The ancients did not marry the bottom line, the wisdom of choosing a mate by appearance, and the choice of life
Marriage is a lifelong event, both ancient and modern. However, in ancient times, young people generally did not have their own marital autonomy, and the decision to marry or not was mainly decided by their parents. In the process of choosing a mate, parents will also use proverbs passed down from generation to generation to determine whether a woman meets their criteria for choosing a mate. Until modern society, people can occasionally see palmistry stalls on the streets and alleys, so do these feudal proverbs really have a scientific basis?
This has been said for a long time. Since the Han Dynasty, there have been"When the brother-in-law chooses a daughter-in-law, he looks at the face first"、"Splayed feet"and so on. As the name suggests,"Face up"It's just walking with your head up and your chest up. "Eight feet"It is a figurative statement that refers to the fact that a woman often walks outwards when she walks, as if she has eight legs.
Why did ancient societies not allow women to walk face down and on eight feet at the same time?Because walking face up means that a person has a high IQ and is arrogant, for example, a prince or a nobleman or a landlord can only walk face up, and it is not suitable for a weak woman to walk face up.
In the old days, it was believed that a woman should be a big girl, as the saying goes"Enter one door, go out another"If a woman often goes out for a walk, it will not only be discussed, but also show that the woman's diligence is not high.
In fact, these two sentences are fundamentally a kind of discrimination against women by feudal thought. By the Han Dynasty, Confucianism became orthodox, and Dong Zhongshu responded to the emperor's request and proposed"Three Platforms and Five Constants", mainly for women. Since then,"One hundred nanometers"、"Eight legs"and other sayings have also become popular.
In the ancient patriarchal society, people almost tacitly believed that women must be born with three outlines and four virtues, otherwise they will be regarded as immoral by the bourgeoisie, and as a woman must be slender, slender, and graceful, and the habit of facing the sky and being eight feet tall certainly does not conform to this rule.
In addition, it is generally believed by the locals that women with these two habits are generally more short-tempered, they will fight for the dominance of their husbands in the family, and they are prone to violent quarrels with their mothers-in-law, which is something that every ancient family does not want to happen and must be avoided in advance when choosing a bride.
Naturally, men don't want their wives to be too strong, otherwise they will become a laughing stock in front of strangers. This explains why the locals invented the ugly custom of tying feet, the ultimate goal of which was to discourage women from going out too often. So,"The woman was face down, eight feet off the ground"It has become the first criterion for choosing a mate in ancient times.
If you look at the woman's appearance and posture to judge the character, there is still a certain scientific basis, but there is not much restriction on the woman facing up and eight feet, modern society does not advocate this, whether it is a man or a woman, you can raise your chest and raise your head, and you can stride forward.
The second criterion has a great metaphysical component, first of all, the mole on this point, everyone knows that the midpoint is a very important point in the human body, we can often see in TV dramas, people can suddenly fall unconscious, and a card on the way can bring them back to life, look at the midpoint of the human body, how important this point is to a person.
So, why don't people have long cards?The ancients believed that people with zodiac signs at the midpoint were mostly unfaithful to their marriages and would often cheat after marriage. I don't know if the ancients came to their conclusions by analyzing a large number of samples, or if they were random guesses. In any case, after modern science has studied the location of the birthmark, it has not been confirmed that the birthmark is long in ** will cause derailment.
Moles that grow in the middle and lower part of the nose are generally rare, and modern physiognomy theory believes that a mole growing in the middle of the face is a threat to remarriage, but this can be said to be made out of nothing, without scientific basis, and should not be trusted.
The idiom Yintang blackening often appears in TV dramas, usually referring to the signs of a person's short-lived life and the phenomenon of Yintang blackening. The ancients believed that people with black Yintang were not in good health and would die within a few years of marriage, so the marriage would not last long. There is still a lot of debate about whether there is a connection between the blackening of the Yin Tang and the length of a person's lifespan, but most people agree that there should be no connection between the two.
This example of a proverb is even more absurd, however, there are really a lot of folk sayings about this standard proverb that have no scientific basis other than sentence rhyme, such as"Women have high cheekbones, and they don't use knives to kill their husbands"Wait a minute. So,"A woman with high cheekbones can't get married"What is the end of this sentence?
The ancients liked homophones very much, so generally after the change of dynasty, in order to prevent popularity, the emperor's surname could not be used, even if it was a homophone, it had to be changed to another name. The same is true for the height of the cheekbones, because the height of the cheekbones is related to the right to vote, so the ancients believed that people with high cheekbones must have a strong desire for power.
The average woman can never touch the power of the princely general, so the woman with high cheekbones will compete for the supreme power in the family, and the power of the head of the family is usually in the hands of the man, so there is"A woman with high cheekbones does not use a knife to kill her husband"From this point of view, this sentence is really very unfounded.
The popular saying of mate selection in modern times is essentially a relic of feudal society, and the idea of male superiority and inferiority of women in society continues to this day, and modern society advocates equality between men and women, so when you hear these sayings, don't take the choice of marriage object seriously, even if you marry a woman who has a really solid family background, likes to go out, and has a short temper, it is inevitably not a good thing.
Although the Chinese culture is broad and profound, the aesthetic concepts of ancient times have been very different from those of modern times, but there are also a lot of residual ideas, we should cherish the precious cultural heritage left by our ancestors, and abandon backward ideas and concepts, in order to create a better life.