Yu Hua once said: "When we treat the world in a ** way, the world suddenly becomes gentle and elegant." ”
What do you do when you meet someone you hate?My advice is to just turn the other cheek. Sometimes, you think about it"Endure the calm for a while, take a step back and open the sky", but that person just wants to get an inch. Your forbearance will only be seen as cowardice.
There is a need for a sense of distance between people. A lot of times, it's distance that produces beauty, and it's only when there's a sense of distance between you that some people don't offend you. There is also a popular saying on the Internet, called"The most annoying person who has no sense of boundaries", is the words spoken by netizens in order to express those speechless things in life.
But when you come across those"There is no sense of borders"What would you do?Some people say that there is no need to turn the other cheek when you hate someone;It is also said that if you hate a person, you must repay your grievances with virtue;And I think it's the right choice to turn your face as soon as possible.
In the past, I also felt that there was no need to turn my face when I encountered anything, and I had to be generous!As a result, in exchange for the contempt of others, others even stepped on your head directly and were domineering, because human nature is like this, bullying the soft and fearing the hard!
As the saying goes, good people have good rewards, but good people don't!Everyone has a balance in their hearts, when you give a lot but don't ask for anything in return, others will think that it is normal for you to give a lot, and when you no longer want to give, they will feel that you have changed.
The scariest thing is that they think you have no temper, so they keep bullying you!Therefore, you have to dare to turn your face and deal with this kind of person, that is, a tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye!It's true to be generous, but you also have to have a temper!People who have no temper will only be bullied.
Also, don't care about what others think. Some people don't know the conflict between you, and when they see you turn their faces, they may judge you and think that you are a grumpy person. In fact, it doesn't matter, whatever others say, as long as it is someone who has no interest in you, what he says can be ignored.
Being a human being is to be respected, this is the need to be human. If one does not seek to be respected, then the level of TA must be very low(Anyone who has known Maslow's hierarchy of needs model knows). Therefore, people who dare not turn their faces are equivalent to not pursuing to be respected, so they must also be very low-level people. There is a big difference between not turning your face and not daring to turn your face.
That's exactly what I've eaten"Don't turn your face"will suggest that everyone should turn their faces in time. It's not that I don't dare to turn my face, I used to think that being kind to others and being less angry with others will win the respect of others. As a result, others bullied me even more.
Turn your face, be timely. We generally don't care about small things, but when you put up with that person all the time, one day you break out, and the bystanders will think of youCalculateFinish. Because when a person has always been a good person, if he does something bad, others will think he is very bad. When a person has been a bad person, occasionally doing a good deed, others will praise him. So, when you are offended, be sure to speak up in time and don't put up with it anymore.
Some people are born with a love of bullying and hate someone for no reason. If you've been in"Don't dare to turn your face"The situation is even worse. So why don't some people dare to turn their faces?In fact, this kind of person is often out of fear of offending others.
I used to be"More is better than less"I feel that at any time, it is better to offend less people and not to offend people. A lot of the time, I'm :"I don't like to trouble others, and I don't like people to trouble me"The kind of people who are there. As a result, because I didn't dare to offend people, everyone else asked me for help, and I didn't refuse. Over time, some people take it for granted to ask me for help, and in the end, they don't even say thank you, and even, when I don't want to help, they will put on a bad face at me. What is it called?"Dou Mien, Shengmi hatred"。
I didn't dare to turn my face because I didn't dare to offend people, but when I didn't dare to turn my face, all kinds of troubles came to me again. After all, people like to find honest people to bully. Moreover, I found that not daring to turn the other cheek also has a great impact on interpersonal relationships. Because, those friends of yours like to ask you for help, and when you don't help, those friends are all **.
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