Finding out that her husband is having an affair does this, so that the man will not dare to betray again!
What to do if you find out that your husband is cheating
A man who has cheated, even if he returns, can he really guarantee that he will not commit it again?
Most women will have this kind of worry after their husbands cheat, and even give up saving their marriage because of this worry, which leads to endless regrets.
Before I begin, I would like to ask you a question: Do you think extramarital affairs are a matter of one person or between husband and wife?
She's a third person, and she's involved in your marriage, but more importantly, there's enough problems in your marriage itself to allow her to get involved.
Therefore, an extramarital affair necessarily involves both husband and wife, because intimacy is essentially a matter between two husband and wife, and marriage is also a matter for both husband and wife.
The reason why flies don't bite seamless eggs is because there are no gaps in the eggs. So, how did this gap form?
Of course, this refers to a marriage in which the core needs of two or one of them are not met.
Unmet core needs are those that are most important and cannot be met or fulfilled.
As an example, when a man becomes conceited by acquiring wealth, he has a strong desire when he sees a colorful woman outside, so what can stop him from cheating in this case?
We first need to figure out what kind of changes have taken place in the psychology of this man.
Most men like this will think, I've succeeded, I'm a successful person, I want to pursue women, I want to experience novelty, I need some excitement.
So, why does he need to pursue more novelty at this moment?Why does he need more stimulation?This wasn't the case before
According to psychological research, it has been found that this type of man often has the following three reasons.
1. Because of his inner inferiority complex, he engaged in such behavior to satisfy his vanity and comparison mentality.
2. Only by taking this kind of measure can he solve the problem of anxiety at work;
3. Only in this way can he feel his strength.
The field covered by psychology is called behavioral psychologization.
From his behavior, we can see that there is a psychological need behind his playful mentality.
So, what should we do as wives?
First of all,Our marriage should establish a warning mechanism. When a wife perceives that her husband is starting to be conceited, stressed, or anxious, she should communicate with him so that he feels that he is the best understander and develops emotional dependence on his wife so that he can nip it in the bud when the relationship breaks down or the affair first appears.
Next, when a husband betrays, the wife needs to be able to rebuild their relationship, re-establish the foundation for the marriage, and establish norms to address the problems that existed before.
The process of rebuilding a relationship involves repairing the emotional breakdowns, life separations, and spiritual alienation between you, so that the man would rather come home and communicate with you about his inner confusion than go outside to seek a woman to vent.
When it comes to this, there may be many wives who will say, why should I learn how to capture a man's heart?Can't he learn how to grab my heart?
This is in an extramarital affair"Victim mentality".。You think he's the wrong party, and it's him who is sorry, so the blame should be on him.
If he doesn't capture your heart, then he's irresponsible. But are you responsible for your own life?Are you a woman who loves herself and hasn't lost herself in marriage?Your husband treats you like this every day, have you ever fought back?
Most wives often feel angry, irritated, and aggrieved when they find out about their husband's extramarital affairs, but few reflect on whether they have done their duty to themselves over the years
I want to tell you that in an affair, it is up to you, not his own decision, whether a man is willing to put in the effort to capture your heart.
Sensible women understand the need to create opportunities for men to stay attracted to them.
Therefore, our efforts are aimed at solving the problems that exist in the marriage and thus grow into an attractive person, not to pursue a man's heart. Only then will men be willing to keep us.
If you are not interested in saving the marriage, then you have more options.
Whether you have the ability to hold men accountable to you or not is something that must be learned Xi.
Many women expect men to take responsibility on their own initiative, or expect automatic correction.
Eventually, you will find that your man will never take responsibility and will never change.
Therefore, the number of times a man cheats depends on how you handle his affair.
When you become strong, the world will favor you;But when you become vulnerable, anyone can oppress you.
So stop your crying and whining. Instead of waiting for that man to take responsibility in constant complaining, why not think about what you have to do to force him to take responsibility
Perhaps you will mention again that having an affair is a sign that a man has a character problem.
Please observe carefully, whether this man with flawed morals has sinned?Does he lack moral principles to treat others?Is he irresponsible to Xiao San?
Why does he dare to do these things in front of you?Why does he lack a sense of responsibility to you?
He dares to behave so badly because you lack self-confidence, lack of principles, and don't know how to punish him!
Every time you have to compromise, you have to please, you have to give in, you have to give in, and then you feel like you have nothing to do.
It is precisely because of your connivance with him that he has behaved irresponsibly today and has kept him in improper relationships with others.
Therefore, as a wife, you need to establish a clear framework for our marriage and set clear boundaries.
In a word: no matter how arrogant you seem, and no matter whether you have quality problems or not, you have to behave properly when you face me!
Well, that's the end of our analysis for today. I hope my analysis is helpful to you.
If you are facing a marital crisis and are overwhelmed, don't be anxious, don't be afraid, please leave me a message and tell me your details and I will analyze and evaluate it for you and give advice.
Even though it is not right for the husband to have an affair, many cases have confirmed that both people have a share in the marriage problem. If you can self-reflect and make changes accordingly, then the marriage can be saved, and most husbands cheat for the purpose of divorce. Of course, this does not require the wife to blindly cater to her husband, but to make corresponding changes on the premise of objectively analyzing the marital problems and promoting the marriage into a virtuous circle system.