Many people think that socializing is just having dinner with colleagues, which can bring each other closer and increase friendship. However, this way of socializing is actually very ineffective.
First of all, having a meal with a colleague often costs a lot of money, and one person often has to pay the bills. Not only will this make you feel uncomfortable, but it will also make other people uncomfortable. In addition, during the dinner party, you may find that you have little in common with some people, or you may find yourself always playing the role of a "clown", being teased and ridiculed. This can leave you feeling very frustrated and helpless.
Secondly, having dinner with colleagues often does not really bring each other closer. During a meal, you may find yourself sharing a lot of topics with some people, but once you leave the table, you have very little contact with each other. This is because you don't really build trust and understanding between you, but just have a meal together.
Finally, having dinner with colleagues can cause you a lot of unnecessary troubles and annoyances. For example, you need to take into account other people's tastes and eating Xi habits, spend time and money preparing a potluck, and worry about cleaning and tidying up after a meal. These can cause you a lot of unnecessary stress and annoyance.
Therefore, I think the most ineffective way for middle-aged people to socialize is to have dinner with colleagues. If you want to get closer to your colleagues, you can build trust and understanding by working together at work. At the same time, you can also try to participate in some interest groups or social activities to make more friends.