In times of need, receive a drop of water and return the favor with spring water.
Everyone knows the truth of return, but there are some doubts about how to return.
After getting help, invite someone to dinner in time, such a reward is too light, and others may not appreciate it.
Life is busy, eating is in a hurry, because of driving, you can't drink too much.
Not all people like to eat, and they can't afford to go to eat occasionally.
Use the time of the day to spread the goodness to more people and leave the good things in the world, which is the best reward.
In short, it is necessary to achieve "three shows", for a long time, to keep the clouds open and see the moon.
Old feelings, let the emotions continue.
When someone helps you, it's a help to you. Next, see how to return to "Feel". This is the principle of reciprocity.
You have to believe that those who are willing to help you once are likely to help you a second and third time. So love is getting more and more.
If you have been helped and lost your love, then you have "forgotten your roots", and others will naturally not continue to help.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, the prince of the Jin Kingdom, Chong'er, was considered to be a thorn in the side of his stepmother Li Ji, and he had to get rid of it quickly.
In desperation, Chong'er fled the Jin Kingdom with a few cronies. He successively went to the states of Qi, Chu, Song, and Qin.
After 19 years of running, everyone is bitter, but there are no complaints.
With the help of Qin Mugong, he can return to the Jin Kingdom as a king.
Weather-beaten, Heavy Ear mounted his horse and ran ahead as fast as he could. He also asked his cronies to abandon their cooking utensils and tents when they reached the Yellow River and to put the frail old man at the end of the line. This will speed up the journey to Jindu.
At this time, the minister Hu Yan cried and said, "It is sad that you have abandoned people and things that you can rely on in exile. ”
Heavy ears have an epiphany, put away the old things, settle the old people, go back to the capital, and let the gullible people use them again. He also brought his wives and concubines married in the states of Qi and Qin to his side.
After that, he also promoted the interests of the Qin and Jin states and elevated the help of Qin Mugong to a new level.
A nostalgic person is a very kind person.
An umbrella that has been used too much, but I don't want to throw it away, because it has been with you for a long time;A withered rose, unwilling to be thrown, can become a sachet, because this flower was given by a lover and was once full of fragrance. A piece of love, faded, can't be forgotten, tell the grandson, contact can also be used.
Be honest and fulfill the original promise.
A lot of help, at the beginning, was conditional, and it was not "selfless, traceless" as we imagined.
For example, your wife marries you and gives you a large dowry. Its condition is that it will love for a lifetime, and it cannot be abandoned in life, old age, sickness and death.
The old man teaches you what you know, without any conditions. But invisibly, there is the moral constraint of "being a teacher for one day and a father for a lifetime".
Your person took care of the problem for you without asking for it, which is part of the job. In fact, subordinates will mentally think that doing so will lead to promotions and raises.
Your parents raised you, sent you to school, and worked far away. It's not that I don't want anything, but I hope you can be filial to them and help them take care of the elderly when they are very old.
There are people I don't know very well, they also help you, and they didn't leave their names. In fact, he also wants to be praised, improve his reputation, and build a positive image.
During the Northern Song Dynasty, Song Renzong died, but he had no son and could not determine who was the crown prince.
Empress Dowager Cao decided to choose Uncle Zhao, who did his duty, as the crown prince, that is, the later Song Yingzong.
After Yingzong ascended the throne, he was always polite to his biological parents and often went to greet him, but he was much colder to the old Empress Dowager Cao.
The minister Fu Bi said to Song Yingzong at the court: "You were named the crown prince because of your filial piety, but now you have forgotten the lonely Empress Dowager Cao, how can you bear it?""Don't forget who made you emperor. ”
Yingzong had an epiphany, and from then on, he often went to Empress Cao to greet him.
When you get help, you fulfill the promises you made, and you become like gold and more valuable.
When you reach your goal, don't forget what you need to do, otherwise your character will be bad and your goal will be lost.
Follow the rules and avoid revenge.
How do you repay him?
I read a story about a tiger who stepped on a sharp branch and couldn't walk in pain.
A passer-by ventured over to help pull out the branches.
A few days later, the tiger picked up a deer and placed it in front of a passerby's house.
The tiger will also repay the favor, this is the ordinary person's understanding of this story.
On a deeper level, the tiger uses the life of a deer to achieve its purpose of returning the favor. This way of repaying the favor is too cruel.
Imagine if you went out and bought some food for a poor man. The poor will steal the money right away and transfer it to you. Doesn't this hurt you?
If you don't have the money to pay it back, it's better to do nothing, at least don't make a mistake.
Therefore, it is very important to grasp the scale and method of repaying kindness, and to repay kindness within the scope of law and morality. Otherwise, you're asking for help while someone else is helping you.
What's even more terrifying is that others help you, but you don't appreciate it, and you become an overdraft of social kindness. For example, if you ask for money somewhere and get a hundred, then you will become lazy and become a professional beggar, and social morality will be destroyed.