"Zihan's mother", the character born in the first hot stalk in 2024, has aroused widespread heated discussions. The meme stemmed from a screenshot of a chat with a kindergarten parent group, in which one of the parents questioned the care of the kindergarten because their child was bitten by a mosquito, which sparked a lot of discussion. In this incident, we can see the anxiety of parents, and this anxiety is exactly the psychological problem that we need to pay attention to and solve.
1. Psychological analysis.
1. Lack of self-efficacy.
Zihan's mothers may have a lack of self-efficacy, that is, a lack of confidence in their abilities as parents. They may think that they are not good enough in their child's education and care, so they are overly anxious about the problems their child is experiencing, and they want to cover up their shortcomings by blaming others.
2. Excessive attention to children's safety.
Parents are very concerned about their children's safety, especially when their children enter a new environment such as kindergarten, which can become more nervous and worried. This excessive focus often stems from concerns about the child's safety, fear that the child will be harmed or treated unfairly.
3. The impact of social pressure.
Society's high expectations and pressure on parents can also lead to anxiety. In modern society, parents are expected to provide their children with the best educational resources and environment, and this pressure can make parents overly sensitive to their children's every move, worrying that their own shortcomings will have a negative impact on their children.
2. Anxiety**.
In the modern world, parents are generally facing tremendous pressure. They are worried about their child's growth environment, their child's educational resources, and their child's physical and mental health. This worry is largely due to uncertainty about the future and high expectations for children. Parents want to provide their children with the best resources and hope that they can grow up smoothly, but this expectation often turns into pressure and weighs on the hearts of parents.
We need to recognize that parents' anxiety is a normal psychological reaction. As parents, it is in their nature to care for their children. However, excessive anxiety can not only affect parents' own mental health, but also have a negative impact on children. Therefore, we need to find ways to help parents with anxiety.
3. How to relieve anxiety.
First, parents need to recognise that their anxiety does not solve the problem, but can make the child feel stressed. Therefore, they need to learn to adjust their emotions and face problems with a more positive attitude. Recognize that your child's growth is a long-term process, don't focus too much on short-term gains and losses, learn to appreciate your child's strengths and encourage them to overcome difficulties. For example, when a child is struggling, parents can comfort the child first, rather than immediately blaming others.
Establish reasonable expectations and understand that children are not perfect, they will have setbacks, and they will have failures. It's part of growing up and an opportunity for them to learn. Therefore, parents should accept their children's shortcomings and give them enough space to try, make mistakes, and grow.
Effective communication needs to be found. They should learn to listen to their children and understand their needs, rather than imposing their own ideas on them. At the same time, they should also establish good communication with teachers and schools, and pay attention to the development of children.
Parents should also pay more attention to their own growth, improve their own educational concepts and methods, and make progress together with their children. If anxiety seriously affects the life of parents and children's education, you can seek the help of a professional psychological counselor for psychological counseling.
Fourth, what should the teacher do?
1. Have good communication with parents.
By interacting with parents, teachers can better understand the causes of parents' anxiety and provide appropriate help and support.
2. Provide professional guidance and advice.
Teachers, as education professionals, should provide professional guidance and advice to parents. In response to parents' problems, teachers can provide relevant educational resources, psychological support and other help to help parents better cope with anxiety.
3. Enhance parents' educational capabilities.
Teachers can organize parent training sessions or seminars to help parents improve their educational skills and self-efficacy. Through learning, parents can better understand their children's growth needs, face the problems encountered by their children correctly, and reduce anxiety.
Behind the phenomenon of "Zihan's mother", it reflects some problems in the current family education. To solve these problems, parents can understand their own anxiety** from a psychological perspective, learn to adjust their mentality, establish a healthy family education environment, and maintain good communication with teachers. At the same time, society and schools should also pay attention to the mental health of parents and provide corresponding support and help. Only in this way can we work together to create a good environment for the healthy growth of children.
What other psychological principles do you think there are in the "Zihan Mother" incident?