If I hadn't entered the palace of marriage yet, I would have hoped to be as independent as Tang Jing was in terms of ideology and finance, to become my own ruler, and to win the respect of others.
If I suffer an unfortunate divorce, I hope to be able to be like Luo Zijun, not discouraged, turn the tables against the wind, and regain control of my life.
No matter what the situation, I long to receive a congratulatory letter from a man who is willing to "teach a man to fish rather than to give a man." He's a good man, and a hard guy to get along with, but he has a great idea to let me make you armor. Those who are willing to build protective armor for you are a hundred times stronger than men who verbally say love but uncontrollably transfer affection.
Although some people may think that the congratulatory letter misbehaved because he ended up betraying his decade-long relationship with Tang Jing, if you think about it carefully, you will find that in the relationship between the three of them, there are the most overlooked and common appeals.
Tang Jing, who lacks self-confidence.
Tang Jing is a strong woman in the workplace, she firmly believes in the values of independence and self-improvement, and moves forward bravely in the workplace, not choosing to get married or have children, showing an independent and elegant side.
Although she has a life that many women envy, she is also one of those women that men neither dare to marry nor can marry.
However, for her, we may all overlook the fact that overconfidence often hides unconfidence behind it.
In Maupassant's "Ball of Sheep Fat", he mentions the saying: "When the water is deep, do not say a word, and when the person is stable, do not say a word." This means that the water on the surface of the water is calm and silent, but when a pedestrian speaks, it is loud and loud. The deeper the water, the less sound it makes;The more stable the pedestrian walks, the more unaffected it is. The more steady a person's behavior is, the less likely it is for him to express his opinion.
She's brilliant, but also very snarky.
Just like the case of the congratulatory letter robbing Kaman, in her concept, love and marriage can be abandoned, and only career cannot be compromised.
She probably thought that as long as she was good enough and irreplaceable, her congratulatory letter would always stay where she was.
Thus, over the past 10 years, despite the fact that she has received several proposals from congratulatory letters, she has never agreed, or more precisely, she has chosen to flee again and again.
She fears that once she accepts this fact, she may lose the self she has worked so hard for over the past decade.
In fact, people always pursue profit and avoid harm.
She feels the same way, and the work provides her with absolute control and security;In life, she always keeps herself a low-key, introverted, and unassuming image. However, emotions always make her heart beat faster, and even a simple word, or a Vivien, can constantly touch her nerves.
Her exploration and escape are common characteristics of many talented and purposeful women, because creating a comfortable life circle is what everyone aspires to achieve throughout their lives, and to jump out of this comfort zone, it takes not only courage, but also strong self-belief.
One person doesn't want to move on, while the other just wants to wait. As wonderful as our encounters may be, being together may not always be wonderful. A lot of times, we wish we could find our best friend. Although many people think that each other is very good in their hearts, they find it difficult to go further and longer together, which may be the reason.
The real Luo Zijun.
Luo Zijun is a firm believer in the true meaning of "family is everything", and since marrying Chen Junsheng, who has been in love with her for many years, she has been living a simple family life, including taking care of her husband and educating her children. She and her husband are both civil servants, with stable jobs and high incomes, and their marriage is quite happy. Unexpectedly, he suddenly encountered a change in his marriage and met his most unbearable self.
Maybe everyone will wipe away a tear of sadness for her.
However, this once again reveals the fact that love is unstable, and male rhetoric is even more volatile.
At the same time, it is another reminder to all women that even if a man is capable of creating a carefree life, he must always maintain a certain degree of independence, otherwise any slight change in the marriage may drag you into a situation from which you cannot extricate yourself.
As a result, before the divorce, she cried and fussed emotionally, and life became extremely difficult, until she was in court for custody, and she really regained her life.
When a certain thought arises in a person's heart, he will bravely put on the armor and become indestructible.
In this world, the only heroic spirit is to still have a passion for life after truly understanding its essence.
Whether she chooses to move forward on her own initiative or is forced to move forward, there is no denying her determination to get back on her feet.
A woman approaching 40 years old, who has gone through a divorce and has children, her looks and figure are no longer her strong points, but her tenacious heart and tenacious face are her real strengths.
I think Tang Jing was able to maintain such a close relationship with her for such a long time, not only because of her social support at the beginning, but also because of her deep envy.
A woman with a family, children, and a husband is an enviable existence no matter what.
Not to mention, she worked hard later, not only retaining the fireworks of life, but also incorporating the persistence of survival and the determination to turn the tables against the wind.
For men, it is not difficult to choose a strong woman or a fireworks. The purpose of marriage is to find a partner with whom you can spend your life, not a woman who is always competing with you.
Can't control the congratulatory letters you send.
Congratulatory letters have obvious advantages, but at the same time they have fatal flaws.
He is not only a successful individual, but also unreservedly helpful to those he admires, just like Tang Jing and Luo Zijun.
All men who have been given the label of "life coach" are very keen to personally shape a disadvantaged group into a stronger individual as a way to demonstrate their self-worth and achieve inner fulfillment.
From an objective point of view, he is not a man suitable for starting a family, because his attraction to women is too strong, and unless he meets a woman who can conquer him, he is destined to be a rich man.
When he was not affected by the "probation", he was only full of love for himself and pushed himself to a new level.
Those who strive for the ultimate are often extreme in their pursuits.
