In our daily lives, there are often psychological effects hidden behind our behaviors, and learning Xi and mastering these knowledge can help us to treat others in a more rational way and understand ourselves more thoroughly.
In this issue, we have selected 9 psychological knowledge, and you can benefit a lot by mastering one.
Threshold effect – a step-by-step approach to achieving your goals
It means that once a person has accomplished a trivial goal, it is possible to take on a greater challenge in order to make a consistent impression on others.
Therefore, when doing something more difficult, you can start with a similar, smaller thing, just like climbing the threshold step by step, so that it is easier to climb to the top more smoothly.
The Law of Mutual Pleasure - Arouse likes to arouse likes
It means that emotions are contagious, and everyone can get a message of affection and respect from the kindness and liking released by the other person, and then spread it to the other person, and the kindness between them will also bring pleasure and enthusiasm to the people around them.
Therefore, to discover the shining points of the people around you, a person who knows how to appreciate and praise others, can gain emotional harmony and long-term stability in interpersonal communication.
Southerly effect – warm is better than severeCold
It is the "softness" of the guide wind that blows slowly is better than the "rigidity" of the north wind. In interpersonal communication, a gentle way of communicating can make people psychologically comfortable, while a "cold" way of communicating can be offensive.
Therefore, those who love others will always love them;Those who respect others will always respect them. Respecting, caring and trusting others in their shoes, and thinking about their happiness, happiness and pleasure will reap the benefits with half the effort.
Projection Effect – Don't always treat others as you would like to be
It refers to the cognitive tendency that people think that they have a certain characteristic, and others must also have the same characteristics as themselves, so that their feelings, wills, and characteristics are projected onto others.
Therefore, in the process of interpersonal communication, it is necessary to overcome the urge to impose one's own will and way of thinking on others, and realize that everyone has their own personality and choices.
Observer bias – avoid subjective assumptions
Observer bias refers to errors that result from the personal motivations and expectations of the observer. Often, people see and hear what they expect, not what they are.
Therefore, don't easily judge what you don't have a deep understanding of, and you should exercise your ability to analyze problems comprehensively, objectively and maturely.
Fei** theorem - the power of sincere listening
It refers to a person who can listen less and listen more, can hear the words of others in his heart and keep them secret, and others will give you the greatest trust and respect.
So, a lot of times, people don't ask you to give a solution or how much you can help things, but just want to pour out what is in your heart and reduce the burden on your heart. Listening is not only an expression of concern, but also an outward manifestation of a person's stable core.
Goodman's theorem – silence at the right time
Silence is also an effective communication skill. The role of silence in conversation is what the role of zero in mathematics. Although it is "zero", it is critical, and sometimes it can magnify the performance by tens of times.
Therefore, in many cases, "silence is better than sound at this time" is also a wonderful realm. Blindly talking about it is easy to give people the impression of being exaggerated, and it is easier for the other party to grasp the flaws in the speech. In this sense, being good at "silence" is also a way of life and wisdom of life.
The Wallach Effect – Find what you do best
It refers to the fact that the development of people is not synchronized, and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. Once you find the sweet spot of your intelligence and make the full use of your intelligence potential, you can achieve amazing results.
So, if you feel like a failure, tell yourself that it's not that you're not bad, but you just haven't found the right area and direction to play to your strengths. Calm down, be diligent and active, and one day you can excel and be incomparable.
The Barnum Effect – Self-knowledge is the hardest
It means that when others describe you with a general, broad, and general personality description, you tend to easily accept these descriptions and think that what is said in the description is yourself.
Therefore, we must understand ourselves objectively and truthfully, have an independent and sober judgment of our actual situation, and do not be easily swayed by the evaluations and hints of others.
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