After middle age, you need to learn these "lazy".
Someone once said: "Lazy people have their own lazy blessings, and they are idle and immortal for a day." In everyday life, it may be wise to be "lazy" once in a while.
In this complex social circle, if you can be moderately "lazy" in the following three aspects, you may be able to enjoy a precious tranquility.
Don't care too much about what others say.
Some time ago, a woman was forced to interrupt her weekly plan to take care of her father due to a sudden epidemic in Shanghai. Her father was seriously ill and not good at online shopping, so she decided to prepare her own meals at home and ask the takeaway boy to help deliver them to her father.
However, takeaway orders have repeatedly gone unanswered. She thought of a rider she had met before and tried to contact him. When talking to the delivery boy on the phone, she couldn't help but cry because of her concern for her father.
The takeaway boy felt her filial piety and promised to help her complete the food delivery task. Despite the difficulties faced by road closures and other difficulties, the delivery boy worked tirelessly and finally delivered the food to her father.
Knowing that it is not easy for the takeaway brother, the lady wanted to send him a thank you, so she prepared a red envelope. However, to her surprise, the takeaway guy refused to accept it. So, she chose to recharge 200 yuan to the takeaway brother to express her gratitude.
She shared this experience with her circle of friends and praised the dedication of the delivery boy. However, this act of kindness was condemned by some online "keyboard warriors", accusing the lady of only giving 200 yuan, thinking that she was too stingy and spoke fiercely.
The woman struggled to explain that she had just found a new job, that her salary had not been paid, and that her family had a seriously ill father and children to support, and that her life was stressful. However, these "keyboard warriors" were unmoved and continued to speak ill of each other. In the end, the lady could not bear these remarks and chose an extreme route to end her life.
After this tragedy, those who insulted her suddenly disappeared after she jumped off the building. No matter what we do, there will always be people who appreciate and someone who will point fingers. Therefore, we should not give up on ourselves because of the displeasure of others.
In this world, there are three things: one's own business, other people's business, and God's business. We must be good at managing our own affairs, conform to the destiny of heaven, and do not need to be too demanding on other people's affairs.
Unwilling to indulge in trivial disputes.
I once saw a story on the Internet. One day, Xiao Wei rode an electric car from work and passed through an intersection, and suddenly an electric car came speeding from behind, and because the speed was too fast, it collided head-on with him, and the two fell to the ground.
Fortunately, the fall did not result in injuries to either party. However, the other side unceremoniously broke out into an export water war. Xiao Wei felt a little at a loss, and then scolded back angrily. Soon after, the two sides escalated into a physical altercation in a verbal altercation, which eventually led to two people flying together with facial injuries and passers-by calling the police**.
Originally, it was a trivial matter, but if each other could take a step back, it wouldn't have evolved into such a situation. And in the TV series "Tiandao", there is a similar plot. **Ying went to the breakfast restaurant to eat wontons, but after paying the money, the proprietress said that he hadn't paid yet. In the face of such a trivial matter, **Ying chose to remain silent and took out the money again to complete the checkout.
In his opinion, instead of arguing with the hostess, it is better to pay a little more money, and the time saved can be used to enjoy ** or read books. As it is said, a person's happiness does not come from the amount he has, but from the fact that he cares less.
Mr. Zhou Guoping also emphasized that life requires a kind of wisdom that does not care. In the face of many unexpected and uncontrollable things in life, if you can tolerate or avoid those trivial and inconsequential things, you don't have to waste precious time on these things.
For those who don't like you, maybe it's time to learn to be lazy to please. After all, a person who pretends to be asleep will never be woken up, and a heart that does not love you will never be warmed.
In the hit drama "Wife's Choice", Xiaoyu's boyfriend Han Chao is a flowery person. Even though Xiaoyu knows this, she still loves him deeply. Once, Xiaoyu proposed to Han Chao in a bar wearing a wedding dress, but Han Chao did not respond positively, but quietly told her that marriage is a matter of two people, and she will talk about it when she goes home.
After that, Han Chao began to hide from Xiaoyu and avoided her under various excuses. In order to please him, Xiaoyu even borrowed 100,000 yuan to buy him a car. However, Han Chao did not show his acceptance of this, and only cared about enjoying the joy of having a car. He accused Xiaoyu of having a problem in her heart and asked her to see a psychiatrist, but Xiaoyu really went.
In life, we often meet people who are not worthy of please, and we lose ourselves for this. But understand that deliberately pleasing others will only damage your own dignity. Sacrificing self-esteem will only be exchanged for a more condescending and assertive attitude of the other party.
For those who are indifferent to you, why bother with their attitudes. If they don't like you, you don't have to cater to you, let alone please. Sometimes, it's wise to be lazy and spend the time and energy saved on something that really makes it worthwhile.
Great relationships are not based on flattery and self-lowering, but on authenticity and respect.
In the "Mid-Levels Anthology", he once said: "The true meaning of life lies in finding a way to be lazy all the time, if you are too lazy to be at ease, then this laziness can be maintained forever." ”
Master the technique of "laziness" in moderation, and life will become more peaceful. In the face of other people's evaluations, learning to deal with them calmly can alleviate many annoyances. When it comes to trivial matters, learning not to care about them will make your heart more peaceful. And for people who don't like themselves, learning not to be overly pleasing can make relationships more comfortable.
May you be able to master the skill of "laziness" for the rest of your life, do things calmly and calmly, and enjoy the tranquility of life.