In our cognition, human beings can only be divided into two kinds of people, women and men, and outside the realm we know, there is another kind of people, that is, intersex people, who have men's officials and women's, and it is because of this that they suffer a lot of cold words in their lives.
In reality, there is an intersex Wang Ziqi, who once said: "I don't know if I am a girl or a boy." "Even a three-year-old child can know this kind of gender question, does she really not know whether she is a man or a woman?
At a young age, she was kicked out of the house by her parents because of a physical illness, and now her physical illness has been resolved?How did she live alone in this society?
Bad omen is coming
In 1989, Wang Ziqi was born in an ordinary family in Taiyuan, Shanxi, the family is doing a small business, and the life is quite rich, there is a brother who is a few years older than her, and her parents love her very much, not to mention how happy the life of a family of four is.
But there are unforeseen circumstances, and the outbreak of an incident broke up this happy family, and when Wang Ziqi was in the third grade of primary school, an accident happened.
There was a pimple between her legs, which was small at first, but it was very uncomfortable, so she hurriedly found her mother, and when the mother saw it, she was frightened and thought that the child had a tumor on her body, so she hurriedly took the child to the hospital for examination.
The doctor's test results came out, and the frightened mother sat down on the stool, only to hear her muttering, "It's better to be a tumor?"What can I do?”
Wang Ziqi saw that her mother's face was very bad, thinking that she had some fatal illness, so she also stood in place and cried.
What disease is more serious and deadly than a tumor?It turned out that the doctor's diagnosis was "46,xx syndrome", which means that Wang Ziqi suffered from congenital hermaphroditism, although the prevalence of this disease is only 00001, but Wang Ziqi is one of the unfortunate people.
The reason why the child gets this disease is because the mother was affected by bad things from the outside world during pregnancy, and there is also a possibility that the child itself has some problems.
But the chromosome test showed that Wang Ziqi is a girl with a uterus and ovaries in her body, if there are no subsequent defects, she can be a normal girl, but because of chromosomal defects, she has a male *** official.
The child is still young, and the physical defects are not very obvious, so they will not be affected much, but what about the future?What should I do?
It's no longer a secret
As she grew older, the physiological characteristics of Wang Ziqi began to appear, and the female physiological characteristics developed normally, and at the same time, the male characteristics on her body were difficult to hide.
slowly grew the Adam's apple, and the voice was no longer a child's grandmother's voice, in exchange for a strong voice, Wang Ziqi's girl's appearance, and the boy's voice, such a contrast was particularly abrupt.
At that time, she just thought that it was just a defect in her body, and as long as she was not known, there would be no big problem, but the young Wang Ziqi still underestimated the malice of human nature.
Once, when she was going to the toilet, she was accidentally bumped into by a girl next to her to break her secret, and after that, her classmates at school, whether boys or girls, would walk around her.
Girls will unconsciously treat Wang Ziqi as a boy, thinking that she is unfriendly to girls when she comes to the women's toilet, and the characteristics of puberty physical development will only be an excuse for being abused.
Boys don't think that Wang Ziqi is a boy or a girl, they only think that this is a monster who is neither male nor female, and even some boys think that Wang Ziqi is half a boy, and they joke about her without any words.
The ridicule among classmates at school made Wang Ziqi no longer stand such a range of Xi, and once wanted to drop out of school and go to a new place to study Xi, but his parents chose not to ask, because in their opinion, intersex people are a fact, and they don't care about other people's mouths.
Abandoned by loved ones
It didn't take long for the news of Wang Ziqi's intersex person to spread in the village, and the adults in the village saw Wang Ziqi's eyes full of unfriendly eyes looking up and down.
It seems that at this time, she is like a mouse crossing the street, everyone shouts and beats, it is obvious that Wang Ziqi is sick, but instead of being sympathized, she has become the object of everyone's spitting.
At this time, Wang Ziqi was just a child, and in the eyes of the villagers, she had become a heinous "villain", and there was always in her earsWords like "**freak" and "wonderful" follow her, and such a malicious life atmosphere makes Wang Ziqi unable to live a day.
