My brother-in-law called me unlucky, and I hurriedly let my friend live in my nephew's marital room
*, my nephew's voice was full of resentment, but I was sneering in my heart. When I changed the locks and moved into my hometown, I had expected this to happen. On the surface, it seems that my nephew's marriage was ruined by me, but I know the truth and think it is himself and my brother-in-law's fault. Before he could say a few words, the nephew's mother, that is, the younger brother-in-law, snatched the phone.
The younger daughter-in-law said, "You are his own aunt, how can you do such a thing?"Do you know how humiliated we were just now?Do you know how I feel inside?I couldn't help but sneer, I was sitting in a warm air-conditioned room a few days ago, and her ** made me shiver. My brother and daughter-in-law had already made four calls before, and without exception, they advised me not to go back to my nephew's wedding.
At first, it was more tactful, from the perspective of caring for me, saying that my business in hand could not be separated from me, and it would take too much time to go back to the wedding. He also said that the distance was long, it was too hard to run back and forth, and I was not in good health, so I might be tired and sick. How could I not go back to my own nephew's wedding for these reasons?The reason of the younger brother and the younger brother-in-law made me wonder if it was too far-fetched. So I asked again and again, why didn't I go back, obviously I had arranged the time. Perhaps because he found it difficult to hide from me, my brother and daughter-in-law finally told me the truth. She said that the close people who attend the wedding must be blessed people, the husband and wife are the original match, the children grow up healthily, and there is no such thing as untimely death. However, since I was divorced and was considered unlucky, I couldn't participate.
I can't help but sneer, there is such a saying about the wedding in my hometown?How come I don't know at all?The younger daughter-in-law explained: "This is the traditional concept of my mother's family, I am such a son, I hope his wedding can go smoothly, you are his aunt, you should understand." "We argued a few words, and my brother and daughter-in-law insisted that the family had discussed it and that I didn't need to go back. I was so angry that my stomach hurt and I asked her, "I'm unlucky, so is my house, money, and jewelry auspicious?"If you don't let me go back to the wedding, why don't you give me back these things?"My brother and daughter-in-law avoided my questions and just kept emphasizing not to go back, otherwise my brother would make me look good. Her words grew more and more ugly, and I was furious.
I hung up **, refunded my ticket home, and fell silent. In the silence, many memories of the past are recalled. Those children who are not pampered grow up to either be alienated from their original families, or strive to be close after their achievements, just to get the approval of their parents and the smiles of their siblings. I belong to the latter group, and the smiling faces of my parents and my younger brother calling me my sister are all wishes that I have pursued for many years.
Before I got married, I actually had two boyfriends that I liked very much, but due to the poverty of the family, I couldn't pay the bride price and couldn't meet my parents' requirements, so we had to break up. Eventually, I married my ex-husband. At that time, I was beautiful, and my ex-husband took a fancy to my appearance and was willing to pay a bride price of 80,000 yuan, and even bought a small van for my younger brother. My parents only valued these things, but they couldn't see my reluctance. I was forced to get married, and after the novelty passed, my ex-husband treated me coldly and even did it. After the divorce, I left with my daughter and got a sum of money, but the alimony was denied. I started my own business with this money.
The moment I learned of my divorce, my parents were furious and beat me to scold me. They accused me of being useless, thinking that my in-laws' family was in good condition, and that even if I was wronged, I should endure it. They asked me to remarry no matter what method I used. In the end, I had to agree to a fixed monthly living allowance, and my parents reluctantly agreed to let me go. When did my relationship with my mother's family start to improve?It seems to have been after I bought a property in my hometown.
At that time, I thought that no matter how wonderful the outside world is, people have to return to their roots after all. Although I am not ready to remarry, I know that after my daughter gets married, I will still return to my hometown. So, I bought a house in my hometown and asked a friend to help me renovate it. Buying a home was a big deal, I told my mom and my mom and dad and my brother had a change in their attitude towards me since then. Although I know in my heart that these superficial smiles and concerns are all exchanged for money.
I still feel good because I long to have a family to rely on. That's why when my nephew got married, my parents, younger brother, younger daughter-in-law, and nephew stood on my side and praised me. I paid for the money and jewelry, and even gave them the house that had already been renovated. At that time, I thought, I only have one daughter, and she is very talented in her own right, so she doesn't need to rely on me completely. So, for my mother's affairs, I just do my best.
With these feelings, I thought that even after I left, my daughter would not completely lose her mother's family. However, who would have thought that some people are ruthless, even if they are blood relatives, even if you give everything for them. For some baseless claims, my brother and daughter-in-law even said that I was unlucky and did not allow me to go home to attend the wedding. What's even more outrageous is that the wedding room has not yet been transferred, and it is clearly said that it will be transferred after the wedding.
Maybe my brother's brother and daughter-in-law think that with me as a relative, even if they don't let me attend the wedding, and let me go back to transfer after a while, I will agree. However, they seem to have forgotten that there is a limit to human patience, and that grievances are swallowed, not disappeared. So, when the damage reached its limit, I decided not to put up with it anymore.
I cried bitterly, thought it through, and made a decision. I'm going to earn a breath for myself, or rather, I want my nephew's wedding to be a joke. I immediately contacted a friend to ask for the locks on the house to be changed and to dispose of the wedding items that had already been prepared. I asked a few people to move in for a few days, and couriered the real estate deed to a friend, telling him to keep it and not let anyone from his mother's house enter the door.
Sure enough, the wedding became a joke, because the originally promised wedding room became someone else's and could not be entered. So, my nephew and brother-in-law vented their anger on me. However, I didn't care about it, I blacklisted all my mother's family and asked my friends to sell the house in due course. When the time comes, I'll go back and transfer the property. Even if I return to my hometown in the future, I will stay away from my mother's home to avoid being hurt again.
Some people may say that marriage is a major life event, and even if I have a conflict with my mother's family, I should not make my nephew's marriage a joke because I am not invited to the wedding. However, I don't think I'm wrong. I'm really heartbroken, I've paid too much for this family relationship, but as long as someone in my mother's family is truly grateful, they won't treat me like this. Moreover, I just took back the house, and I got nothing for the money and jewelry I paid for my nephew's marriage.
For the mother's family who only value money and ignore feelings, they have not suffered. I want to ask, are my words and deeds wrong?