There are 30 million Chinese characters, but love is the most difficult to understand, and the word love has been a controversial topic for thousands of years.
Some people willingly sink into the dust for it, some people abandon everything for it without hesitation, and some people even seek ...... for it
I would like to share with you an incident that I saw with my own eyes, once I went to my grandmother's house to play, and when I passed by a family in the village.
I was startled by the sight of a woman with messy hair, strange clothes and dull eyes playing in front of the door, and I was startled and fled.
I've been curious since I was a child, so I told my grandmother what I had just seen and asked what was going on
According to the grandmother's description, it turned out that the woman used to be in early love when she was in junior high school, but after her parents found out, they strongly opposed it, and even let the girl suspend school and lock her at home.
The girl washes her face with tears every day, and her thoughts become sick, and eventually she becomes a crazy madman.
What is embarrassing is that now her parents are in their 70s, but they still have to take care of their daughter in their 50s.
Even though her parents' behavior was indeed inappropriate, it was she who really got her into trouble. Throughout her life, she has been emotionally entangled, hurt by it, and ultimately haunted by it.
As a new era, although our thoughts are not so extreme, when facing a breakup, pain is still unavoidable.
At this time, it is necessary to pay attention to the fact that suffering is not a derogatory term, but a neutral word, and some people continue to fall because of pain, unable to extricate themselves.
Some people will begin to realize their own behavior, such as whether there is something wrong with their behavior, which led to the current situation.
But this kind of introspection is only superficial, and when you go to a deeper level of awakening, you will see your own inner lack, insecurity, love, and need.
For example, if you are good to him, you also want him to be good to you as well, and even take it for granted that I am so good to you and have paid so much, why are you still doing this to me, this is not a kind of emotional kidnapping.
Love itself is beautiful, but the greed, hatred, ignorance, and suspicion that come with love are not good.
What is a relationship?Someone intrudes into your world and breaks your bottom line and principles again and again, but you are still stuck in it and can't extricate yourself, often causing yourself internal friction and misery.
Then why is it so difficult to intercede?Especially women, because we are emotional animals. From the perspective of Buddhism, the more blessed people are, the more likely they are to experience emotional calamities.
If you can face your heart and realize the lesson of Xi, let go of your ego.
Then congratulations, you've passed. Of course, it doesn't mean that you won't fall in love in the future, don't get married, and be a pure-hearted person with few desires and no desires.
Instead, it understands that love is deep and does not hurt itself, love is mutual nourishment rather than internal friction with each other, and it is deeper than love but not trapped in love.
The important thing is to love, not to be loved, I love you, but you are free.
Why is it that everywhere you look, there are all crazy men and women?Because love is too complex and not pure enough, it is necessary to love and possess, to love and desire, to love and control.
Passing the love barrier does not mean cutting off love or closing the heart, but knowing how to distinguish the difference between love and affection. Love is a positive force that gives us courage and hopeAnd love is often a kind of desire.
Behind it are negative emotions such as greed, lust, jealousy, suspicion, anger, and selfishness. Only when we learn to look at love separately from affection can we avoid falling into the trouble of love and thus love more purely.
Written at the end: Before we came to this world, we had already got the script, and what kind of people, things, and things we wanted to experience had already been set, and the reason why the soul chose you to have a physical body was also arranged in the dark.
We are not born into the world to fall in love, not to chase fame and fortune, or to pass on our ancestry.
We come to the world with a specific mission and lessons, and when we get through all the sufferings and fight monsters and upgrade, we will finally reach nirvana, and the physical body is only the carrier for us to cultivate the truth through pretenses, and the rolling red dust is the dojo of our cultivation.