Once upon a time, a man came to a Buddhist monk and said, "Please help me." I was so depressed with life that I didn't know what to do. As he spoke, the man began to cry.
The monk comforted and inquired about the situation, saying, "Friend, please tell me in detail what happened." ”
The man began to tell his sad story, saying: "* I live in the village and used to be the richest person in the village, and anyone who borrowed money from me, I would lend it to them. But when it came time to pay back, they made all kinds of excuses not to pay it back. I got married a few years ago and I never hid anything from her, telling her everything about the past and present. But she still didn't respect me. One day, I had an argument with her, and I asked a neighbor to mediate, and she became even more angry and ran away from home several times. I felt that people respected me on the surface, but behind the scenes they laughed at me, and I became the laughing stock of the village, and they took advantage of my kindness. Now that my business is plummeting and my wife is gone, I have nowhere to go. ”
After listening to the man's words, the monk pondered for a moment, and then said, "Friend, the reason why you are experiencing this is because you are too honest and even tell others what you should not have told others. So today I'm going to tell you seven things you should never reveal to others. ”
The man listened carefully to the monk's words.
The monk first said, "First, never confide in others about your sorrow and helplessness. When we encounter grief in our lives, we always want to share it with others in the hope of alleviating the pain. But in reality, doing so only exposes our vulnerability and makes others look down on us. Most people won't help you, but will laugh at you behind your back. Even if someone helps you, they expect you to be more rewarded, and if they can't, they will get angry. If you accidentally share your predicament with the enemy, they will take advantage of your helplessness because the enemy knows that you are weak right now, and this is the perfect time to take revenge on you. Therefore, never complain to others about your sadness and helplessness. ”
The monk continued, "The second thing is, never reveal your past mistakes and future plans. Whatever mistakes you've made in the past, don't tell anyone about them. Sharing mistakes won't change the past, it will only be a reason for others to laugh at you. After knowing your past, people will talk about you behind your back, become suspicious of you, and lose trust. Even if you've changed a bit now, they still only see your past and don't see you as a trustworthy person, which can damage your image. Similarly, don't tell anyone about your future plans. There are two disadvantages to doing this: First, when you tell people about your goals, they will pretend to praise you and be jealous of you inside. When you are complacent, you lose the passion to struggle, and the goal will slowly fade. Second, when you reveal your plans, others may be jealous of you, want you to fail, and try to discourage you, perhaps even deliberately creating obstacles. Therefore, never tell others about your future plans, only share them once they are achieved. ”
The monk continued, "Thirdly, never reveal your family affairs. Don't tell anyone about your family, including conflicts between family members, between you and your partner. Small quarrels are common in every family, but these things should not be passed on. We often get angry and tell others about family matters, or even criticize family members, forgetting that these people may humiliate us in public in the future. When we talk about family matters in front of others, we give them the opportunity to interfere in our family affairs and may even take advantage of our family conflicts when needed. In addition, family members can also feel very sad when they know that you have revealed your family affairs and criticism to others, which will only worsen your family relationship. Therefore, never talk to someone about your family affairs. ”
The monk continued: "Fourth, never reveal your weaknesses and strengths. There are two important reasons not to reveal your weaknesses and strengths: one is that if the enemy knows about your strengths, they will find a way to crack them so that your strengths no longer become advantages. Similarly, if you reveal your weakness to others, they will use it to control you or even suppress you. You will always be under their control and will have to follow their orders. Even couples should not reveal weaknesses to each other because they may also take advantage of each other's weaknesses for improper benefits, and the person who knows each other's weaknesses will be dominant. ”
The monk said, "Fifth, never disclose your income and savings. There are two main reasons for not disclosing your income: one is that if you have a good income, friends and relatives will first be jealous of you and then keep borrowing money from you. Even if you lend it to them, they may be reluctant to return it because they think you have enough income and don't need the money. This will ruin your relationship. If your income is low, friends and relatives will lack the respect they deserve for you and laugh at your income behind your back. They won't lend you money if you need it because they don't think you have enough income to repay the loan. It can also ruin your relationship and make you lose respect in society. Therefore, it is better not to tell others about your income and savings. ”
The monk continued, "Sixth, never reveal your experience of being humiliated. If you've ever been humiliated, don't tell anyone, including your partner, for whatever reason. Because at the time, your partner may stand in your shoes and speak for you, but later they may often taunt you about it. Similarly, if other people know that you have been humiliated, they can also humiliate you by talking about it in front of others at any time. So if you've ever been humiliated, never tell anyone. ”
The monk finally said, "Seventh, never reveal your friends and foes. While most people don't care who your friends and foes are, it's still sensitive information and shouldn't be shared with anyone. Because those who have bad intentions towards you may use this information against you after knowing who your friends and enemies are. If your enemies know who your friends are, they may build a good relationship with your friends and then instigate them against you. Similarly, if your friends know who your enemy is, if there is a quarrel between you in the future, they may collude with your enemy and hurt you. Therefore, never tell anyone who your friends and enemies are. ”
After saying that, the monk was silent for a moment, and then said, "Friend, if you can do the above seven things and never disclose these things to anyone, then you will definitely be able to live a happy and respectful life in society." ”
Tears rolled in the man's eyes after listening to the monk's words, and he regretted that he had been too honest and told others what he shouldn't have told others. He suffered a lot because of this. He was grateful to the monks for giving him guidance, and he was determined never to make the same mistake again and never tell anyone about these seven things. He bowed to the monk and thanked him, then left.
Friends, these are seven things you should never reveal to others. If you can also do it without revealing these things to others, then you will be able to live a safe, happy, and respectful life.