In recent years, there has been an interesting meme circulating on the Internet: "Talking about feelings hurts money". This meme stems from people's ridicule of the complex relationship between feelings and money. However, as time goes on, we gradually discover that this meme is not groundless, it reflects some real situations in real life.
The idea of "talking about feelings hurts money" seems to reveal people's attitudes towards money and feelings to some extent. Some people believe that money is the litmus test of feelings, and once money is involved, feelings can be hurt. However, this view is actually a misunderstanding. True love does not only exist in the wind and snow, but needs to take root and face the firewood, rice, oil and salt in life.
The big and small things in life, which one can leave money?Money itself is not sinful, and how to treat money is the practice of a person's life. We can't shy away from it because we're afraid to talk about money. On the contrary, we should face up to the role of money in our lives and learn to properly handle the relationship between money and feelings.
However, we have to admit that some feelings do break down because of "it's okay, but it's not okay to talk about money". This situation often stems from differences in attitudes and perceptions about money. In a relationship, if both parties cannot agree on money issues, then the relationship is likely to be hurt because of money issues.
Recently, I saw a post on Weibo, where a girl asked how to ask about the bride price before getting married. This question has sparked heated discussions among netizens. Some people think that the man should take the initiative to raise the bride price, while others think that it should be stated directly. In fact, there is no fixed answer to this question, the key lies in how the two sides communicate and negotiate.
The bride price can indeed be big or small, and if you talk about it, you may achieve a marriage, and if you can't talk about it, you are likely to break up. However, the real reason may not be the amount of the bride price, but the difference in attitudes between the two parties regarding money and affection.
A man's attitude towards money is actually his attitude towards you. This statement may be biased, but it is not without reason. If a person truly loves you, he will be willing to give you time and money. Conversely, if he is always stingy with you or unwilling to spend money on you, then his attitude speaks for itself.
Some guys may use various reasons to avoid paying the bride price or be unwilling to spend money for their girlfriends. These actions may just be an excuse for their selfishness. Someone who truly loves you will be willing to give everything for you, including money.
The story of Xiaoli and her boyfriend breaking up because of the bride price issue makes us understand a truth: if a guy is not willing to spend money or pay the bride price for you, then he may not really love you. They may find all sorts of excuses to avoid the problem, but there's only one real reason: they're not willing to invest in you.
When you are in love, a bouquet of flowers may make each other happy for a long time, but after getting married, you need to face more: the elderly, children, houses, cars, favors, sophistication, etc. These require money to maintain. If you don't plan well in the early stage, and no one specifically manages the big and small affairs, it is easy for the small family to have frequent conflicts and crises.
In fact, talking about money does not hurt feelings, but does not talk about money, because only when a family has a consistent understanding of the economy and is honest enough about money, can it have a wise understanding in the face of money and face real life together. Therefore, I won't talk about the feelings of money, so I will disperse as soon as possible, because there are only two reasons not to talk about it: one is that he doesn't love you, and the other is that his character is not good;And these two points are taboos in marriage, and it is lucky to see them as soon as possible.
In the end, we are all ordinary people, and our expectations for our partners are also very ordinary, we can watch the sunrise and moonset together, we can also buy vegetables and cook together, and we love each other well and treat each other honestly.