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Ma Jiahui said"Life is nothing more than that, when suffering comes, I settle it down. ”
Life is short for decades, and a smart person must know how to treat himself well.
In fact, the most concrete way to treat yourself well is nothing more than learning to let go.
Let go of obsessions, lower expectations, stop internal friction, face right and wrong, success or failure, and settle your soul.
Only in this way, can you settle your heart well, and life can get better and better.
Let go of obsessions
Once people fall into obsession, they will become slaves to their thinking, constantly being pulled by all kinds of pulls, and their energy will be slowly emptied.
At the same time, only by letting go of one's obsessions, placing one's soul, and settling one's heart can one finally let go of distracting thoughts, not to think wildly, but to return to one's heart and live in the present.
Then, the soul can truly have free breathing, and can also make its own state of mind more expansive, and the days will be more and more steady.
There is a sentence in The Shawshank Redemption:
"If the heart is a cage, it is a cage everywhere, and freedom is not on the outside, but on the inside. ”
Too many people, too many distractions, too strong obsessions, so life is like a cage, no matter how you go, you can't experience the pleasure of freedom.
At the same time, I feel that life is getting more and more tired, and every day I feel that I am in a heavy state, constantly sinking into it and sinking.
Let go of obsessions, stabilize your emotions, regulate your mentality, let yourself be full of hope every day, and be able to enjoy the present anytime and anywhere, and enjoy the present.
As sung in "Happy Ballad":
The sun rises in the East China Sea and sets in the West Mountain, and it is sad for a day, and happy for a day.
If you don't drill the horns of the bull in case of trouble, people are also comfortable, and your heart is also comfortable.
So, don't worry about so many grievances and grievances, let alone let yourself be nosy, and don't let yourself live too tangled and stubborn.
Because there is only one life, and life can only be one time, only by experiencing and experiencing it well, can we have more possibilities in life.
It is written: "Self-grasping is the root, and all kinds of troubles arise. ”
Let go of obsessions and forget your troubles, and your life can get better and better.
Lower expectations
The root of a person's suffering is actually having too high expectations of something.
Because once people fall into such a state of huge psychological gap, it is difficult to balance the distance between reality and their ideals.
In the end, there are more and more expectations, and the expectations are getting higher and higher, anyway, because you can't control it, you can't hold it, and you don't have the corresponding ability to achieve it, you will only make yourself more and more miserable.
As the writer Mader said:
"I slowly understood why I wasn't happy because I was always expecting a result. ”
Don't care too much about one outcome, and don't have too high requirements and expectations at every turn.
After all, life is always random, and there are indeed impermanences and many kinds of changes.
Therefore, instead of invisibly creating unwarranted pressure on yourself, carrying an inexplicable burden, and making yourself more and more annoyed.
It's better to let go in time, clear distractions, lower expectations, know yourself, and understand yourself.
So, recognize your place and find the exit in life, so that you can know what you want to do and what you are suitable for.
Zeng Guofan said"Saving trouble is the way to purify the heart. ”
When a person finds an exit in life and has a direction in life, he will know what things should be done and what things should not be touched.
In this way, the mind is calm, the heart is at ease, and the troubles will slowly subside.
Stop internal friction
It has been said, "The root of a person's suffering is continuous internal friction." ”
Indeed, there are too many people, too many distractions, too many desires, and too many desires.
Therefore, the more I think about it, the more unwilling I become, the more entangled, and finally more and more tormented and painful.
Mr. Jin Yong wrote in "Tianlong Babu":
"The action is uncertain, and the heart is at ease, which is the place of physical peace. ”
In this life, the background is bitter and lonely.
However, only let yourself let go of the mind of scheming, let go of the desire to succeed or fail.
Then, you can slowly reduce internal friction, stop internal friction, and finally be able to pick up your wishes more calmly and more easily, and find your life goals.
In this way, let go of what should not be there, what is not suitable, and pursue what should be picked up and what should be adhered to.
Only in this way will we be able to go further and more full, and be more and more hopeful.