was appointed secretary of the municipal party committee of the province's second-largest city, and successfully served three consecutive terms.
In other words, due to work, Zhou Bingyi and Dongmei lived separately in the two places for a long time.
Dongmei's mother has rich life experience, and she knows that Bingyi is a trustworthy and good person. Because in her eyes, Bingyi will give people a kind of warmth and trust. However, she also understood that human nature cannot stand the test.
Many lovers with deep feelings end up suffering defeat in both separations.
Therefore, she decided to plan for her daughter's future life. She plans to use her ingenuity to design a chess game for her daughter and son-in-law in their old age, ensuring that they will always be happy in this game.
The reason why she saved Bingkun was because she was showing friendship to Bingyi. Because she knows very well that Bingyi attaches great importance to his family.
However, her action to save Bingkun was not only to show friendship to Bingyi, but also to show friendship to everyone in the Zhou family.
The people of the Zhou family will pour all their gratitude to their daughter into her. I guess that's what she wants. If that's the case, her wish can come true.
It's sympathetic that parents all over the world have a heart!
A parent's deep love for their children will lead to a long-term strategy!
Dongmei's mother was still thinking about her daughter in the last moments of her life, and when she pleaded with Bingkun, tears flowed. She said she was hurt by her daughter's "bad temper". It can be seen that she is full of complex emotions in her heart.
The reason why she saved Bingkun was because of her kind heart, and she wanted to make some contributions to the Zhou family.
She knows very well that as long as Bingkun becomes kind, Bingyi will also become kind, so that the whole Zhou family will become harmonious. So she entrusted her fate to this child. As long as Bingyi has a good relationship with the Zhou family, his daughter will also feel happy.
Since they are family, their loss and honor are shared.
Because you are my family, when you feel happy, I am equally happy.
This represents her deep care and dedication to her daughter as a mother.
This also represents another layer of meaning about family affection in this world.