When it comes to extramarital affairs, I think of an experience from my colleague Miss Yang:
After five years of marriage, Miss Yang reunited with her first love, and the two had not seen each other for many years, and they resonated.
So, they became friends and gradually deepened their connection, from chatting to dating, and quietly fell into an extramarital affair.
However, Miss Yang is a woman with a positive outlook, and she is unwilling to continue this entanglement, so she took the initiative to break up with her first love.
However, the first love was never acceptable, and he still loved Miss Yang deeply and entangled her. Seeing his sincerity and affection, Miss Yang couldn't help but soften her heart and accept him again.
So, this relationship lasted for two years, until one day, the first love suddenly broke off contact, which made Miss Yang's heart twist.
At this time, Miss Yang has devoted herself to it, and she wants to forget but it is difficult to do so, and her heart has been empty and painful.
Later, she found her first love, and the two repeatedly split and reunited, and finally let the extramarital relationship **, each ending in divorce.
It can be seen that extramarital affairs are difficult to completely part, and once men and women are deeply involved, they are destined to be a tragedy.
Generally speaking, most of the following five types of extramarital affairs are difficult to break off, which is a real dilemma.
1. One party wants to end the relationship, but the other party is entangled. In an extramarital affair, if one party intends to end it, but the other party does not agree, and it is difficult for the relationship to end.
is like Miss Yang, who hoped to break up with her first love, but her first love couldn't accept it, and she still loved her deeply and was entangled, resulting in an inextricable relationship.
In reality, this is the case in many relationships, when the man's hope ends, the woman refuses to let go, mistakenly thinks that she has found true love, and insists on being with the man.
In the same way, when the woman wants to be free, the man is entangled and does not want the woman to go at all.
In this way, both men and women cannot reach a consensus, fall into the disorientation of extramarital affairs, and end up paying a heavy price.
It can be seen that in any extramarital affair, if a man and a woman are deadlocked with each other, the relationship will always be unclear and cannot be broken at all.
Second, both parties are invested in true feelings, and it is difficult to give up. In an extramarital affair, if both men and women are invested in true feelings and regard each other as the only one in their hearts, the relationship is difficult to part with and not easy to end.
Therefore, both parties can only hold on to the luck mentality, continue to be together, and enjoy the sweetness of romantic love.
However, if this kind of relationship is not recognized by society, both parties will have scruples, and conflicts will inevitably occur when getting along.
At this time, although the two parties are eager to end, when they really want to let go, they will feel reluctant and finally reconcile.
In this way, the two struggled repeatedly, their hearts were tormented, and they had a tense and uneasy time.
Therefore, in an extramarital affair, once a man or woman has moved his true feelings, if he wants to really give up, he must be decisive and timely conscious, otherwise he will only fall deeper and deeper, and there will be no good ending.
3. Women are too stupid, and men are ruthless if they don't want to leave. Some women are too blind in extramarital affairs, and they are so controlled by men that they completely lose their minds.
Moreover, when men have been pestering, they have no opinions at all and are completely at the mercy of men.
In this relationship, as long as the man is unwilling to leave, they are ruthless, and they can't get rid of the man and lose themselves.
Regardless of whether the man is sincere or not, this kind of woman can't let go, and has been deeply involved in extramarital affairs and can't extricate herself.
On the one hand, they consume their feelings, and on the other hand, they are pulled by men, and they are hurt physically and mentally.
However, they are too blind to ever think of leaving, and as long as the man does not mention breaking up, they are willing to stay with the man and continue to squander love.
Therefore, most of the women who are caught in extramarital affairs are too blind and irrational, and as long as they get a little emotional care and companionship from a man, it is difficult to give up this relationship.
Fourth, find happiness outside of marriage that cannot be obtained in marriage. Some men and women have been unable to part with them after having an extramarital affair, perhaps not because they are deeply in love, but because they feel that the happiness they can't get in marriage is found outside of marriage.
Such men and women are quite aggrieved and disappointed in their marriage, and once they meet someone who really cares about them outside of marriage, they will have emotions.
For example, a man has been blamed by his wife during his marriage, criticized at every turn, and has never felt love and care, resulting in inner disappointment.
At this time, a woman outside of marriage knows how to understand and care very well, and gives him care and support, which will make the man fall into it and not want to wake up.
In the same way, a woman who is not happy in her marriage, who has been hurt by her husband and has never been happy, will feel cold.
At this time, if there is a man who cares and loves her outside of marriage and makes her feel loved, she will be fully committed and mistakenly think that she has found true love.
It can be seen that once a man and a woman find another spiritual sustenance in an extramarital affair and feel happiness, it is difficult to get rid of it.
Fifth, the old love is unforgettable, and I am eager to start again. If men and women have been lovers and have not been together for practical reasons, it is easy to have ambiguous feelings when they meet again one day.
At this time, once the two parties fall into an extramarital affair, the old relationship is hard to forget, and they hope to start again, and this relationship is difficult to give up.
In reality, many people fall into extramarital affairs because they have met their first love, ex, or even the object of their crush, etc., and these relationships are easy to break the line of defense.
Such men and women already have a deep emotional foundation, and if they are not careful, they will fall into extramarital affairs and lose themselves.
They both want to be disconnected, but they are reluctant to give up, and they have been entangled, which eventually brings painful love.
If both parties do not wake up in time and do not have the courage to cut off the love thread, the relationship will not end, but will only fall deeper and deeper.
To sum up, most of these five extramarital affairs are difficult to let go:
One party wants to end the relationship, but the other party is entangled;Both parties are invested in true feelings, and it is difficult to let go;Women are too stupid, and men are ruthless if they don't want to leave;Happiness that was not obtained in marriage was found outside of marriage;The old love is unforgettable, and the desire to start anew.
It can be seen that once you get into an extramarital affair, it is difficult to get out of it.
This reminds men and women in reality that they must take precautions and do not get involved in extramarital affairs, lest they bear the price of pain.
In addition, extramarital relationships are simply not recognized and blessed by others, cannot withstand the test of reality, and will not have a future.
If men and women are not conscious and have been entangled, they will inevitably lose their lifelong happiness after the relationship, and the gains outweigh the losses.
Adults must be conscious, don't wait until you regret it, you must stay away from divorce and external affairs, and manage your marriage with your heart to protect your happiness.