Otherwise, he would not have been able to make the decision to give up Tang Jing and pursue Luo Zijun.
However, the relationship between him and Tang Jing is more like a relationship between teachers and friends, and there is no relationship between them that should be like a couple, because everything between them is very harmonious, but because their relationship is too perfect, it seems a little unreal.
Luo Zijun, a woman who not only needs to constantly cause trouble for him and rely on him, but also continues to improve herself in the process, has an irresistible appeal.
In my opinion, there is no better way to show love than to make someone feel heavy about the other.
Luo Zijun is a woman who often gets into trouble, and her mother, sister, and son all have a lot to deal with. She was in dire need of someone who could "fight fires", and surprisingly, he was not only fearless, but also not afraid of trouble, so he appeared in time.
Love is essentially a complex relationship between what is needed and what is needed, but this need is variable.
Whether it is the personal value he shows in Luo Zijun or his enthusiasm for this new challenge, in short, everything Luo Zijun does touches his heart deeply.
One person is willing to ask for help, and the other is willing to go to the rescue, which is undoubtedly the most appropriate need. In this process of "asking for help", the emotions generated are not out of logic or human feelings, but people's most basic emotional needs.
The love for you and the love for you are actually the same wish.
Haruki Murakami mentioned in his work "Kafka by the Sea": When the storm is over, you may not recall how you survived the storm, and you are not even quite sure if the storm is really over. This is because you have no way of knowing if the storm will pass because it will never come. However, one thing is for sure, and that is that when you've weathered the storm, you're no longer the person you used to be.
This passage is likely to be the truest description of Luo Zijun's true situation.
Luo Zijun and Tang Jing, two people who have experienced ups and downs, are very similar in many ways, they both have firm goals and a higher chance of success.
The congratulatory letter first had feelings for Tang Jing, and then had deep feelings for Luo Zijun.
During their three-person journey, many people find it difficult to accept that the congratulatory letter has fallen in love with a pair of close friends one after another, because it has caused a huge psychological shock to the women, and even completely destroyed their values.
However, the main difference between Tang Jing and Luo Zijun is that one person experiences sweetness first and then bitterness, while the other tastes bitterness first and then sweetness.
When two women with similar traits are on the same page, it is not what men have in common that they have in common, but what they are most attractive about.
The reason why the relationship ended after ten years is not because love has become longer, but because time is passing, but among us, you are you, and I am still me;The reason why we can hold hands in a year is not that I among us need you, but that the time is getting longer. In the course of a year, we were able to walk together, not because love was shortened, but because between us, I needed your company, and you needed me equally.
I've always been thinking about which kind of love is the most beautiful, maybe it's the feeling of the perfect combination of water and water, rather than the kind of pulling across thousands of mountains and rivers.
All those who have experienced love understand that the world is not simply black or white. For feelings, if you don't experience them personally, it is difficult to truly understand the entanglements, helplessness, self-restraint and regrets.
What really moved him was not his looks or talent, but the three meals he wanted to spend his life withWhat can make him heart move must be the love of life. However, what really makes him despair is not rejection or alienation, but the heart that cannot be truly united.
Love is an esoteric science, and although on the surface everything remains the same, in reality love is gone;I don't want to change, but love really happens!Although they don't really pursue love, they are deeply trapped in it, perhaps because the personalities of men and women in this world are changeable, but they always remain the same.
Just like a moth to a fire, love seems beautiful on the surface, but throwing it into the sea of fire is also a pain;Like the love of the mountain and the dangerous road, even if you are in danger, you can overcome all the obstacles all the way and finally reach the other side of happiness. The kind of love that goes round and round is deep, but in the process of turning and turning, it also gradually fades the once indestructible friendship.
People who are able to enter into marriage must be because both parties have strong aspirations.
Moruwa said a marriage without conflict is almost unimaginable compared to a country without crisis.
Congratulatory letter and Tang Jing can maintain their unique personality for ten years and keep a distance from the deep distance in their hearts, such a love relationship, even if they can successfully enter the palace of marriage, they are destined to break up.
Otherwise, why are there so many uncontrollable or righteous love stories in this world?
Regardless of whether the love between them is beautiful or not, if it can be remembered forever by future generations, it is not that they are accompanied in another way.
In fact, it is only through a true story that everything can be continued, whether in love or marriage.
These two people who are willing to weave stories must be very eager to come together, otherwise it is like two completely different people.
I especially love the sentence written by Shu Ting in "To the Oak Tree":
If I truly love you, then I must be the kapok tree beside you, standing side by side with you as a symbol of the tree.
The roots are tightly tied to the ground, while the leaves touch each other in the clouds.
Withstand cold snaps, storms and thunderbolts together;Enjoy the beauty of mist, mist and rainbows together;
It feels like a parting forever, but it is also a lifelong dependence, not only loving your tall body, but also loving the position you hold and the ground under your feet.
Although the end result of love is unpredictable, in the days of love, it is essential to remain faithful to your heart and release all your love so that you can have a time without regrets.
If you don't have any expectations or illusions in your heart, then it's best to say goodbye so that at least you can maintain that innocence and beauty.
Whether or not this constitutes an excuse to continue or end a relationship, it is just a normal emotional need of a person.
Hopefully, your heart is full of thirst and you get what you expect from it!