1.We can socialize upwards, but don't be casually backward compatible
Because backward compatibility is a very dangerous and easy thing to overturn.
Many characters who could have been mixed up, because of the so-called compassion and kindness, ended up harming each other and ruining themselves.
For example, an employee who has been with you for a long time, but really can't cultivate ability, because of his so-called loyalty, good projects have been handed over to him to do, and finally the project is done yellow, and he will find a bunch of reasons for other people's problems, even your problems.
I'm more and more insistent on working with great people, even if it's insecure;Instead of doing things with people who give you a sense of security, but can't get things done.
For example, if you have been with a friend who is an order of magnitude worse than you for a long time, they are the ceiling of your vision and circle, and then you will be dragged into the water by them, and you think that the mediocre ordinary life is actually quite good.
I believe more and more that a strong person only needs a few high-quality friends, rather than a bunch of rice bucket friends who can't talk about anything at dinners and activities every day.
The poor like to socialize with the poor, and the weak like to hang out with the weak;When the poor face the rich, they will feel inferior and jealous;When the weak face the strong, it will breed a rotten mentality.
The rich and the rich play, the poor and the poor play, it's too peaceful;I am most afraid of you, I have good intentions, and I say that I want to pull a friend, and the final result is that the friend is most likely not pulled up by you, and your two friends have nothing to do.
Because the ideas are not the same, because the goals are different, because the ambitions are different, because the ability gap is too big.
2.How to judge whether a person can become rich in the future.
Over the years, I have seen a lot of friends who may have been ordinary in the first few years, but after a few years they have become rich people by working their own, and I have also seen a lot of ordinary people who have been struggling for many years, but have done nothing;Then I found that those who became rich after a few years from ordinary people really have some things in common with doing things, including myself will have these ** styles.
Here are three characteristics of the behavior of the rich that are almost universal.
First, the rich are very direct in socializing, going straight to the point, and trying to skip or shorten unnecessary pleasantries.
This is really obvious, and I myself am the same, if I want to talk to a friend about serious matters or business cooperation consultations at dinner, I usually talk directly, and if the other party is also a good person, I will not feel offended, because you both know that this kind of direct communication is the most efficient and actually the most sincere.
If you have been greeting for too long, you generally don't have any ability;Because he himself does not know what he wants, and he himself does not consider time to be the most precious and scarce.
At dinner, even if it is the first time for the other party to meet, after a brief chat, I usually consult the other party directly, or give the other party suggestions directly, because I don't know when we will meet again next time, so I have to give value at the moment, which is the greatest sincerity.
Second, the rich are very stingy with their time, more so than with money.
Why do excellent people often like to be alone, and others are also lonely and want companionship, but they feel that low-quality companionship is a waste of time, and it is better to be alone.
So the rich will put a price on their time, and in the eyes of outsiders, it will seem mercenary and unkind, that is, if you come to me for consultation and buy my time, but the gap between the ** you think you have to pay and the ** I think your time is too big, then I will reject you;It's not that they don't look down on you, but they don't price each other's time differently.
This is actually a huge gap in perception between people.
Third, the rich seek a higher level of absolute freedom, even at the cost of a higher level of absolute suffering.
My life, the pursuit of five freedoms;
The first freedom is bodily freedom;
That is, to be in good health, free from diseases and chronic diseases, to be able to walk and run, to measure the world with footsteps, and this state can also be the same in old age;This is not easy, I have been working very hard lately** my knee joint, and**gout.
The second freedom is financial freedom;
There is no absolute amount of financial freedom, but at least there is a standard, that is, even if you retire in middle age, your life in the next 20 years, as long as you do not squander, can ensure that you live a decent life, and it is even better if you have cash flow. Money is still an adult's greatest confidence and decency.
The third is freedom of identity;
I changed my permanent status in Hong Kong this year, and since then I basically don't need a visa for international travel, and I can fly anytime and anywhere, which is also the result of my planning in Hong Kong seven years ago, and I am very satisfied, and it is only China's unique institutional advantage. That's why I keep suggesting that you get a Hong Kong identity, because it's really good.
Specifically, I can go back and talk about Hong Kong identity, I often write articles.
The fourth is the freedom of time;
When I say time freedom, I don't mean doing nothing, but you can take the initiative to plan and arrange your time, and have absolute control over your time, that is, you are not willing to spend time doing what you don't want to, but have to;Therefore, wealth freedom is often the hole card of time freedom.
The fifth is emotional freedom;
This is rarely mentioned, but I think it's important to be able to keep your mind from being consumed, without anxiety and fear, with beauty and expectation, concentration and mindfulness.
We will inevitably encounter a lot of bad things, but what kind of mentality you have in the face of these things determines whether you can achieve emotional freedom, which is very important, and this freedom is the ceiling level.
My current mood has a sense of numbness and sluggishness after being penetrated, that is, I feel that life is meaningless, many things are not interesting, but it is not so bad, and I am in a bleak and pessimistic optimism.
I hope that in such a bad economic environment, you can strive to become rich, but it is really not possible, and try not to fall into the poor.
Life is not easy, live well.
Talk in the comment area, what stage of life are you in.