She came to her parents and complained to them, hoping to solve the matter, but what her parents did was like a sharp sword deeply inserted into Wang Ziqi's heart.
The mother's disgusted eyes were more than anyone outside, Wang Ziqi's heart for hope suddenly fell into the ice cave, cold and painful, and his father also said the most vicious words: "Why not a tumor, why are you my daughter." ”
The mother's eyes and the father's words, until many years later, were still stationed in Wang Ziqi's heart like nails, and Wang Ziqi's parents' behavior after that could be said to have severed the fate between them and their daughter.
The parents really couldn't stand the gossip in the village, so they thought about keeping their daughter away from the village, so that no one would talk about it anymore.
"You go, you are now able to support yourself, and we don't ask you to provide for us in the future, we just ask that you never come back in the future. After speaking, her mother sorted out all Wang Ziqi's clothes and kicked her out of the house.
According to Wang Ziqi, after that, the parents never fought with their daughter again, just like there is no such child, in this family, only Wang Ziqi's brother will give her **, caring about how she is doing recently, whether she eats well or not, whether it is cold or not.
Wang Ziqi once said in an interview: "I can't forget their eyes in my life, if the eyes can kill, I have died hundreds of times." ”
With such categorical words, you can also see how deeply Wang Ziqi's heart is hurt by the people around her, which will be a scar on her heart that will never heal for the rest of her life.
The so-called family is a person's reliance and courage, and it is precisely because his parents and outsiders stand on the same line that Wang Ziqi has always been very inferior, and only dares to stay in a small part of his own world.
Ordinary life
Wang Ziqi came to Shenzhen after many journeys, this is a place where people can live, as long as there is a place to work, he will work hard to live.
Her inner inferiority complex and the secrets of her body do not allow her to stay in one place for a long time, and the longest time for each job is half a year or a year, the work is turbulent, her life is unstable, and she has to carefully hide her physical defects every day, so that Wang Ziqi does not dare to relax for a moment.
Although the parents are so ruthless, how can a wanderer who is still wandering outside not want to go home?It's just that the family has brought her pain.
Although she lives so carefully, but the sky is unexpected, the accident still happened, and the same storyline was staged again, she was found by a female colleague in the same company when she went to the toilet, and directly told her boss about it.
In the face of such a "potentially dangerous" intersex person around her, in order to reassure the company's personnel, it must be Wang Ziqi who lost her job, as if she was used to such things, and left the company very calmly.
Xi the pain does not mean that it is not painful, Wang Ziqi can only endure it, hope to give the development of medicine, and give himself a healthy body.
Perhaps God couldn't bear to see such a poor girl suffer any more, and one day, the doctor told her that there was now a sexual correction operation, but it would cost 200,000 yuan.
For Wang Ziqi, such news is simply a beam of light shining into life, as if he no longer has to suffer unfair treatment in the next second, and his grievances over the years can finally be resolved.
200,000 yuan, for a single girl who has no support, this is a large amount of surgery fees, but in Wang Ziqi's opinion, no matter how much money is spent, as long as you can change yourself, everything is worth it.
Imagination is beautiful, reality is cruel, it is not easy for a person to save enough 200,000 yuan, so the hospital decided to operate on Wang Ziqi for free.
Wang Ziqi hopes that she can become a complete girl, and she has finally been realized, she can finally be a normal woman, find a partner she likes, and live a happy life that belongs to two people.
In the eyes of many people, getting married and having children is a normal thing, and even young people are not willing to get married now, of course, this is a choice for their own life, but for Wang Ziqi, this is something she has dreamed of for many years, and finally got what she wanted.
In society, no matter what kind of people they are, they should learn to affirm themselves, no one will love yourself more than yourself, make yourself happy, healthy, better than anything else, don't care too much about other people's eyes, live your own life, and only you know if you are happy or not.
For these vulnerable groups, we should treat them with the greatest kindness, look at them with normal eyes, and have more kindness and happiness.