At that time, in order to promote the brand, I participated in the community everywhere, listened to classes, and organized offline activities, and there were more than 2,600 people added to the trumpet, and more than 95% of them did not know each other. After 19 years of transformation and consulting, that number was idle.
It started sorting out more than a month ago, and 20 people were deleted in a day, and there are still 1,425 people today.
There are some feelings I would like to share.
As I said before, for these strange relationships, I always think that I still have enough space, even if this relationship has not intersected, there has not been any collision, and there will probably not be any future ones, I still want to keep them.
Paying attention to people or things that have nothing to do with each other is a kind of energy consumption, even if it only occupies a space or a location, it is also an invisible consumption.
Afraid of what?I'm afraid of losing my value, and I'm afraid of losing my sense of security.
They are there, and they make me feel safe. They are there, and they seem to prove that I am worthy.
I always feel that maybe it will be useful in the future.
With this in mind, I started the contact cleanup work, which was a huge amount of work, so I set myself a small goal: to delete 10-20 contacts per day.
Deleted friends have the following characteristics: they have never communicated, they only send ads every day, or they are not visible to me in WeChat settings.
The process of deletion, because I had to open them one by one from beginning to end, by the way I did two more actions.
First, if I have had a link before and know each other, but I haven't been in touch for a long time, I will take a look at the circle of friends, pay attention to the latest developments, and give some touching or beautiful content a like.
Second, if you haven't made a note before, make a note according to your name, occupation, and city.
The action of deleting contacts is similar to what I have been insisting on doing every day.
Why do I do a day house, because it is too difficult for me to organize and eliminate unwanted clothes and items in one place.
Whenever I put out a bag of clothes to be thrown into the ** box of the community, I have to hesitate for a long time, and most of the time I end up placing them in a separate place for transitional purposes.
The subtext of the so-called transition is: It's not too late to wear it again this year, what if you wear it in a few days?
It's as if these clothes are there, and I can line them with my wealth.
Later, in order to overcome this obstacle of cleanup, it is necessary to prevent too many cleanups at one time from causing operational difficulties. The smallest action is used to promote the development of this Xi.
Many times, the hurdles in my heart need to be groped little by little, and once I want to climb over, it is far from easy not to say that the mountain is high, and it is particularly easy to fall, and it is especially easy to turn back and give up.
Whether it's someone else's suggestion or a party **, is it suitable for yourself?You need to test it bit by bit, and then sort out the rhythm that suits you.
What I have been given to the day is that I slowly experience the end of the relationship with some objects, slowly find feelings in the objects, and feel the feelings when I end the relationship with a certain object or a certain person, as well as the emotions afterward.
Find one that matches my own cleanup rules. Gradually, the sense of satisfaction and security brought by "more" is gone, and the sense of value and pleasure brought by "less" is increasing.
You can spend more energy focusing on fewer people and things, and people are much more relaxed.
Therefore, whether it is for people or things around them, the end does not necessarily mean bad, maybe it will get better.
That's all for now, see you tomorrow