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After a breakup, men and women often react very differently. Men generally go through a mental journey of "sweet first and then bitter", while women often go through "bitter first and then sweet".
When men have just broken up, they often feel a sense of relief and relief, as if they are finally free from their shackles and can live as they please. Comparatively speaking, it is difficult for women to withdraw from good memories because they are naturally sensual, and a breakup is undoubtedly a heavy blow to them.
However, smart women know that they can't just dwell on their pain. They will use some effective methods to save their relationship and improve themselves in the process.
By looking at women who have successfully salvaged their relationships, we can see that they usually take three steps to achieve their goals. These steps not only allow them to regain their love, but also make them better in the process.
1. Early stage: accept the reality and stay calm
After a breakup, many women immediately fall into an emotional state, which may manifest as crying, begging, swearing, or being entangled.
But in reality, this kind of behavior often only makes men more determined to break up and produces feelings of disgust.
Therefore, sensible women should adopt a very different strategy at this time.
In the early stages of a breakup, the most important thing is to calmly accept the facts in front of you and keep your heart calm. You have to recognize that the breakup is a fact that has already happened, cannot be changed, and no matter how unwilling you are to face it or try to run away from it, you can't change it.
And, if you've been dwelling on negativity, it's likely to cause things to develop further and further away from your expectations.
You need to be aware that your relationship is over, and what you need to do is accept this reality and try to adapt to your new state of life.
At the same time, it is also very important to control your emotions and avoid impulsive behavior. There are a few activities you can try that will help you relax. (For example, traveling, playing, shopping, yoga, meditation, or simply walking can help you regain your composure and sanity.) ）
2. Medium-term: change yourself and enhance your charm
Since a relationship ends in a breakup, both parties need to make the necessary changes, regardless of who is responsible.
For women, if they want to save the relationship and make the man change his mind, the key is to change themselves and improve their attractiveness.
First, reflect deeply on the reasons for the breakup and seek solutions to these problems. Try to be a better version of yourself so that you can recapture his attention and spark his interest in you.
Women should not lose sight of their image at any time. Try to make some positive changes on the basis of pushing yourself to maintain a good image.
For example, you can join the gym for a workout and build a healthy figure and elegant temperament. In addition, you can also enhance your external charm with proper makeup and hairstyling.
While paying attention to the external image, it is equally important to improve the internal quality. Strive to be a more confident, independent, and attractive woman.
Enrich your inner world by reading, traveling, and Xi new skills. At the same time, it is crucial to learn to get along with people and manage various interpersonal relationships.
3. Later stage: give steps and guide communication
When you've done your best and the other person hasn't changed their minds, you may want to consider giving them a chance to get back to you.
There are subtle ways you can make overtures to the other person. For example, ask the person about something from the past, such as forgetting something, not finding something, etc., or mention a good place you've been to before and ask for the address to indicate that you want to go again.
It's also a good idea to send a text message or call them a ** to see how they're doing. However, it is important to note that these behaviors should be kept natural and not appear overly obvious or deliberate.
When communicating with the other person, you can guide them through your changes and growth, allowing them to witness that you are moving in a better direction.
Sharing your life experiences, travel experiences, and recent thoughts and feelings are all great things to share. But along the way, it's important to make sure that the conversation is easy and enjoyable, and that it doesn't feel oppressive or burdensome.
Finally, give the other person plenty of time and space to think about and deal with your own emotional issues. Respect their decisions and ideas and don't force them to make any choices.
If they choose to be with you again, make sure you take the opportunity to make sure you don't do it again. If they decide not to continue the relationship, be brave enough to accept it and move on.
I believe that after this series of changes and efforts, you have grown into a stronger and better person, and you deserve a better person and a better future!
In conclusion, it is important to avoid falling into a whirlpool of sadness after a breakup, but to keep a cool head and carefully analyze the current situation.
In this process, it is crucial to adjust and improve yourself appropriately in order to become a better individual.
A wise woman will use her wisdom and methods to redeem a sincere love. Because they know it
The essence of love is not to change oneself in order to please the other person, but to strive to be what one's heart desires.
When you bloom like a blooming flower, it will naturally attract many suitors. As the poetic expression goes, "If you bloom, butterflies will come!"”
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About the author: Xiao Wanqingqing, a post-90s self-leading creator, loves life philosophy, focuses on emotional writing and self-leading dry goods. Thank you for your attention