The grandfather's funeral was over, and the remaining 120,000 yuan, the uncle wanted to divide it equally, and the son-in-law objected
After my grandfather's funeral, relatives gathered at my uncle's house, waiting to settle the gift money. As soon as the accounts were calculated, there was still 120,000 yuan left, and everyone began to discuss how to distribute it.
The second uncle spoke first: "Of course, it's an equal score for the two brothers, big brother, right?"The uncle hesitated for a moment, looked at the second aunt beside him, and responded vaguely: "Okay, so be it." ”
Except for the second uncle and the eldest uncle, everyone else felt that their approach was not very reasonable.
My grandfather lived at my uncle's house and was physically strong until he fell ill. However, three years ago, his body suddenly collapsed, and he used to be an old man who could walk around the village to a patient who was sick in bed all day.
The eldest uncle and aunt were busy with farm work, although they could still take care of the three meals, and the second aunt was mainly responsible for taking care of them the rest of the time.
Although the second aunt lives close, she herself is not in good health, she often has headaches and brain fever, and it takes half a day to recover as soon as she lies down, so most of the responsibility of taking care of her grandfather falls on the second aunt.
My grandfather also has a son, a second uncle, but due to the conflict with my grandfather when I was young, the relationship between the two has not been very good, resulting in less contact, and it is considered "filial piety" to be able to come to see it once every half a month.
Although the second uncle is not particularly idle, he opened a factory, and since his grandfather fell ill, he often came to take care of the elderly, not only contributing to the whole process, but also contributing money.
In the early days of my grandfather's illness, my eldest and second uncles called the other sisters home to share the cost of my grandfather's treatment. The second aunt took into account the average family conditions of other people, and he had the ability to contribute some of the money.
After the death of my grandfather, the scale of the funeral was quite large, mainly because the second aunt had a wide range of interpersonal relationships, and most of the people who sent the funeral were because they knew the second aunt.
After the funeral, after deducting all expenses, there is 120,000 yuan left. However, the second uncle and the eldest uncle did not discuss it with the second uncle and directly decided to divide it equally. Although this is a common practice in the village, it does not seem reasonable.
It was suggested that considering that the second aunt had paid a lot for his grandfather, the three of them should share it. After all, in addition to the cost of treating his grandfather's illness, the second aunt also had to repay the favor of those who came to the funeral.
The second uncle vetoed it, thinking that the second aunt was not short of this money, and his contribution was out of filial piety to his grandfather, which could not be measured by money. He also mentioned that he was about to contract a farm and was in urgent need of funds.
The eldest uncle didn't seem to have much assertiveness and acted according to the second uncle's opinion.
The second aunt remained silent all the time, just smoking silently. In fact, at first, he didn't think about participating in the "sharing of money", but when he saw the attitude of his uncle and second uncle, he suddenly felt a little blocked in his heart.
Whether it is my grandfather or my uncle and second uncle, I have borrowed a lot of money from my second uncle over the years, and although I said that I would pay it back, I haven't paid it off in the past few years. When they were in urgent need of money, they always found their second aunt.
The second aunt's biggest problem is that he is too generous and helpful. Although he knew that the eldest and second uncles were not very reliable, as long as someone was looking for him, he seemed to have seen through some things this time. He paid so much for his grandfather and contributed money, but the eldest and second uncles did not have a word of gratitude, but calculated everywhere.
The second aunt cleared his throat and said slowly: "As usual, as a son-in-law, I really shouldn't interfere in this money." But considering the cost of my father's illness and hospitalization, as well as the money you borrowed from me before, I estimated it to be about 100,000 yuan. In this way, each of you brothers will receive 10,000 yuan. ”
These words directly stunned the eldest uncle and the second uncle.
The second uncle wanted to refute, but was stopped by some prestigious clan elders, who agreed that the second uncle's proposal was reasonable and should be handled in this way.
Perhaps considering that he might need the help of the second uncle in the future, the uncle changed his tone and said that he would do it according to the second uncle's wishes.
Afterwards, the second aunt's people became a little different, and they were no longer as all-encompassing as before. After a dinner, he confessed that he felt a chill in his heart, feeling that he had given too much and received too little.
In the past, he always believed that among relatives, he should not care too much, as long as he has the ability, he should pay more for others. But now, he suddenly understands that there must be a bottom line and principles in life and work, and he can't compromise easily, otherwise he will only let others gain an inch.
Even if some people are financially poor and even more barren in mentality, they always want to profit from their relatively wealthy relatives, but they lack gratitude, and instead take it for granted. For such people, it is necessary to break the other party's dependence on you as early as possible, and every concession is to provide them with more reasons to demand.
Greedy people will not change because of your charity, and people who don't know how to be grateful will not be moved by your dedication, don't waste time on such people, every minute is a waste of life.
Ascend Mien, fight Mi Qiu"That's exactly what happened. If you offer too much help, the other person will be more likely to form dependence, take it for granted, and sometimes even resent.
We often say"Saving the emergency is not helping the poor"We can provide emergency assistance to relatives and friends, but don't overdo it. Otherwise, the other party will take your help for granted, and even develop a dependency mentality.
Greed is human nature and nature, but if you let greed go, you will end up with nothing.
In the face of such greedy and inch-winning people, we should remain sensible, be helpful in moderation, not give in full, and respond to requests.