Life is a challenge, and each stage has different challenges and trials. In childhood, you have to deal with academic challenges, and as adults, you have to deal with work andlifepressure. When you start a family, you have to face the challenges of raising children, which puts a lot of pressure on people. In order to create a better for the whole familylifeconditions, many people have to turn to the help of the older generation to take care of their children. However, according to a social survey, only 30% of the elderly are willing to take care of their children at home, and the remaining 70% prefer to be able to live their own lives freelylife。After a year of helping their children with their children, the elderly will see through three truths.
1. Bringing grandchildren not only consumes energy, but also money. Once retired, many seniors feel that they are idle, so they are willing to help their children with their children, which is a way for them to reduce stress. However, in the process of raising children, they will put a lot of effort into it. If your children can give them some allowances, they may find it okay to work harder. However, some parents may need to come up with their own pension to support the family. Bringing children already costs a lot of money, and over time, people feel exhausted, stressed, and spend a lot of money. They have worked hard all their lives, and when they get old, they not only have to take care of a large family, but they also get nothing in return. SuchlifeLet them feel aggrieved and have nowhere to tell their hard work. Helping children with children is not something that should be taken for granted. When helping with children, we should avoid consuming their money and not making them contribute both effort and money. After all, parents are old and no longer make money, and they also want to save some money for themselves to live a safe lifelife
Second, bringing grandchildren will also attract complaints from children. For young people, finding parents to help with their children is undoubtedly the most reliable option. However, the joy of the next generation is accompanied by many troubles. between different generations,ParentingThere is also a big difference in perception. As S. Johnson said, "Every old man complains that the world is falling, about the impudence and arrogance of the next generation." "Every era has its own eralifeway, people who have received different educational concepts will form different values. Therefore, even if the elderly take care of their grandchildren, they will inevitably face complaints from their children. There are many problems with children in the next generationParentingDifferent concepts will lead to eternal contradictions with children. The hard work of the old people has only been exchanged for accusations and complaints, and unhappiness in their hearts is unavoidable. After a year of helping with their children, many people finally understand that helping with children is a difficult and unrewarding task. As children, we should be grateful for the help of our parents and not complain casually. They could have avoided this responsibility, and in the process of taking care of children, we should communicate in a timely manner to reduce the occurrence of conflicts.
3. Bringing grandchildren gradually became one".Babysitter”。in the everydaylifeMany parents help their children with their children, initially just wanting to help. However, with the commonlifeThe big and small affairs of the family fell on their shoulders. In the TV series ".Like a year of flowing water",HaitaoHer mother retired to help with her granddaughter. Due to his inexperience, he is often blamed by his daughter-in-law, whether it is a problem with the way he feeds, or the meals he makes are accused of being unsightly and unpalatable. Although the old man was dissatisfied with this, he still tried to learn how to take care of the children and do household chores. They are obviously elders, but they have to do everything by themselves no matter how big or small they are taking care of their children. Gradually, they became".Babysitter”。As Rasputin said: "The attitude towards the elderly is the most important thing for them." "Parents also have their own old age that they want to livelifeWe shouldn't take up all their time and energy, let alone treat them as "".Babysitter"Treated. Don't think that everything in the house should be done by them. Although the elderly have taken on the responsibility of caring for their grandchildren, it is not out of obligation, and they sacrifice a good retirementlifeIn exchange for the ease of the children. We can't treat them like servants.
Total Life is a challenge, and each age stage will face different levels and difficulties. From academic performance to work to parenting, each stage has its own challenges. In order to create a better for the familylifeconditions, many people choose to let parents help with the child. However, a social survey shows that only 30% of the elderly are willing to take care of their children at home, and the remaining 70% prefer to live on their ownlife。After a year of helping their children with their children, parents will see three truths.
First of all, bringing up children not only consumes energy, but also money. After retirement, many people feel that they are idle, so they choose to help their children take care of them to reduce stress. However, in the process of raising children, parents put in a lot of energy. Subsidizing some hardship expenses can ease their burden, but some parents may need to use their own pension to support their families. It costs a lot of money to bring up children, and over time, people feel exhausted, stress increases, and their wallets go flat. Parents have worked hard all their lives, and when they get old, they don't get anything in return for helping to take care of a large familylifeLet them feel aggrieved. When parents help with their children, we should not consume their money, do not let them contribute both effort and money. After all, parents are old and no longer earn money, and they also want to save some money for themselves and live a safe lifelife
Secondly, bringing children may attract complaints from children. between generations,ParentingThere are also differences in perceptions. Therefore, even if parents take care of their grandchildren, they will inevitably face complaints from their children. Bringing children across generations can create a lot of conflicts and disputes. The efforts of the parents have only been exchanged for accusations and complaints, and they will naturally not be happy in their hearts. As children, we should be grateful for the help of our parents and not complain casually. In the process of helping to take care of children, communicate in a timely manner to reduce the occurrence of conflicts.
Eventually, helping to bring grandchildren gradually became one".Babysitterrole. All the big and small affairs of the family fall on the shoulders of the parents. They become caregivers of household chores and children. Although parents will try to learn how to take care of their children and do household chores, they will also be blamed and critical by their children. "Parents also have their own old age that they want to livelifeWe shouldn't take up all their time and energy, let alone treat them as "".Babysitter"Treated. They shouldn't be the whole family to do. Helping with children is a parent's choice, not an obligation. We can't treat them like workers.
In short, helping children with children not only consumes energy and money, but can also lead to complaints from children and turn parents into "".Babysitter”。We should be grateful for our parents' help, respecting and understanding their choices and difficulties. In the process of helping to take care of children, we should reduce conflicts and disputes, and work together to create a harmonious family environment.