1. Faced with multiple choices, how would you choose?
Scenario 1:
You're planning to finish your next day's ** in the library tonight, but as you walk across campus, you suddenly find that a writer you've admired for a long time is giving a lecture on campus.
At this point, do you insist on going to the library?Or go to a lecture?
Scenario 2:
Same question, but with a new option.
You plan to finish the next day's ** in the library tonight. But as you walk through the campus, you suddenly find that a writer you've admired for a long time is going to give a lecture on campus. And in another auditorium, a foreign movie you've always wanted to see is being screened.
At this point, do you insist on going to the library?Going to a lecture?Or go to the movies?
2. The paradox of choice
The study found that 60% of students insisted on going to the library when there was only one attractive option, "lectures".
When faced with two attractive options at the same time, more students (80%) choose to go to the library.
The result may come as a surprise: people are more insistent on their initial decision, even though they have more options that will interest them.
The reason for this phenomenon is because:It's not easy to make a choice
When the choice exists between a lecture and a library, you can decide which thing is more important on that day, Xi or leisure
When two leisure activities come up at the same time, you have one more choice: which one is better for me?Faced with this extra choice, people often say, "Forget it, I'd better go to the library." ”
So, people often avoid the burden of choice by sticking to the original planIn effect, it is choosing not to make a choice
Reminds me of the story of "Buridan's Donkey":
When a donkey is placed between two identical piles of hay, which are identical in weight, color, and smell, the donkey is in trouble, and although no one restricts its freedom to graze, because the two piles of hay are identical, and it is in the middle, it sways and makes it difficult to make a choice, and finally starves to death.
This phenomenon is also known as the "Bridan effect", which is actually a kind of choice difficulty, as the so-called fish and bear's paws cannot have both, and the horse wants to run and eat less grass.
IIILeisure gives us the freedom to make no choices
Spare time makes it easy for us to avoid the burden of choice。The reason why you have to choose between a lecture and a movie is because the time available to you is limited, and you have to choose between the two and have it both ways. But if you have spare time, you can do both.
For example: when you go shopping for clothes, and you see two clothes you like at the same time, if the money in your pocket is limited, you have to choose one or the other, if you have enough money in your pocket, then there is no anxiety to choose from, just buy both.
For example, if you like two flavors of ice cream at the same time, and you are on a diet at this time, you have to choose one of them.
Whether it's spare money, free time, or not using **, it will give you the right not to choose. At this point, you can say, "I'll have both." ”
Leisure gives us the freedom to make no choices
Fourth, "Sword in the Snow" "Why do I want to choose, Lao Tzu wants it!".”
Scenario 1: Can you have the best of both worlds?
At Xu Fengnian's crown ceremony, Xu Xiao said to Xu Fengnian: "The world is so big, standing so high, I still can't see it all." ”
Xu Fengnian: "Maybe I can't see it all. ”
Xu Xiao: "Maybe it's not high enough." ”
Xu Fengnian: "Don't you think you can't climb high enough?"”
Xu Xiao: "Stand tall and see clearly." ”
Xu Fengnian: "The scenery under the mountain is also good. ”
Xu Xiao: "I want to say that before today, you were still a child, and it was good to be young, but this vision was not thoughtful enough. I, the father, is like a big umbrella, blocking those wind, frost, snow and rain away for you. So the decision you can't make, the dad does it for you. You don't want to kill Ning Emei, and you want your brother to stay in Beixing, I can only find this third way for you. If you don't kill people, your brother can stay in the palace, and the north starling can't be in chaos yet. ”
Xu Fengnian: "Xu Xiao, you promised my mother to protect him." ”
Xu Xiao: "I promised your mother to protect you." You want the best of both worlds, and that's all I can do。The struggle for power was originally life and death, and I made him an ordinary person, which was to give him a lifetime of stability. If you want Huang Man'er to stay in the North Starling, this is the only way. “
Scene 2: "Why do I choose, Lao Tzu wants it!."”
When Li Chungang accompanied Xu Fengnian to Longhu Mountain, Li Chungang asked Xu Fengnian: "One day, maybe you have to make a choice between Jiang Ni and North Starling?"How do you choose?”
Xu Fengnian: "Why did I choose?".”
Li Chungang: "The north starling town country, Jiang Ni westward, after all, must be opposed." “
Xu Fengnian: "This world is black and white, it is difficult to distinguish between right and wrong, where is the inevitable game." I, Xu Fengnian, will not let myself go that far. North starling and ginger mud, Lao Tzu wants it!”
Li Chungang: "It turns out that you can have both." If I knew you and knew that people could be scoundrels to everything, it might have been different. "After an epiphany, he returned to the land fairyland.
5. Summary
It's not easy to make choices, and having too many choices may not be a good thing.
Leisure gives us the freedom to make no choices
Thinking transformation: Jumping out of the thinking of "you can't have both, you can't have the best of both worlds" to thinking about how to "don't choose, take care of both, and do both".