It is because of love and hope that people have a real feeling of being alive, and this is true of everyone, because they are women.
A woman is like a plant, water and sunlight are indispensable, just like love and hope. Love is like water, bringing her nourishment. Sunshine is like hope, bringing her direction and strength. The woman who is loved is radiant, and the woman who lacks love is like a half-decayed plant, wilting her head and brain, and she is lifeless.
When we were young, love and hope were pinned on our parents, as long as we received the care and love of our parents and loved unconditionally, we could grow up with confidence and clumsiness.
When you become an adult, love and hope are pinned on you, and at this time, you will feel that your own power is infinite, and your support and control over your life are also the strongest.
After falling in love, love and hope are pinned on the lover, and then you will experience unprecedented sweet happiness, and you can always see the best and most beautiful self in the eyes of the other party.
After marriage, love and hope are pinned on the family, at this time, because the passionate love slowly fades, firewood, rice, oil and salt occupy most of the energy and time. Women will mistakenly think that love is gone, they will suffer from gains and losses, and it will be difficult to see the best version of themselves in the eyes of the other person. Doubting that his charm is no longer there, doubting how much his lover still loves him, and being full of uncertainty about the future. Life is becoming more and more powerless and frustrated.
After giving birth to a child, love and hope began to be pinned on the child, the child especially needed his mother when he was a child, so the woman regained the exclusive sense of being needed, and the spirit was again sustenance, and she happily enjoyed the child's dependence and love for herself. But as the child grows up and has his own opinions, he needs to constantly prove his ability, and the mother's love and protection can sometimes become a kind of bondage, and conflicts will arise. Women begin to wonder if their efforts are seen and why they always don't get long-lasting love.
So in the painful experience, the woman found that her best time was actually the time when she was single as an adult. No worries, carefree, joys and sorrows can be shared with friends, financially self-sufficient, people and things you don't like can be ignored, and you can be yourself with peace of mind almost every day. You can live as much as you want. So, this is the reason why so many women don't want to get married now, the more stressful life is, the more embarrassing the marriage will be.
But after all, the various experiences in life are just some experiences, even if there is pain, but at the beginning, I also experienced the sweetness of the world of the two, so there is no need to regret it. It's just that we have to be responsible for ourselves on the one hand, and on the other hand, we must also be responsible for the family and children, if we can choose not to abandon and keep the family intact, but also no longer entrust ourselves, no longer complain and entangle to solve the contradictions and conflicts in the family. It's a more ideal state.
For example, pay more attention to yourself, no longer expect your husband and children to praise and recognize you (as long as you maintain respect), accept your imperfections, reconcile with yourself, make yourself happy, stop overgiving, stop thinking nonsense, maintain adequate sleep, eat reasonably, exercise moderately, stay optimistic, learn to relax, set goals, and work hard for the goal will make you full of spirit and more confident.
It's simple, but everyone's willpower is different, and it's hard to convince yourself to do it in a world of energies. Sometimes a cold expression on the other side, an impatient tone, a chicken-duck conversation...It's enough to bring back the emotions we just adjusted.
But this process is unavoidable, only by constantly practicing and tempering one's willpower repeatedly, you will slowly find a stronger and more solid self. In order to better love yourself and enjoy the current life.