Recently, Yang Wei posted a **, sharing the current situation of his three children, first of all, the eldest son Yang Yangyang, I still remember that he was a cute and cute little one back then, and now he is a young man with a height of one meter eight and four-pack abs.
Speaking of his 14-year-old son, Yang Wei is also proud, not only a famous scholar, the results of each subject are A, the goal is 985 and Stanford, even the school principal praised him for his excellence, and he has a cheerful personality, very sensible, hard-working, and has good results in golf after insisting on learning for several years, and his development is very good in all aspects of "other people's children".
Then there is the second child of his family, Huanhuan, who showed her amazing learning talent when she was only in the first grade, writing homework very quickly, and teaching herself to sketch, which made adults very worry-free and effortless.
Finally, the third Lele, the plot took a sharp turn, and the old father sighed: The same batch of production, why is the difference so big.
Lele is slow to do homework, has poor memory, and has difficulty concentrating. In the strong contrast of Huanhuan, Lele's performance made Yang Wei and Yang Yun also start to be anxious, asking her for a tutor, forcing the child to study hard late at night, and writing homework while taking injections when she has a cold.
After some operation, Lele was very aggrieved, and she asked her parents: Am I not as good as my brother, am I not your child?
This question woke up Yang Wei and his wife, every child is different, Lele is just an ordinary child, she is just not good at learning for the time being, they began to admit Lele's ordinary, according to Lele's rhythm, slowly accompany and guide, give timely affirmation and encouragement, and accumulate confidence for her in the place where Lele has done well.
And Lele is indeed in the encouragement and affirmation of his parents, constantly improving, the homework that used to take an hour to complete, to the next 6 minutes to get done, and all right.
When the child feels that she is seen and affirmed, she will be willing to get better, and this endogenous force can push the child to go further.
These parenting experiences shared by Yang Wei are indeed worth learning.
When we meet talented children, we steal joy and meet ordinary children, what we need to do is not to be impatient, find the child's shining point, and help the child accumulate self-confidence.
Go at the pace of the child, don't transfer the parents' own anxiety to the child, too hasty, too violent, counterproductive, learning is only a part of the child's life, in the process of parenting, think more about our original intention.
Some netizens said that having a child is like opening a blind box.
If conditions permit, you still have to have more babies, like Yang Wei's family, three children, two who win glory for the country, one who is on his knees, and he will not be left behind to repay the country, how beautiful!