Reading guide: What does the rural saying "don't send an umbrella if you're happy, don't send cigarettes for longevity, and don't make up for mourning"?What makes sense?
The solar year is approaching, and it is time to visit each other to give gifts, and people also take advantage of this solar year holiday to visit relatives or friends' homes.
And on the days of the holiday in this solar year, many relatives and friends will take advantage of this holiday to hold a full moon for the children, or a wedding banquet for the children, and some old people will also join in the excitement for the big birthday, and we give gifts to the married children, or give birthday gifts to the elderly, which is also particular.
Because people do happy events, or celebrate the birthday of the elderly, they pay attention to auspiciousness, if they give some unlucky gifts, it will affect their emotions, and it will also cause the relationship between themselves and their relatives and friends to break down.
This is not the emergence of this rural saying"If you don't send an umbrella if you are happy, you don't send cigarettes for your birthday, and you don't make up for your mourning", and what does this mourning not make up for?Listen to my full explanation.
1. Don't give an umbrella
During the Gregorian New Year's holiday, many families will take advantage of this holiday time to hold weddings for their children, or give the full moon to their descendants, because the migrant workers who go to work or work outside in this solar year have to go home for the Gregorian Festival.
The family can get together happily, talk about the past together, and report to each other the achievements of each family, or encounter difficulties, so that the family encourages each other and works hard to create their own future.
And in this festival of the solar calendar, if anyone talks about the child getting married or holding a full moon, don't give the child the most exquisite umbrella, although the current umbrella is also divided into high, medium and low grades, the most high-end umbrella is worth one or two hundred yuan, and you can still afford to send an umbrella.
But holding a banquet is a festive thing, even no matter how valuable the umbrella is, it can't be sent, because the umbrella word of the umbrella is the same as the word scatter, and the children's wedding is a day for the young couple to pursue a hundred years of good togetherness, and it is also a day for the young couple to be inseparable for a lifetime.
If you send an umbrella to the little couple, it will create a misunderstanding of the ** family, as if cursing people to separate as soon as possible, maybe because of this thing, the best relatives and friends will break up, and all contacts will be cut off from then on.
Second, Shou does not send cigarettes
Nowadays, when the elderly celebrate their birthdays, they will take advantage of the holidays to give themselves birthday gifts, so that they can also understand the relatives and friends who work outside, and these relatives and friends will also go to celebrate the birthday of the elderly in the countryside on this New Year's Day.
Immediate relatives go to celebrate the birthday at the same time, but also have to prepare some gifts, after all, they have not met for half a year, but now the gifts are given four gifts, if the old man can drink, you have to buy two bottles of good wine, you have to buy some good tea, and then buy some high-end cow and goat milk powder, and then buy the most expensive fruit in winter.
But don't buy cigarettes to give gifts, because cigarettes and the pharynx of the throat are homophonic, and they are also the most taboo syllables for the elderly, because the old people who do their birthdays, their youngest is 66 to 70 years old, and the high life expectancy is 80 to 90 years old, because the elderly in rural areas have age limits, such as 66 birthdays, 70 to 80 birthdays, and 90 to 100 birthdays.
If you give these old people a cigarette, it is like urging these old people to hurry up, so we give gifts to the elderly who hold their birthdays, and we must remember not to give cigarettes, so as not to affect the mood of the old people, or affect the relationship between themselves and their friends.
Third, the mourning will not be made up
If you hear the news of the death of an elderly relative in the countryside, you should hurry to attend the funeral as soon as possible, or keep vigil to help, which will leave some contacts for your old people, or leave conditions for yourself to contact feelings.
If you are working outside or working on the construction site, and the temporary leave unit does not give you leave, in this case, you can only do it for your relatives or friends, and bring the money to attend the funeral, so that you can also have a piece of your heart.
If you don't play cards according to the normal, wait until people finish the funeral, and then go to people with the funeral, this is disrespectful to people, after all, people have just been freed from grief, and you go again It's like sprinkling a handful of salt on people's wounds, so that you will make a ** home and sad for a while.
Therefore, if you don't have time to attend the funeral that day, you can ask relatives and friends to bring the money of the followers, if you can't reach these things, don't go to the people to follow the rites later, this favor will not be too late to return the ceremony when their family has something to do in the future.
To sum up, the saying "don't send an umbrella if you are happy, don't send cigarettes for your birthday, and don't make up for your funeral", you can understand a lot of truth from between the lines, and in our daily life, we will often encounter these things, so we will learn from here experience, do you think I am right?