In a family, a harmonious and harmonious relationship is crucial. Family members should not be too entangled in right and wrong, but should be tolerant and understanding of each other. The quality of a family's feng shui lies not only in the material conditions, but also in the emotional interaction between family members. Every family encounters various challenges and conflicts, and there may be disputes between parents and children due to differences in attitudes. However, as children grow up, they will have their own ideas and decisions. Parents should learn to let go gradually and not interfere too much with their children's choices.
There are some things, even if you know or have an opinion, you should rot in your stomach and don't say it to your children lightly. Failure to do so may cause unnecessary disputes and conflicts, and the consequences can be very serious. Here are four examples of this:
1. Don't be too harsh on your children's mistakes.
Children, they are the treasure in the hearts of their parents, the continuation of their own blood and blood, and have the most intimate blood relationship with themselves. As parents, we love them deeply, but we often criticize our children for their mistakes because of this "love and hatred". However, we should understand that people are not saints and sages, and they are infallible. We should not be too strict about our children's mistakes, but should be more tolerant and less accusatory.
Family is a place of love, not a place of right and wrong. Every harsh word can deeply hurt the hearts of children and leave them with deep wounds. As parents, we should educate our children with a pleasant attitude. We should be less harsh, more understanding, and always give them encouragement. Only in this way can our relationship with our children last for a long time and the family be full of warmth.
In the family, love is the cornerstone, understanding is the bridge, and encouragement is the driving force. We should tolerate our children's faults with love, help them grow with understanding, and stimulate their potential with encouragement. Only in this way will our family be full of harmony and warmth, and our children will be able to thrive in the sunshine of love.
2. Grievances with relatives and neighbors.
Some entanglements, like the old calendar, belong to the past and are not worth being opened again. On the road of life, we should learn to cherish those happy memories, and those sad pasts, we should learn to forget. Especially when people are entering old age, how to spend each day happily becomes particularly important!
We should not be an elderly person who complains whenever he sees his children. Past painful experiences, as well as love-hate relationships with others, should be put in the wind. We should not let the gloom of the past affect our current positive attitude. The past is over, and at the same time, we must also cultivate our children to have an optimistic and open-minded attitude, which is the best inheritance!
Life is like a movie, with laughter and tears. However, we must learn to engrave those happy moments in our hearts and keep those sad moments in the wind. In old age, we should learn to let go of past grievances and enjoy the happiness of the present. Because only an optimistic and open-minded attitude can make us truly feel the beauty of life in old age.
3. Don't sow discord in the relationship between children and husband and wife.
Although their birth is the crystallization of their parents' love, it does not mean that we can control the trajectory of their lives. They are not anyone's appendages, they have their own dreams, pursuits, and lifestyles, as well as their own cherished marriage and family.
As parents, when our children start a family, we need to learn to quit at the right time, not to point fingers in their lives, and not to find fault with discord or partiality. We should give them enough space and freedom to face life's challenges and difficulties on their own.
Wise parents will know how to let go when the time is right and let their children use their abilities and wisdom in their own married life. The tacit understanding and cooperation between husband and wife is an important factor in maintaining the family, and as parents, we should respect their choices and decisions and let them manage their married life in their own way.
Of course, as elders, we can also give them some guidance and advice, but by no means overly interfering. We need to believe that our children have their own judgment and wisdom and are able to handle their own affairs. It is only through their own efforts and experiences that they can truly grow and progress.
Fourth, the distribution of property in the family.
Parents work tirelessly for the sake of the family, busy all day long, and are under tremendous pressure, both physically and psychologically. They are like industrious worker bees, silently giving everything just to create a better life for this family. However, not all children can appreciate this hard work, and some children are close to their parents just for money.
In their later years, for the sake of their children's happiness, parents often choose to tell them frankly and tell them everything about the family's property. However, in families with many children, once the parents' property situation and distribution plan are known, some children will feel dissatisfied and unbalanced if they feel that they can get less.
As a result, a harmonious family often becomes openly and secretly fighting because of the property of the parents, and even conflicts and disputes between siblings will occur. When parents reach their old age, they do not enjoy a day of comfort and happiness, but have to face the competition and indifference between their children.
As a parent, you must think carefully when arranging your own property. Don't easily disclose your property distribution plan, not because you don't trust your children, but to give yourself a stable life in your old age. Please remember that until the day you leave, you should never talk about the distribution of your property to anyone. This is not a suspicion and defense of children, but a guarantee for one's own life in old age.